I disagree. I think wherever you read that statistic it was highly incorrect. Based on all my experiences in life. Oldest of over 35 cousins (I stopped counting), sister to 3 siblings, mother of 5, and talking with many friends. Many babies need to be comforted back to sleep well into the second year. It varies greatly by child and is not determined by breastfeeding or co-sleeping in my experience. BABIES DO NOT WAKE UP JUST BECAUSE THEIR MILK, or chocolate cake, IS NEARBY. That might make sense to me if I had never experienced differently but that is just not so. In my experience they wake for reassurance and comfort.
I will just give my examples:
1st DD, weaned at 4 months, only co-slept first few weeks, slept in crib and then toddler bed started co-sleeping again at around 3 years old and she started actually sleeping through the night then, woke through the night until around 3 years old.
2nd DD, weaned at 6 months, never co-slept as she seemed to want to sleep alone and i had actually wanted to co-sleep as i was starting to learn better parenting, woke through the night until around 4 years old.
3rd DD, weaned at 3 1/2 years, co-slept, night nursed, woke through the night till around 4 years old.
4th DD, weaned at 4 years old, co-slept later on but we did The No Cry Sleep Solution from the start until we realized it didn't work for us, night nursed but then night weaned around 16 months causing much distress and little sleep for everyone, woke through the night until 4 years old.
5th DS, still nursing, he nightweaned himself and this was a big surprise to me!!!, most nights he sleeps through the night already and he is only 2. he usually moves to another spot far away from everyone on the bed and falls back to sleep. it is only about once every few weeks now that he will come over for a cuddle.
Now, when I say woke through the night until a certain age I am including down to once a night. It was pretty much hourly at 12-16 months. It seems to be a stage and a pattern I noticed in all my children. It gradually decreased until they were waking just once a night and soothing themselves back to sleep. The more you keep reassuring him you are there with his greatest comfort, in his case nursing, the more he will realize sleeping is safe and okay and he will get there and stay there on his own sooner then you know.
Originally Posted by Kids&dog
I'd have to agree with you on this. I don't think it's normal that your child needs to be nursed/comforted back to sleep at 14 mnths. I read a statistic once and can't quote it verbatim, but it said something to the effect that about 90% of babies sleep through the night by 12 mos. Even if I'm off by a few percentage points, I've got the gist of that correct. BUT, who really cares what's normal or not? If the situation is not working for you and your child, I'd try to remedy it.
I wonder about this sort of thing a lot lately. I have a 2 1/2 yr old who has always been a champ of a sleeper, sleeping through the night by 2 mos. and now I have a 2 mo old who doesn't. I'm doing all the same stuff with both, but both kids are reacting to my parenting differently. So, I'm a case in point that all kids are different, and therefore, there's no one answer for all.
In fact, I'd be very curious to see if anyone has polled the AP parents on this site to see how many babies sleep through the night when they co-sleep and how many don't. My guess is (to use an analogy), if there is chocolate cake available everytime a baby wakes up, the baby will continue to wake up.