So, I have this friend, "K".. she has a friend "L" who I am not so close to, but know through her. But, we have one big thing in common, and that was our due date for our baby boys! So, on some level I felt connected to her, even though she is more K's friend than mine.
Well, K had a baby in September, and all of the sudden she has turned into some "know it all" about birthing and parenting because of it, and none of it is based on any sort of facts or research- she know's it all because she's done it, and that's it.
Well, L is pretty crunchy hippy type girl who was going to a m/w and wanted an all natural birth. She's had a rough few weeks and her BF broke up with her, so K decided she would be her labor support person. She finally went into labor a week "overdue" and was at her sister's house laboring peacefully over there. K shows up and tells her she HAS to go to the hospital ASAP "just in case". She didn't want to go and wanted to labor safely at home for a while (for reasons we all know). Well K ended up talking her into going to the hossy before she really needed too. She got there and wasn't progressed very far, so K then talked her into getting an epi so she didn't have to hurt the whole time in labor! L told her she wanted to go naturally, and K decided that she would not support that desicion and instead offered her the epi repeatedly until she gave in and took it. Now, being as I just had my natural birth a week ago, and if someone would have offered me an epi I would have taken it- I was in so much pain. BUt instead I had the support I needed to get me through it without one. My heart aches for L that she did not get that support from her "friend".
Well, as we all know one thing leads to another, and after the epi came the pit and then they had to keep "upping" the pit to keep it going. She ended up with a c-section in the end for "failure to progress".
I am SOOOOO angry with my "friend" K!!! I fully blame it on her that L had to get a c-section. Who knows maybe she would have in the end anyway. But had she been allowed to labor at home like she wanted to, or been given the support of her friend for an all natural labor and delivery, I do not believe she would have had to have had a c-section!
It seams like it is just one thing after another with this "friend" who yelled at me for offering to give her 7 month old some of my avocado when he was hungry- when she forgot her genetically modified, pesticied contaminated bottled baby food! UGH!
: We obvously have very different parenting perspectives and I don't know if I'll be able to handle much more of her mainstream ways.
Thanks for letting me vent.. this is the only place I can talk about it.
Well, K had a baby in September, and all of the sudden she has turned into some "know it all" about birthing and parenting because of it, and none of it is based on any sort of facts or research- she know's it all because she's done it, and that's it.
Well, L is pretty crunchy hippy type girl who was going to a m/w and wanted an all natural birth. She's had a rough few weeks and her BF broke up with her, so K decided she would be her labor support person. She finally went into labor a week "overdue" and was at her sister's house laboring peacefully over there. K shows up and tells her she HAS to go to the hospital ASAP "just in case". She didn't want to go and wanted to labor safely at home for a while (for reasons we all know). Well K ended up talking her into going to the hossy before she really needed too. She got there and wasn't progressed very far, so K then talked her into getting an epi so she didn't have to hurt the whole time in labor! L told her she wanted to go naturally, and K decided that she would not support that desicion and instead offered her the epi repeatedly until she gave in and took it. Now, being as I just had my natural birth a week ago, and if someone would have offered me an epi I would have taken it- I was in so much pain. BUt instead I had the support I needed to get me through it without one. My heart aches for L that she did not get that support from her "friend".
Well, as we all know one thing leads to another, and after the epi came the pit and then they had to keep "upping" the pit to keep it going. She ended up with a c-section in the end for "failure to progress".
I am SOOOOO angry with my "friend" K!!! I fully blame it on her that L had to get a c-section. Who knows maybe she would have in the end anyway. But had she been allowed to labor at home like she wanted to, or been given the support of her friend for an all natural labor and delivery, I do not believe she would have had to have had a c-section!
It seams like it is just one thing after another with this "friend" who yelled at me for offering to give her 7 month old some of my avocado when he was hungry- when she forgot her genetically modified, pesticied contaminated bottled baby food! UGH!
: We obvously have very different parenting perspectives and I don't know if I'll be able to handle much more of her mainstream ways.Thanks for letting me vent.. this is the only place I can talk about it.
