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post #21 of 23
Wonderful! So glad that you were able to communicate and get a plan worked out. And I bet it really will relieve her concerns to see you interacting with you DSS.

(BTW, I've noticed with my ex that sometimes we almost have to get a disagreement out of the way to clear the air before we can come to a cooperative agreement. I think that in part it's because we both have such strong views and are coming from whatever power structures we have, and have to break that down. So I can imagine how your conversation went, I've been there!)
post #22 of 23
I'm happy to hear your update! Congrats to you on finding a way to make peace, even if it's just a small step.
post #23 of 23
It's amazing how powerful talking something out can be, isn't it? Glad thinks are looking up.

Something I say alot (because it is easy for people to forget when they are pissed and angry) is that a lot of sh*tty behavior is caused by fear and pain.

When you can get someone to talk to you about why they are being mean or difficult, you often find that the heart of it is that they are afraid of something or are being hurt by something. Just like pets, we lash out when we are hurt and afraid!

Understanding that sometimes makes it easier to ask the right questions when you are trying to solve a conflict. So "good job"!
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