how's your little one dealing with the new baby?

[FuzzyOne]

mine...not so good. it didn't help that the day we came home from the hospital we found ds puking and having diarrhea - basically his first real illness ever (besides a couple ear infections early on). that was saturday. he threw up for the last time yesterday (tuesday). basically all he does is follow me around and whine, whine, whine. he doesn't talk yet, so it is this whiny grumbling from the time he wakes up until he goes to sleep. he has also been doing a lot more crawling and a lot less walking and just rolling around on the floor. i am spending a lot of time just sitting with him and the new baby on the couch doing nothing. i am being really patient, but inside, it's driving me nuts!

how about you?

[kittn]

no new baby here but i anticipate a huge issue with sammy (2.5)


when aj was born my oldest was 3. it took a liitle while for him to get over the space invader phase but after about 2 weeks it did get better. i think he figured out that baby was here to stay.

is ds involved in helping you, that is supposed to help ease the transition. good luck :

[jstar]

no baby here yet but i'm very nervous about it with isaac who will be turning 3 next weekend. i know he is pretty excited but will also be pretty miffed

[Mindy70]

*hugs* I Have not had the baby yet, but I can totally see how that might happen with ds, who is also non verbal so far. I hope things smooth out soon for him. Do you have help with him at home?

[violets]

My 20 month old is very jealous. he's pulled gabriel off the boob while nursing.
he wants held all the time. If i'm holding gabriel he insists I hold him. he likes to sit in the baby's bouncer and carseat. oh and he uses binkis again.

[~Boudicca~]

My dd is quite the little mama. She loves to be helpful, and is very sweet to her new sister. She is 4 however, and she has no spatial awareness, so she is constantly all elbows and knees, and has wacked the kid in the head 3 times by accident. Other than that, she is handling it better than I thought.

[ex-stasis]

I"ve got a mixture of good and bad here... dd likes to help with the baby, but she also whines constantly and insists on being held any time I am holding Emeth. But she was pretty demanding of me physically at the end of my pregnancy too, so I'm not sure if this behaviour is because of Emeth. she has also developed a new cry that sounds a lot like Emeth's... like she thinks "oh, that's the sound that gets mommy's attention... I'll make that sound!" It is so annoying because she's constantly following me around going "Waa! Waa!" Ugh. And it's not like I'm not paying attention to her... it's just never enough.

[mum4boys]

Fuzzy how old is your son? Poor baby being sick for the first time and getting a new sibling.

My kids are a lot older so in theory they have the verbal skills to express themselves.

My youngest son is teed off that he still cannot lay on me. He tried to the other night and demanded to know how much longer I told him middle of June. Hopefully its not that long but having a c-section & then an infection who knows.

[emiLy]

I think Delia is handling it well. My husband is a huge help and I also have a babysitter/assistant who comes about two days a week from 11-4, who plays with Delia and cleans up a little bit and helps me with my business too. I've also been getting together with my best friend, whose son is Delia's best friend, as often as possible. Delia's three and a half so is older. She doesn't want to help much, which is fine. She does like playing with the bouncy seat - luckily it's a Baby Bjorn one so she's not that much over the weight limit. The worst part is at night when she wants to nurse to sleep. I try to get Henry asleep or at least content, but I don't think there's been a night yet that I haven't had to listen to him crying for a few minutes while she falls asleep. (My husband has Henry during this, and is trying to keep him happy but it doesn't really work!)

I really really try to invite her to play or suggest we play at least once a day, when Henry is asleep and I can put him down somewhere. Even if it's just for 10-20 minutes it seems to go a long way. I think it will get easier as Henry gets more fun, too. Right now, and especially today, it was all about being quiet because it seemed like I was trying to get Henry to sleep a lot today. (I think he has/had gas.)

[clavicula]

nak
my 22 mo is dealing soo well, what a relief! she kisses and hugs her, and helps a lot around her...no problem so far.

[MommyTeesa]

Dd just turned 4 and it's going OK. Like pp, I'm lucky in that, I've had a lot of help so far and she's in a preschool daycare 2 days a week. She thinks he's cute and helps sometimes, but also competes for attention and does things like jump on the couch right near whoever is holding him (I think we've got that stopped ). She did ask me a couple times to put him down yesterday (my first day alone all day with them both) and asks why he sucks so much.

a funny this morning I was nursing him on the bed and she ask if I can take her to school right then - I say "like this?" And she looks me up and down and says "no, silly, you don't have your socks on?" as if she didn't notice DS was nursing and unable to go in the carseat, my breast was exposed, etc. Ah, kids.

[crysmomofthree]

My kids are handling it pretty well

my 24 month old dd is very motherly and doesn't seem put out at all by the baby, not to mention she hasn;t asked ot nurse at all, even though she really only stopped nursing 6 weeks ago. She is very lovey to him and loves to help get him dressed and pick out his diapers

my almost 4 year old ds, is having some behavior outbursts (like no listening and copying what I say to him) but he is really enjoying the baby, and he constantly wants to know why he doesn't have teeth, and when is he going to be able to eat

and my older two boys 8 & 10 really like him and are very helpful

[Eaglevoice]

My dd is going to be 2 in a couple of weeks. I'm nervous to see how things pan out. But I see a couple of you are having positive experiences with dc's that are around the same age.

[crysmomofthree]

Originally Posted by crysmomofthree

My kids are handling it pretty well

my 24 month old dd is very motherly and doesn't seem put out at all by the baby, not to mention she hasn;t asked ot nurse at all, even though she really only stopped nursing 6 weeks ago. She is very lovey to him and loves to help get him dressed and pick out his diapers

my almost 4 year old ds, is having some behavior outbursts (like no listening and copying what I say to him) but he is really enjoying the baby, and he constantly wants to know why he doesn't have teeth, and when is he going to be able to eat

and my older two boys 8 & 10 really like him and are very helpful

Okay I have to say my 4 year old is driving me cuckoo. I can't handle the mocking me when I tell him something, its gotten worse since grandma was here, I guess because she just gives him whatever he wants. But we had to go to my older boys may day celebrations at the park and my 4 year old was so horrific that I had to drag him home kicking and screaming : and now from my super high stress afternoon, Ive gone from no bleeding for three days to a mini hemorrage (okay that's an exageration but there is a lot of blood) not to mention now i'm getting a cold sore and I want to give my 4 year old son up to a nicer family :

[veganbaby]

My DD is 2 years and 8 months. She is very loving to him, but can get quite enthuastic sometimes (aka as too rough). She has assigned which breast is hers and which one is his. She seems to be acting out a little for attention, and wants to be held more. She is very protective of her little brother. We went downstairs to visit our neighbor and the little girl touched his head. She ran and pinched the little girl and told her to be gentle. Now if only she'll follow her own advice.

[bocks_box]

My boys here at day 5 are driving me crazy. They're 4 and 7, and they're mostly very sweet kids, and my husband is giving them lots of attention, but they're pulling stuff like bickering and hitting way more than normal.