Look, who are these people irl 'judging' the ffers? I've never said it was 'poison', I've never laid bs on ffing aquaintances-there are jerks everywhere, and a very minute percentage of 'lactivists' are included in that bunch.
Whereas jerky people irl often talk smack about (and to) bfers. of This whole argument is revolving around some straw tit. I have never met one person in my life that went around saying rude things to ffers. It's the freaking majority in this culture, I'm supposed to believe rude lactivists are everywhere, dumping on the women who can't bf?
If you are statistically unfortunate enough to run into one genuinely asshattish lactivist, is it going to lead you to what- stop feeding your child? What power do they have over you (unlike novice bfers who can easily be bullied & shamed in this culture out of successful nursing entirely)?
The power they held over me was that it made me feel an even more horrible of a woman, mother, etc, because I couldn't breastfeed and the many women that would come up to me didn't even do it in a caring supportive way. They didn't care about what my story or was going on in my life, they only wanted to push their opinion, without having any compassion or kindness. I also had PPD at the time, and this made hearing those things 5,000 worse.
Out of the many there were maybe 5 or 6 women who did so with compassion and caring. They at least were interested in why I had to FF unlike many others who just accused me of lying.
I believe that women who BF should be able to NIP without snarky comments, stares, gestures etc. So why shouldn't someone who FF be granted that same courtesy? Especially when one knows nothing of their situation?