Ways to show love to DH/DP with a new baby in the house....

[LilMomma83]

Hey...first time mommy here!

I just love DH so much ...and I know he knows it, but I feel like I am not devoting the time and attention to him that I could before our baby arrived...mostly because whenever the baby falls asleep I want to sleep - but I also really want to show my feelings to DH!

I know I cannot be the only one who feels this way...let's come up with ideas of managable ways to show our DH's/DP's love!

Here are a few...

Sit next to him while nursing the baby, talk to him for a few minutes before going to sleep or in the car, ask him what his needs/desires are - and try to meet at least 1-2 of them....

What ideas do you have???

[attachedmamaof3]

Write a love note and stick it in the pocket of his work pants/jacket/shirt.

Send him a love text message (if you have cell phone or something).

Get some wine/cheese/crackers to eat while you stay up and watch the late show together on the living room floor.

In the off-off chance the baby is asleep, take a shower together.

Again, in the off-off chance the baby is asleep, see if he'll let you shave him. More intimate than you think...and if you are as horrible at it as I was, it's something funny to look back on and laugh together about!

Tell him you love him often.

If you have the money to spare, surprise him with a massage at a man spa. (I did this and he was VERY scared since he'd never done this before, but went and they gave him beer while they did the pedicure and they had sports on and he had a great time!! I found and paid for it online and surprised him with it.)

[UltimateSerj]

with 4 kids there isn't much time now but watching a show or movie together after our big kids re in bed, or just laying in bed talking in the middle of the day, holding hands while out, a hug and kiss while baby actually lets me put her down. sending emails to each other or texts or even instant messages
ok baby says no more typing!

oh let me know if you want to meet up any time! i was at city park the other day and thought of you

[gardenmommy]

Originally Posted by UltimateSerj

with 4 kids there isn't much time now but watching a show or movie together after our big kids re in bed, or just laying in bed talking in the middle of the day, holding hands while out, a hug and kiss while baby actually lets me put her down. sending emails to each other or texts or even instant messages
ok baby says no more typing!

oh let me know if you want to meet up any time! i was at city park the other day and thought of you

Yup, that about sums up my thoughts, too. We just don't have much time to be "intimate" at this point. My Dh, who has been through this 3 times already, knows that this is just a stage, it passes, and then we get to be lovers again. He is patient, knowing that it is not my intention to ignore him, just that I really do need to sleep more right now.

Be gentle with yourself. Send him love notes in his lunch (if he takes one), call him in the middle of the day just to tell him how much you respect his care of you and your family, make sure to give him a hug and smooch when he gets home. Find 10 min. (even if you are holding the baby) where you can really listen to how his day went. Make sure you communicate daily how much you appreciate and respect him (be specific here!).

The time will come when you can really devote more time to your marriage. For the moment, just make sure that you maintain it.