doc wants to induce for no reason except "due date"! help!! - Page 3

[jstar]

my due date with ds1 was may 15th and he was born may 26 maybe tomorrow is your big day!



my doc was talking induction on may 27 so i was soooooo happy to go into labor on my own. you're so close to the end every day has a higher and higher chance labor will start

i might try the breast pump method myself

[Danelle78]

Originally Posted by tofutti

you guys are the best!!

the doc actually apologized to me and told me she understood my issues with the whole "memorial day" bull*$&^# runaround....((its difficult because she really has been a good doc up until now. which makes it so much harder to stand up to her, KWIM!?))

the nst was PERFECT. in the elevator up to the appt. a random lady asked me how far along i was, and i told her "due last week." she said "REALLY? BUT YOU ARE SMALL, HONEY!"

ah ha! interesting, huh. ((keep in mind i am not a small person by any means, but my belly is not crazy out of proportion...i don't look "overdue" or even "uncomfortable" which only adds to my personal view that i am JUST FINE DAMNIT!))

i like the idea of telling them on monday "oh i am in labor, i dont need to come in!" and then the next day, if i am not, just say "wow, it just stopped. sorry about that!" to buy myself some time.

i did some intense acupuncture yesterday, and was advised by the acupuncture doc to use my electric breast pump, that it brought on her first labor in about an hour -- so i am scared but i am gonna give it a try. i also have been losing my plug, having contractions, etc etc. so.

we shall see.

thank you again, lovely smart ladies of mdc.

deb

In the same boat with you, except my OB isn't pushing anything. And nothing I'm doing at home is working. Baby isn't the least bit engaged, and is perfectly happy where she is. We're pretty sure now that the due date is completely WRONG and an estimate is just that. Did you chart? Look back and see if you can find yourself any leeway. That's how I've bought time with my OB. And at this point, even if she wanted to schedule an induction, I wouldn't show up.

[tofutti]

hey danelle and all

unfortunately i had an IUI, charted, and took and OPK to pinpoint the exact MOMENT (practically) of ovulation.

so it is indeed the correct date, darn it!!!!!

i am leaning heavily toward doing the induction monday night. monday night will only be the cervadil and hopefully thats the "nudge" my body needs..........she wasnt going to start pitocin or break water til tuesday.

my fear is that though my ultrasound was perfect, at each visit, i noticed i lost a few pounds (total) over last week. and something i just read said this can be a bad sign (declining placenta/fluid?!) then again it could be from my super diareeah the past week. yay!

anyway -- my mother and my MIL say tonights the night. so i am holding them accountable!!!!!!!!!!!!

[JanB]

Hmm. I lost 4 pounds the week before I delivered the baby and nobody at my OB's office said word one about it. (Well, except to say, "Huh, you lost four pounds!")

But... I hope that it happens for you before your induction date! Maybe tonight could be the night -- moms and MILs sometimes have a sixth sense about these things. Mine accurately called my delivery date three whole weeks in advance.

[tofutti]

jan

thanks for that

yeah my doc didnt mention the weight loss either but at this point i dont excactly trust her :

[eclipse]

All three of my pregnancies, I was weighed and lost 3-5 lbs in the days before delivering. I think weight loss is probably a good sign that your body is moving towards labor.

[tofutti]

jeri, that is fascinating!!!!! and good news!!!!!

i wonder what the reason would be for that!?

off to google it

[crysmomofthree]

Originally Posted by tofutti

jeri, that is fascinating!!!!! and good news!!!!!

i wonder what the reason would be for that!?

off to google it

I've read that its normal and very common to lose a couple pounds in the last weeks of pregnancy I did I lost 3 pounds at my last visit before my son was born

[ktbug]

I've been following your story since you posted, and first, I just want to say *hugs* to you - what you're doing is hard enough without jerk doctors and people generally just misunderstanding how the whole thing works. I really hope you're going into labor on your own - it sounds like it's beginning - and I have the highest hopes for you to have a healthy, natural birth.

That said - if that is indeed what you want - don't be scared. Your body knows what to do. It really does!! I wanted to tell you that when I was induced with DS, they told me "we'll just try a little of this and hopefully that will work", stuff like that: "this should put you over the edge" ... well, when I showed up at the hospital after PROM 24+hours, all that Cervidil talk went right out the window. It was straight to the Pit for me. And when I asked them if they would please just start small with the Pit dose and see if that kicked off labor, they said they would, and then totally ignored my wishes and came in to crank up the dose every 30 minutes just like they would have anyway.

I could go on and on, babe. I'm not going to. I didn't have a c-section, thankfully, but without DP there I'm not sure I could say that. Regardless, I just want you to know that they don't always do what they say they're going to do, and as long as you think you're ok and you think the baby's ok; as long as your BPPs are looking good, hold out. Don't go to the hospital until you're in full-blown, 3-4mins apart labor. They want to intervene, and going to the hospital before labor has started is a surefire way to get all the interventions in the world thrown at you. Stay CALM, RELAX - at home - and I have to echo what 100 other posters have said: You are not beholden to their demands. The doctors work for YOU, not the other way around. They cannot refuse to help you have your baby, and they cannot order you to do it their way.

Huge and best of luck to you. I hope to be reading good news here very soon!!

[jakesmama]

In the Mothering book on pregnancy that I have it says that weight loss is a sign of early or pre labor....good news! Maybe your mom is right!

Hang in there and hugs!

[richella]

Originally Posted by jakesmama

weight loss is a sign of early or pre labor....good news! Maybe your mom is right!

My MW said this too. She thought it a good sign that I didn't gain any weight in the last week. And I have lots of fluid.

[veganbaby]

Sending you labour vibes! Good luck!!!!!

[InPhoenix]

Originally Posted by tofutti

hey danelle and all

u
my fear is that though my ultrasound was perfect, at each visit, i noticed i lost a few pounds (total) over last week. and something i just read said this can be a bad sign (declining placenta/fluid?!) then again it could be from my super diareeah the past week. yay!

Didn't your OB check your fluids during the ultrasound? That would be routine if you're overdue. You might ask him/ her about it because if it wasn't mentioned, I'd bet it's because your amniotic fluid is fine. I lost four or five pounds during my last few weeks of pregnancy; from what I've read, that's not unusual.

[tofutti]

hey y'all - nothing yet....

WHY IS MY BODY NOT WORKING!!!!!!!! why do i have contractions that GO NOWHERE!!!!!!??????????????

I AM GETTING SO FRUSTRATED and worried, scared, etc etc

7 pm tonight i am going in for the cervadil (unless by some MIRACLE i am dilated/effaced enough, then i can come back in the am for breaking water and or pitocin)

AAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH

i feel that its the right thing to do but i am very unhappy. well swinging between unhappiness, and trying to keep emotions light/numb, trying not to imagine anything except for the next minute.

going to work with the breast pump all day til then.

thanks for your support!!!!

---deb-----

[Synchro246]

Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital

If I were you, I would not show up for that induction. If you're still pregnant come Monday, turn the phone off, relax and do not show up for that induction. Wait until labor begins on its own and then go to the hospital. No matter what, under the EMTALA laws, your doctor cannot refuse to help you give birth.
This is your birth, your body, your baby, honey you need to take control and don't let anyone, not a doctor or nurse or your mother or best friend or anyone, tell you that you have to do what they say. Be strong!

Ditto that this is great advice.

Originally Posted by tofutti

ah ha! interesting, huh. ((keep in mind i am not a small person by any means, but my belly is not crazy out of proportion...i don't look "overdue" or even "uncomfortable" which only adds to my personal view that i am JUST FINE DAMNIT!))

deb

Originally Posted by tofutti

i am leaning heavily toward doing the induction monday night. monday night will only be the cervadil and hopefully thats the "nudge" my body needs..........she wasnt going to start pitocin or break water til tuesday.

Originally Posted by tofutti

WHY IS MY BODY NOT WORKING!!!!!!!! why do i have contractions that GO NOWHERE!!!!!!??????????????

I AM GETTING SO FRUSTRATED and worried, scared, etc etc

7 pm tonight i am going in for the cervadil (unless by some MIRACLE i am dilated/effaced enough, then i can come back in the am for breaking water and or pitocin)

AAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH

i feel that its the right thing to do but i am very unhappy. well swinging between unhappiness, and trying to keep emotions light/numb, trying not to imagine anything except for the next minute.

going to work with the breast pump all day til then.

thanks for your support!!!!

---deb-----

Ok, which is it? Do you truely feel normal and healthy or do you truely think your body is failing (even though it just made the incredibly complex organism that is your baby)?
If you want to be induced, that's fine--I'm not trying to talk you out of it. I am trying to talk you out of rationalizing it. My advice right now is to pray/meditate/contempate/whatever about your body & about the induction. If you *really* feel good about inducing then go for it, but if you have doubts or reservations or a bad feeling about it DON'T do it even though it's hard. Does that make sense? Now is an important time to really listen to your gut and follow your instincts.

FWIW I believe that it's very unlikely that your body "isn't working".
I also believe that those contractions do not "go nowhere". They just don't result in a baby right away. They are important contractions. They accomplish things--EVEN if those things cannot be measured with gloved fingers.

Oh and I wanted to say--if you do do the cervidil you can repeat it a few times if you don't want to go down pit road immediately. Sometimes it takes multiple doses to ripen a cervix anyway and you shouldn't do pit UNTIL your cervix is definitly ripe.

BTW, how have things been with your partner? Have you guys been loving with eachother (in general--I don't necessisarily mean sex)?

[tofutti]

ONE HOUR TO GO.

i dont know what i feel anymore.........: its hard to trust my body. i feel that maybe my hormones just are out of wack and i dont know how to signal my body to begin labor. or my mind is just too scared of everything to let myself "start" labor. i have always been terrified of hospitals so that is not helping me be rational in the least.

then again maybe we have no control at all, maybe we just think we do.

the good news is dh has been extra supportive and wonderful thru all of this. good question, btw.

i am comforted in that i got to 42 weeks, comforted that all i might need is a "nudge," comforted that i have a good doula. comforted that all this pre labor is helping me in the long run. comforted that i can always leave after my exam in one hour. the hospital said if i am dialted to 3 they wont make me take the cervidil and i will come home.

deb

[Willzmama]

It's so good that you have a doula and a supportive DH! You will be FINE!

[Eaglevoice]

I hope everything goes well for you, deb!!!!!

[MommyTeesa]

Good to hear from you, been thinking of you all day. Here's hoping you just need a tiny nudge.

[mum4boys]

GOOD LUCK, sending you positive labor vibes.