16 year old daughter and hair dye - Page 3

[midstreammama]

I'm glad you are at a place now that you are okay with. It's not a battle I'd be willing to pick either.


Also,

Originally Posted by Alkenny

My 14 year old...enough said.

I love her hair!

[DavinaT]

I would agree with most of the posters here.
Her hair, her decision.
She is 16, a young woman.

To what extent you fund it is entirely your decision

[PikkuMyy]

Let her do whatever she likes with it. Really, it's not a battle that's in any way worth it.

[maliceinwonderland]

Ugh..Can I trade kids with one of you? I am dying to give my dd a funky hair colour, but she doesn't want to! When she was three she had her hair purple, then green but she's gotten square in her old age

[arlecchina]

Originally Posted by SusannaG

My 16 year old daughter has naturally blonde hair but has been wanting to dye it dark brown or black. She has actually done this a few times. I got tired of arguing with her about it and came to a "It's her hair -- what's my problem?" conclusion. The last time she dyed it, it turned a strange orange color, and I took her to the hairdresser who re-dyed it (dark brown) since that's what she wanted.

The thing is -- I think she looks much better blonde. Her eyes are blue and she is fair-skinned, and it just looks much more natural to me.

She is hounding me again -- I want to dye my hair! What would you tell her? Is it me that's being ridiculous? I want her to leave her hair alone.

ah I was (and am) the same way, I was the only one in my family that is (was) blonde and I HATED IT. and to this day I dye it dark reds and purples...I wasnt allowed to dye it till I was 18 and my stepdad intervened...no harm done, like you said, it's her hair.

[jennnk]

Because of the potential for disaster/mess when using at-home dyes, I'd lay down two rules:
1. if using permanent dye, it gets done professionally
2. she pays for it herself

I was a teen not too long ago, and the first time I dyed my hair it was BRIGHT red and Mom didn't know I was doing it (best friend's bathroom!). It quickly faded, thanks to sunlight and red's natural tendency to fade, to a pretty strawberry blonde.

I recommend the first rule because of my own (and my friends') awful experiences with at-home dye jobs. A few examples: We tried correcting an awful magenta (was supposed to be light pink) with "dark ash blonde" which was really "dead twig" on my head and didn't match anything I owned except one grey t-shirt. I had to wait a week before we could overdye it with pale brown (closer to my natural dirty blonde), but I stuck with streaks and temporary colors from then on. Once in college, I tried doing the at-home thing again, and apparently the time they say to leave stuff on isn't long enough, and pale strawberry blonde can easily become macaroni & cheese orange. According to the stylist who corrected that botched job, the time limit on the box is about HALF what it should be, but the companies are afraid people are going to fry their heads.

I recommend the second rule because then she'll appreciate the power of saving & purchasing something she thinks is important, and you don't have to financially support something you don't necessarily agree with.

[~Nikki~]

As others have said, it's just hair. This is probably the most harmless creative outlet (aside from wacky clothing) that they could want. I'd much rather have my child dying their hair wild colors, than begging for consent for piercings or tattoos, which would be more difficult to correct if they changed their mind later. :P

Starting from around age 14, my hair was a rainbow of colors. I'll never forget my father coming home to tell me about his new highschool co-op student, who went in that morning to say "Oh my gosh, there's this girl who got on the bus this morning with half of her hair blue and half of her hair pink. What the hell was she thinking. She's insane!" to which my father responded "Uh yeah...that'd be my daughter." Woops.

Being a natural blond at the time, my only advice would be to avoid dyes with "ash" in the name. They'll turn a blond's hair green. But I was very grateful that my parents were so cool with letting me dye my OWN hair. I got it all out of my system in my teens, and actually haven't had dye in my hair (even normal colors) in - wow - 10 years now. I plan to naturally grey.

[BedHead]

My blonde, blue eyed 13 yo daughter recently dyed her hair blue/black. At home in the bathroom in the middle of the night. She said she thought I would freak on her. Despite the fact that I have always told her if she wanted to dye her hair she could, she'd just have to pay for it. She was surprised that I didn't freak at her when she showed me. It's only hair, after all.