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post #21 of 50
Oh, my births were *definitely* more painful than AF. I hope I didn't imply otherwise. It's just too different to compare. I'm happy to reach for an Advil or 3 the first couple of days of my period. I used to get cramps that kept me home from school when I was a teenager, but labor was till more painful. It was just very DIFFERENT. It's kind of like, what hurts more, labor or a migraine? Well, they're very different and impossible to compare - labor isn't like ANYTHING else you will ever go through.
post #22 of 50
I've had period pains that I'd choose labour over!! Seriously.. being on your period can make you so sensitive even you skin hurts and you just feel so wimpy and vulnerable. Have you ever played sports? Or trained physically to a high degree? If you've ever played soccer for example, thinking about how you feel when you're in the middle of a game, your adrenaline is rushing your muscles are pumped and you're running as hard as you can after the ball and collide with someone and go flying into a CRAZY tumble where you wipe out with multiple grazes etc. You barely feel it. Ok later in the week you're limping and covered in bruises and sores but at the time it's nothing, it's exhilarating.. the same thing (imo) happens in labour. It's definitely not comparable to dealing with pain in a normal state.
post #23 of 50
My DD always experienced horrible cramps with her period. When she was having her baby, the nurse kept offering her an epidural, which she kept refusing. The anesthesiologist came in, and in typical anesthesiologist fashion, told her she had to get the epidural now or it would be too late. My DD, who by this point was as annoyed as can be after arguing with him for 15minutes during transitional labour, shouted, "I've had f***ing period cramps worse than this! I didn't see you offering me an epidural then, did I?"

So he left, and the nurse backed off. She turned to me, grabbed my hand, and said, "Mommy, can I have a Tylenol? This really hurts!"

She had the baby less than 15 minutes later.
post #24 of 50
One of the reasons that I chose to give birth naturally, and will do so again, is because, to be completely truthful, I am terrified of the pain involved in hospital "assistance". I had a spinal (which is much like an epidural but higher on the spine) and a large gage IV put in my hand. Because I had all of these things (along with a catheter that took 3 tries to be put in because the nurse was inept, and being very cold, and a dozen other discomforts I could list) all I remember about the birth is how much it hurt and how uncomfortable it was. With my next child I chose to have her at home, w/ just my DH in attendence. Labor was almost enjoyable, because it was a mix of the contractions and the excitement of knowing the time was almost upon us. The hard part of my home birth lasted about 20-30 minutes, during transition and pushing. The hard part of my hospital birth lasted from the first blood test until the moment they released me from all of the machines after the birth (not counting the years of after effects of having ended up w/ a cesarean)

Imagine the difference between having pain, and being forced to lie still in a cold room with needles poked in you, and having pain. Also you have to factor in the added interventions that go along with an epidural, as well as the humiliating things about hospital birth that many nurses and doctors take for granted. For me, pain is much easier to handle if I can move around into the most comfortable positions for it, which is pretty hard to do in most hospital settings, especially when they have you set up on an IV and planning an epi.
post #25 of 50
I would always have to take Advil for period cramps b/c they were so bad and I also worried that I wouldn't be able to give brith w/o drugs b/c I 'wimped out' every month and took the Advil.

Well, I've had NCB twice and am about to do it again. As pps have said, the two are not the same at all. I never had any break in period cramps, but there are breaks during contractions. PLus, depending on things like the position of the baby and relaxation of the mother, contractions aren't necessarily painful -- intense, yes, but not always painful.
post #26 of 50
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Originally Posted by fishface View Post
I had a period like that once before. A few years ago I woke up in the middle of the night CRYING from period pain. Sometimes I get faint cramps, but RARELY anything remotely painful and this was EXCRUCIATING. I somehow made it down to my bathroom (I lived in the attic) and ripped it apart looking for Aleve or Advil or ANYTHING. A hammer would have been handy. I rolled around in my bed in total misery and no position helped. I somehow managed to fall back asleep and all pain was gone by the time I woke up in the morning.

Me too. Just one time. When I did get pregnant, a cyst was found. (It eventually went away on its own during my successful pregnancy) I think that might be what caused all the pain. Something to look in to...
post #27 of 50
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post #28 of 50
I was thinking about this post in the shower this morning. I have a pretty high tolerance for pain, but I always take an Aleve as soon as my period comes (before the crams start) so I started to wonder if I was actually kidding myself about natural childbirth.

Then I thought of it this way. What if I didn't have to go to work/clean the house/study/work on my thesis/etc. and I could sit in bed and drink refreshing beverages and eat fruit and visualize getting rid of the cramps? Would they be so bad then?
post #29 of 50
I have bad/heavy/painful periods when not on BCP.

I never worried about my ability to birth without pain meds, htough. The two just never connected for me, I guess.

I got to 100% effaced and 4 cms dialated before ever even feeling a single contraction. I had my baby 2 hours later with no pain meds.

It can totally be dopne, but you need to be in the mental space to do it. If you think you can't, then you're right, you won't be able to. But if you believe in your body's ability to birth naturally, and trust your body, and have good support, you can give yourself a much better chance to do it naturally.
post #30 of 50
Slightly ot, but if you keep having early losses maybe you should be checked for hypothyroid and pcos. It would be a good idea to at least get progesterone looked at while you're m/cing to see if that's a factor.
post #31 of 50
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Originally Posted by GathererGirl View Post
(I'll be going to midwife but will birth in a hospital, husband mightnot even be there, I don't have a mother or sister, we can't afford a doula...so it'll just be me, panting and groaning alone) I do worry about how I'll do.

You may be able to find a doula in training who needs to attend births for her certification - for free. It's worth investigating!
post #32 of 50
I used to have really bad period pain, and actually, the labor pains I had between about 4 and 5 cm were about like my period cramps. But then the back labor kicked in, which was nothing like period cramps, so I can't compare. But really, try not to worry about it too much. Some women get light cramps and can't understand why us other women are complaining, and the women with bad cramps are thinking they must be wimps. I don't think it really has much to do with how well you'll manage the pain of labor. For one thing, period cramps are much more annoying because they are POINTLESS! Labor pains are actually productive and you know with each one you are closer.
post #33 of 50
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Originally Posted by bandgeek View Post
But then the back labor kicked in, which was nothing like period cramps, so I can't compare.
Interesting...Almost all of my crampiness (is that a word?) with AF is in my back. Back labor felt very familiar to me.

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Labor pains are actually productive and you know with each one you are closer.
My sister told me this, too. I really didn't feel that way until I was actually pushing and could feel DD's head moving down. Then again, I was a little overwhelmed dealing with the Pitocin-induced contractions which didn't feel at all like the nice bell curve I'd been told to expect.

Amy
post #34 of 50
Considering that contractions come and go, and are painful only for 40-60 seconds at a time and menstrual cramps are constant - not to mention there is no endorphin rush with AF or even a reward of a baby...

I am a big wuss with AF. I have to take mega doses of Aleve just to ward off vomiting and diarrhea.

To me, the risks of going without drugs are far less than going with.

To compare AF and labor is hard. There are so many variables involved. I also know that laboring in your own home, with people who care about you and believe in you, is going to take you farther than all the drugs in the world lying flat on your back in an institution of fear.
post #35 of 50
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I also know that laboring in your own home, with people who care about you and believe in you, is going to take you farther than all the drugs in the world lying flat on your back in an institution of fear.
and IME, I totally, totally agree

post #36 of 50
As for support during childbirth, a good midwife may be all you need. Many women go in thinkin gthey need an army, and most end up wishing it had been more private. You need to look inside yourself.

And I would bet you can find a doula that does volunteer births, or is doing fee free births during training, or will work according to your income. Dont discount any options just yet. If you think positive and continue your research with an open mind, it will all work out for the best!
post #37 of 50
My doula charged me $250, because I'm a single mom. It seems like a lot now, but just think, if you put away $5/week for the next year, you'll have enough!

Plus, like others suggested, you can try to find a doula-in-training. That will be me next year, and I really hope I can help someone like you!

My period cramps were KILLER. I was a complete write-off for the first day of every period. Vomiting, almost passing out, lying on the bathroom floor praying for God to take either my pain or my life....all that good stuff.

But, the BIG difference with contractions, is that the pain only lasts a minute or so! After that minute, I felt like I could FLY! I remember joking to my doula, as we were walking the halls, that I felt soooooo good in between that I wanted to sprint down the hall! lol

I had painful contractions for 49 hours without medication. The last 7 hours of that were oxytocin-induced, which were even worse than period cramps. But, I still did it! Finally, I did get an epidural because I needed SLEEP, but I did really well handling the pain.

Keep practicing your techniques, and maybe look into Hypnobirthing, too! I can't wait to try that next time!

Good luck TTC'ing!
post #38 of 50
I might have some good news for you. I used to have horrific period pains and I thought I'd never be able to tolerate labor, but it was a lot different (like others have said) and I do think my worst period was WAY WORSE than any one of my three natural labors.

Plus - and this is the good part - after my son was born, I never had a really bad period again. The first postpartum period can be rough, but it was still nowhere near how bad my cramps used to be. I have talked to other women who have said the same thing...birth cured their PMS.
post #39 of 50
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Originally Posted by eviesingleton View Post
Then I thought of it this way. What if I didn't have to go to work/clean the house/study/work on my thesis/etc. and I could sit in bed and drink refreshing beverages and eat fruit and visualize getting rid of the cramps? Would they be so bad then?
I've had that "luxury" for years. They're that bad.

And a bucket of uterine lining is nowhere near as precious as a baby. Hard to keep positive, even with sacred moon blood mantras. :
post #40 of 50
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Originally Posted by GathererGirl View Post
My pain was almost all in my back, if that makes a difference.

Thanks for the encouragement ladies! I'm feeling much better today, completely back to normal period crabbiness and nothing more. I know that it's my fear talking, and that I'll at least try o go natural, but since I will have almost no support (I'll be going to midwife but will birth in a hospital, husband mightnot even be there, I don't have a mother or sister, we can't afford a doula...so it'll just be me, panting and groaning alone) I do worry about how I'll do.

It was awhile ago, but I think it was in my stomach and back, I was doubled over on the toilet from the pain. So not sure if that info helps or not.

As for the doula issue, it is one of my deepest regrets I didn't have one. It was our first baby, my husband was exhausted from working the night shift and sick with a cold, sleeping in the corner. And clueless like me, so not a big help. I went in to the hospital thinking that because I wanted a natural birth I was going to get one. I was not prepared. Doulas have been shown to reduce labor time and likelihood of a csection, so seriously, whatever you can do to save up money to get one, I would very much recommend it. Also, as other posters mentioned, you could look in to getting a volunteer doula who needs some training and is willing to work with you free or really cheap. And if it's not in your budget, ask the local midwifes...they may be able to find someone to help you free or low cost.
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