Move it along folks no baby to see here

[PapayaMom]

So my inlaws keep hinting at the fact that memorial day weekend would be a really great and convenient time for them to come visit and meet the new baby. Perhaps I haven't made it clear THERE IS NO BABY YET. Do you really want to come and see my 40+5 week preggo belly? Do you really want to spend all that money on last minute airfare with the chance that there will be nothing to see? WHy why why are they doing this to me? Not to mention they are uncomfortable around nursing babes, don't really like playing with dd and in general are very needy when they come up here, they want to go to the mall, go out for every meal, go do lots of things. All on their schedule with little regard for naps, and what OUR daily schedule is. I have suggested that mid-June would be a better time, there will definitely be a baby by then, I will hopefully have a few weeks under my belt to at least attempt to do some of the things they want to do. But it always comes back "so what about memorial day?"

ok my rant is over thanks for listening.

[JanB]

Just keep politely saying no and suggesting a later date. It's the only thing that works with my pushy MIL. I've discovered that after years of living on her own (her husband died 25 years ago) she is incapable of taking a subtle hint. So when she starts saying, "I think I'll visit in [insert date that totally doesn't work for us]", we just say, "That date doesn't work for us, how about later?" until she finally backs off. She's a sweet lady, she just has trouble taking no for an answer. So I feel your pain.

[crysmomofthree]

sounds like here too

before baby came I made it very clear to my mil that she shouldn't come to visit until baby was 2 weeks old, because before then I would not want other people holding him, and her visit would be more with the older kids than getting to know her new grandson. She's here visiting right now he was two weeks old yesterday, although she has been here all week so she didn't really listen to me but this time was much better than with the other babies

I think you just need to be really clear, I can't believe they want to book flights, to visit when there isn't even a baby yet! not to mention in the first few days there is no way you'll be up to visiting while your still trying to get nursing established

[EFPookie]

Mine will be here Memorial Day weekend - my fault not theirs though. Just really hoping there's someone to see - well, you know besides the 6 other people who already live at my house. ;-)