Originally Posted by dharmamama
I'll tell you what really makes me
and I can say it all because it's about my sister, who not only has never even heard of the word frugality and so would never be stopping by a frugal forum but also hates all kids (mine included) and would therefore never, ever visit MDC.
My sister is a SAHM ... to her dogs. She takes her dogs to a doggy playgroup. She takes her dogs to a doggy beauty salon. She has a little doggy bike trailer so she can take them on little doggy bike rides. When they lived where it snowed, her doggies had little dog snow booties, snow coats, and hats. One of her doggies has little doggy allergies so she gives him doggy allergy pills. When one of her doggies suddenly went psycho and attacked the other one, she gave the dog little doggy antipsychotics.
I swear to you all, she spends more on her doggies in one month than I spend on my children all year.
It makes me want to :Puke
I have a dog. I'm a Buddhist. I consider all sentient creatures valuable. But come on ... they're DOGS! A doggy salon?? A PLAYGROUP???
ETA: I posted before I read ehcor's post. So yeah, I probably do sound like a bitter witch. But what really honks me off about my sister is that they don't give one dime to charity. I can't stand it that there are people suffering in this world and dogs are getting $100 groomings. I. can't. stand. it.
|I have two kids adopted from Ethiopia. One of them is HIV+. Most Ethiopians live on less than $1 a day. Yes, it bothers me that people give money to dogs instead of to people. We are living in the midst of a pandemic of proportions never before seen in human history, and dogs are getting $100 haircuts. If all that money that people give to the Humane Society went to Ethiopia, maybe my kids' parents wouldn't have died from HIV. I *know* that it's not that simple, but yes, I get really infuriated that people pamper their pets while humans are starving the world over. It's probably not rational, but there you have it.
You know-it could be easy for someone to say that the money spent on adoption (travel costs, medical care, toys/clothes after they arrived, whatever) could have been better divvied up to feed and care for more people instead of enriching your life with your kids. Would you honestly give a damn? I doubt it--and I personally feel they would deserve to be told to go to hell.
And there are lots of people who spend a lot of $$$ on their very privileged American kids who wouldn’t think twice before rejecting the idea of diverting their resources away from their babies to feed and give medical care to others halfway around the world—do you save any of your outrage for them?
It’s fine if someone is bothered by what I spend on my dogs—they’re entitled. It really doesn’t affect me except to inspire me to do even more.
Out of the $40,000 or so we gave to charity last year, around 75% of that went to dog rescue groups. The rest was dispersed amongst groups like Planned Parenthood, The North Carolina Justice Center, and other orgs. This was a low year for us in terms of charitable giving (we were paying cash for my MBA at a private uni.). Not only do we not regret a single penny, but we also plan to allocate 90% to dog-only organizations this year. As a woman of color, who grew up working class in the Deep South (and who married somebody from a similar socio-economic background, except he's white), who’s never been given anything, I’m seriously proud of how I choose to spend my household’s money now that we have it to spend. But even if we didn’t give one cent to charity, or have very secure retirement/investment plans, a solid marriage and zero real debt, etc, I still wouldn’t be asking for anyone’s permission to spend my money how I choose.