Originally Posted by lilyka
a lot of homeschool kids are kinda weird. They have not been forced into conformity. Weird is reletive. eventually that creativity and differentness will be a valueble assest.
and there are also a lot of weird kids in PS also. they are just busy hiding fromthe bullies.
Yes, and I always wonder if many people who homeschool are the kind of people who are a bit unconventional themselves. I didn't choose to homeschool for bullying fears, although I could have since I was tormented and bullied in ps for being "weird" and introverted ("snobby" they said).
But my own family lovingly calls me "weird". My dh calls me "eccentric". I am open-minded to unconventional things. I have zero desire to fit in with anyone or to conform just for the sake of doing what everyone else does. Subsequently, my kids not only get some of their personality traits from my genes but they are also being raised in an environment where their parents make unconventional choices and don't care about conforming. This describes MANY homeschoolers I know, btw, people of all walks of life.
Sometimes, I think that public school parents must represent more of a Bell Curve, since they have the most numbers. And I think that homeschooling parents must be a somewhat self-selected crowd. So, I'm probably not saying this clearly at this time of the morning, there probably is a higher degree of weirdness in the hs group, but this weirdness would have otherwise been in the public school sector. I don't think homeschooling really causes weirdness but it probably just gives already existing weirdness an equal opportunity to exist, whereas it would be stomped on in public school.
Personally, I like being weird. After 30 something years, I have come to embrace my weirdness. If everyone jumped off the Brooklyn Bridge or started binding their feet for fashion, I would not follow. I think for myself and I don't care what the other Moms are doing or what they think about me. I'm raising my kids the same way: be whoever you want to be and feel good about it. They would have been weird public school kids too except that they would have crappy self-esteem from all the tormenting. The choice isn't between weirdness and coolness. It's between creativity and conformity. And it's between development of self and hating of self. It's between being who one naturally is and hiding who one naturally is. To me, that's no choice at all.