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post #21 of 45
maybe it would have been better if you had your baby in one of those car carriers propped on the shopping cart. people seen to have a problem bonding with their baby. i feel so bad for those babies. i had people comment about is the baby dressed warm. that makes me mad too. i dont want your unwanted advise on how to dress my baby.i know i stick out like a thumb when i am shopping and i am wearing my 9 month old. i live in an erea where many affluent mainstrem women shop. i would call the corperate to ask if it is standerd procedures to threaten customers with cps it they dont agree with your baby raising methods.
post #22 of 45
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Originally Posted by bethwl View Post
Call the manager, seriously, and if the store is a large chain, call the corporate offices.

Totally inappropriate and idiotic. Telling me how to dress my child is also a huge pet peeve of mine. A couple years ago I was at the mall on a really warm March day, like 80 degrees. People were wearing short sleeves and jeans, yet some had babies in bucket seats with fleece buntings on. I know I've been caught in too warm/too cool clothes when the seasons are changing, but if you are wearing short sleeves and are comfortable, do you think the baby needs a fleece bunting? Then when these people tell me my baby is underdressed, my blood boils.
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post #23 of 45
does the store employ developmentally challenged individuals? from what you are quoating it sounds so much like someone who has develomental issues. though, of course, i can be wrong, on this. just a hunch.

in any case, hugs

how frustrating. the CPS comment was certainly uncalled for!
post #24 of 45
At the Expensive Baby Crap Store (aka Babies R Us), the cashier said to me "Oh, that one looks really uncomfortable" (my Ergo)

Yes, lady, I carry him around this way because it hurts. Thanks for your input.

Another time at Walmart, I had DS in a front carrier when he was an infant, and a little old grandma walked up to me and said "Oh my God, can he BREATHE?"
post #25 of 45
Oddly, I have mostly gotten good comments around here. A couple of confused ones, one "mama carried you long enough, give her a break!" (at the hfs no less!) but lots of "ooh what a nice comfy ride you have".

"Right lady. They call it an Ergo because it's ergonomically designed to hurt me."

(On a side note, I saw an Ergo live and in person for the first time last night and I'm jealous. : )
post #26 of 45
You have to speak to the manager. It's not ok to touch a person's baby with grubby money hands, but you know I can live with that since I am not germ phobic. On the other hand it is none of a cashiers business how you're carrying a baby and the threat about CPS????!!!! I think I might had made a scene right then. I would follow it up with a letter to their corporate headquarters.

I have a wrap to wear my guy on order because I am sick of not being able to see over the carseat on the shopping cart and I would feel more secure wearing him. (yes I am late to the party but am happy to be here). Even if I didn't feel this way I would never have though people would object to it. Before I had a child I thought it was so sweet to see and made perfect sense. The more I read about people's experience here the more I realize I must live in a bubble a lot of the time because I had no idea people could be so ignorant about some things!
post #27 of 45
I don't even bother trying to explain myself when it comes to whackos like that. I think I would have rolled my eyes and said "Whatever." And completely ignored her until the transaction was over.

Then I would have marched straight up to management and reported the entire conversation, including the CPS remark, to them.

I'm sorry you had to deal with someone like that.
post #28 of 45
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Originally Posted by rainymorning View Post
does the store employ developmentally challenged individuals? from what you are quoating it sounds so much like someone who has develomental issues. though, of course, i can be wrong, on this. just a hunch.

in any case, hugs

how frustrating. the CPS comment was certainly uncalled for!
: The kohl's near us hires a lot of high functioning develkopmentally disabled. At first I thought one of the cashiers was a little wacky until I noticed that there were others like her. If that's the case, I think it's cool and you should let it slide. If not, call the manager.
post #29 of 45
Thread Starter 
Well we, DH and I, went back to the store this afternoon. She is definitely fully functioning. I spoke with the manager who had her apologize to me albeit she seemed reluctant to do so. I also asked that he educate his cashiers about what sort of comments are appropriate and innappropriate.

I still don't think I will be going back into that store anytime soon though.
post #30 of 45
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Originally Posted by JustJamie View Post
I'd have said "The reason I have her in here is so people keep their filthy hands to themselves. If you wouldn't invade an adult's personal space like that, what makes you think it's appropriate with an infant?"

It's especially disgusting for a cashier, someone who has been handling money all day, to touch a baby's hands and cheeks. :Puke
Yay that on the filthy hands thing. I don't go poking them in the face.what makes them think it's ok to touch my kid. :

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Originally Posted by rmzbm View Post
UGGH, this happened to me a few months back - in Walmart. A cashier looked at Avery on DH's back & recoiled in horror - "You're breaking her neck in that thing!" I just said "Thanks, I'm actually here for groceries, not parenting advice." Amazing what they get away with. I called a manager & he didn't care at all. :
Thats just silly.
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Originally Posted by CalenandEllasmomma View Post
Well we, DH and I, went back to the store this afternoon. She is definitely fully functioning. I spoke with the manager who had her apologize to me albeit she seemed reluctant to do so. I also asked that he educate his cashiers about what sort of comments are appropriate and innappropriate.

I still don't think I will be going back into that store anytime soon though.
Good for you!
post #31 of 45
Glad you got some resolution!

I think even if she was developmentally challenged, it would still be appropriate to speak to a manager and ask that some education take place. The manager should be aware of what the employee's capabilities are and should be able to explain things in an appropriate way.
post #32 of 45
Maybe I just look too friendly, but I've had people come up and try to touch my boy while in his carrier. On my chest. Just reach their face and hands inches from his head and my boobs, sometimes while he's eating!
I just let this one comment go, because I've stuck my foot in my mouth on occasions, and I don't think the girl was intending offense. I was holding my son and trying to manipulate my wallet to pay for groceries and keep an eye on my nephew and niece (9,6). The cashier says to me and the bagboy, 'what a cute little baby. with that blonde hair and blue eyes, he's a little aryan baby.' to the bagboy, 'do you know what an aryan is?' he seems uncomfortable and shrugs no, i'm thinking what?? and she says, 'you know, like hitler' and i'm uncomfortable thinking, did she just associate my cute little bundle of baby with hitler because he's white and blonde/blue? what is this going to mean in the future?
But, at least she didn't try to touch him!
post #33 of 45
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Originally Posted by LivingPacifier View Post
The cashier says to me and the bagboy, 'what a cute little baby. with that blonde hair and blue eyes, he's a little aryan baby.' to the bagboy, 'do you know what an aryan is?' he seems uncomfortable and shrugs no, i'm thinking what?? and she says, 'you know, like hitler' and i'm uncomfortable thinking, did she just associate my cute little bundle of baby with hitler because he's white and blonde/blue? what is this going to mean in the future?
But, at least she didn't try to touch him!
OHHHHH MY GOOOOOD!!!! I dont know wether to laugh or cry my eyes out!!! My son has blonde hair and brown eyes and that always ellicites comments... Thats just sad and pathetic!!!!

On the touching bebe while in carrier thing...yeah whats up with that! I normally back carry ds and i'll STILL have people touch him...it drives me insane...sure its probably less than if he was in a stroller...but youd think that he's on my body...people wouldnt invade the personal space...oi vey!

Umm Ibrahim

post #34 of 45
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Originally Posted by LivingPacifier View Post
Maybe I just look too friendly, but I've had people come up and try to touch my boy while in his carrier. On my chest. Just reach their face and hands inches from his head and my boobs, sometimes while he's eating!
I just let this one comment go, because I've stuck my foot in my mouth on occasions, and I don't think the girl was intending offense. I was holding my son and trying to manipulate my wallet to pay for groceries and keep an eye on my nephew and niece (9,6). The cashier says to me and the bagboy, 'what a cute little baby. with that blonde hair and blue eyes, he's a little aryan baby.' to the bagboy, 'do you know what an aryan is?' he seems uncomfortable and shrugs no, i'm thinking what?? and she says, 'you know, like hitler' and i'm uncomfortable thinking, did she just associate my cute little bundle of baby with hitler because he's white and blonde/blue? what is this going to mean in the future?
But, at least she didn't try to touch him!
post #35 of 45
i think its a ua violation to say what i wouldve said and done...
post #36 of 45
Some of you guys had me cracking up, I wish I was so witty sometimes. I've never had anyone say anything about carrying Ilana or Evan and I have several carriers. I have a homemade Moby and the first week I wore it out, I had about 5 people stop me to ask where they could get one too! It was great. I have been a cashier and a bank teller and the thought of touching a baby after doing those jobs, makes me squirm, money is NASTY!
post #37 of 45
I work in a major grocery chain, in the Deli to be specific. What that cashier said would have gotten one of our people into major trouble. We've had people written up for even less then that. I can't imagine anyone not getting in trouble for even a veiled threat like that.


While my kids are too old to be worn, and when they were small enough I did not know about stuff like that, even then I never would have said ANYTHING like that to a mother who was wearing her baby. (Knowing me and my curiousity, I would have asked about it actually LOL)
post #38 of 45
I like to talk to babies when I'm standing in line behind them. They ALWAYS respond well.....so what is the deal with feeling the need to touch? Especially today, when it's not OK to touch ANY stranger without permission? What an odd experience!
post #39 of 45
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Originally Posted by LivingPacifier View Post
Maybe I just look too friendly, but I've had people come up and try to touch my boy while in his carrier. On my chest. Just reach their face and hands inches from his head and my boobs, sometimes while he's eating!
I just let this one comment go, because I've stuck my foot in my mouth on occasions, and I don't think the girl was intending offense. I was holding my son and trying to manipulate my wallet to pay for groceries and keep an eye on my nephew and niece (9,6). The cashier says to me and the bagboy, 'what a cute little baby. with that blonde hair and blue eyes, he's a little aryan baby.' to the bagboy, 'do you know what an aryan is?' he seems uncomfortable and shrugs no, i'm thinking what?? and she says, 'you know, like hitler' and i'm uncomfortable thinking, did she just associate my cute little bundle of baby with hitler because he's white and blonde/blue? what is this going to mean in the future?
But, at least she didn't try to touch him!
I take it she hasn't seen any pictures of Hitler
post #40 of 45
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Originally Posted by lyttlewon View Post
I take it she hasn't seen any pictures of Hitler
TOTALLY!! What an ...UA violation...
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