I'm well aware that the internet is for slandering others anonymously, so to you I must say, Bravo/a!
None of you all know me, and yet you are able to call me an abusive parent, a rapist, a monster, et all. You know about my insecurities and my ego, and my need for my child to 'look like daddy' to make up for my yearning for my lost foreskin.
So for nailing someone you dont know, again, bravo/a.
But maybe you should know a little about me:
I worried tons about whether to circ or not circ. I was (am) worried about hyperspadia. I felt pushed in either direction concerning circ when my son was born, and felt like there was no right answer (still do).
Asked around for advice and support to not circ, but didnt get any at that time. The closest I came was my friend who is circ, but his brother is not. The friend chose not to circ, and told me if his son ever asked advice about being non-circ, he would say to talk to his brother.
Just a note: if I was to come to this site looking for support to not circ'ing when I was, this thread would not have been the place. So f'n nasty stuff that made me feel like poop and that I can do no good.
I do feel like I made the wrong choice with my first son. I watched the Penn and Teller BullS**t show and felt even worse afterwards. But the issue I am having now is that I feel I dont have the words/advice to give my upcoming son about why he is not circ'd while my first son is. I know I'll never 'have' the words until the situation comes up, and coming to this site isn't helping me any. I feel attacked (now I've waited two weeks to write anything back so I could cool down, but I still feel attacked). I feel like I was being judged by people who knew nothing about me. I was made to feel like an a-hole.
And if that was your intention with your responses, then congrats!
Are you the father the OP was referring to?
I think you should re-read our posts and realize that although some are heated and emotional, they are not "slander" and attacks but legitimate arguments about why some people feel compelled to use the "look like daddy" argument.