Well, I am here. I have read several GD and PD books and tried to implement them. I don't have the patients for my son right now. Someone help me!!
My son will be three in July. He's mean, disobeident, defiant, militious, crazy, and sad. My DS's behavior has been spinnig out of control lately. He doesn't like any idea of sharing unless he wants too. If we have visitors over or if I am babysitting there's lots of yelling, hitting, pushing, and crying. All from him, he just cannot stand some other child being in his space. If we go to friends and at his baby sitters home he is fine. I have asked two babysitters, how he does when he is at their kids and they say he is well behaved with vrey few problems. Infact today, his babysitter (i babysit her son) told me that she never sees him act the way was acting at my house.
I feel like he's constantly in time out, and I am always frustrated with him. I have resulted in yelling, his dad is to the point that he feels like spanking him. I can barely stand to be around him when he behaves the way he does sometimes. I cannot stand the constant whining when things don't go exacty the way he wants. There is no discussing how he feels, because he doesn't know how he feels, his feelings just come out in a violent, unpleasant way.
Then there's the whole, pushing smaller kids. He is notorious for intentionally knocking down chidern that are smaller than him. I have seen him zero in on a small child and charge at them. WHY!!!! Someone tell me why, because he says he doesn't know why. Yesterday I watched my DS punch an 18 month old in the face. He was sitting beside her in the car, and just ocudln't help himself, he hit her. I had the driver of the car pull over and I took him out of the car. I had a little talk with him behind the car, holding every ounce of anger back. I was so close to hitting his hands it wasn't funny. He didn't hit her again, but why would he think its okay.
Finally, there is the plain, not doing what his dad and I ask. For example, there is a rule, that when his dad or/and I are laying on the bed there is NO JUMPING. He doesn't get this. Laying down on the bed is torture session, with our DS as the tormentor, until I or his dad gets up. Then our DS throws a tantrum, yelling sometimes results.
I sometimes wonder if its because I just don't give him an enough attention. But how much attention can an almost 3 year old. Why does he crave so much negative attention. I seek out ways to give him positive attention, but he does an equal amount of negative atttention seeking. My DF has eluded that babysitting other childern, really upsets him, and now that he's older he realizes that he isn't he only person on Earth and he's really not taking it so well. So he's seeking attention in any form he can get.
Thoughts or insight into what maybe going on wiht my DS. I really want to help him.
My son will be three in July. He's mean, disobeident, defiant, militious, crazy, and sad. My DS's behavior has been spinnig out of control lately. He doesn't like any idea of sharing unless he wants too. If we have visitors over or if I am babysitting there's lots of yelling, hitting, pushing, and crying. All from him, he just cannot stand some other child being in his space. If we go to friends and at his baby sitters home he is fine. I have asked two babysitters, how he does when he is at their kids and they say he is well behaved with vrey few problems. Infact today, his babysitter (i babysit her son) told me that she never sees him act the way was acting at my house.
I feel like he's constantly in time out, and I am always frustrated with him. I have resulted in yelling, his dad is to the point that he feels like spanking him. I can barely stand to be around him when he behaves the way he does sometimes. I cannot stand the constant whining when things don't go exacty the way he wants. There is no discussing how he feels, because he doesn't know how he feels, his feelings just come out in a violent, unpleasant way.
Then there's the whole, pushing smaller kids. He is notorious for intentionally knocking down chidern that are smaller than him. I have seen him zero in on a small child and charge at them. WHY!!!! Someone tell me why, because he says he doesn't know why. Yesterday I watched my DS punch an 18 month old in the face. He was sitting beside her in the car, and just ocudln't help himself, he hit her. I had the driver of the car pull over and I took him out of the car. I had a little talk with him behind the car, holding every ounce of anger back. I was so close to hitting his hands it wasn't funny. He didn't hit her again, but why would he think its okay.
Finally, there is the plain, not doing what his dad and I ask. For example, there is a rule, that when his dad or/and I are laying on the bed there is NO JUMPING. He doesn't get this. Laying down on the bed is torture session, with our DS as the tormentor, until I or his dad gets up. Then our DS throws a tantrum, yelling sometimes results.
I sometimes wonder if its because I just don't give him an enough attention. But how much attention can an almost 3 year old. Why does he crave so much negative attention. I seek out ways to give him positive attention, but he does an equal amount of negative atttention seeking. My DF has eluded that babysitting other childern, really upsets him, and now that he's older he realizes that he isn't he only person on Earth and he's really not taking it so well. So he's seeking attention in any form he can get.
Thoughts or insight into what maybe going on wiht my DS. I really want to help him.
