Does anyone else get annoyed...

[vermontgirl]

When people post on the Case Against Circumcision forum about penis issues that have nothing to do with circumcision? For example, people asking about pointing their childs penis downward for peing? How on earth does that have anything to do with circumcision. Also when people ask about penis infections and such. In my opinion most penis questions belong elsewhere unless that person is inquiring about circumcison for their child. Maybe I am wrong but I think there should be a penis forum so that questions in this one stay on track. I may be out of line but this is just my opinion.

[bandgeek]

Because we have no other place to talk about it.

I could have started that thread in toddlers, but there's a pretty good chance it would have been moved here anyways, to get more responses.

This forum is for anything and everything related to keeping our kids intact. It's not just about preventing the circumcision in the first place. People have lots of questions about their kids' penises because a lot of people have absolutely no experience with intact penises.

I think the mods will tell you that any thread that is not removed is appropriate for the forum.

[paquerette]

I don't get annoyed. I mean, this is where all the folks with knowledge about penises hang out. I don't get annoyed at questions about testicles or even girls' genitalia (ie, little girls with labial adhesions) because it's all related and folks who are on the up and up about intact genitals for children are likely to also know about that. Why get annoyed? We're all just trying to have healthy, happy kids. :

[titania8]

no, i don't get annoyed.

[Lauren82]

Well the way I see it is, if someone's intact son has something wrong with his penis, I'd rather the parent ask for advice here first before being terribly misinformed by an ignorant doctor. I speak from experience. When my intact son was a year old, he had a large smegma pearl and the doctor scolded me for not retracting him and cleaning with a q-tip! :

[Papai]

I think you're making a big deal out of nothing.

It makes sense for people whose sons are having problems with their intact penises to seek out help here.

[Lula's Mom]

No, I don't get annoyed at those threads at all. I find them quite relaxing, because there is little chance it will all go to hell in a handbasket. :

[Lula's Mom]

Oh, and yeah, I actually think they go better here than any other forum. The people with the knowledge of penises- their care, anatomy, function, various infections, etc- are here.

[Yulia_R]

I don't get annoyed, not at all ! I'm very happy that parents of intact boys can ask people who actually know what they are talking about instead of asking stupid doctors who will advise them to circ before they even learn what the problem is : ...

[jessjgh1]

It is part of reassuring parents that what is going on is normal and natural....

Sometimes it is hard not to be a little more apprehensive about the penis because EVERYONE around you thinks it is this infection prone part that WILL get infected/diseased and need to be removed. Or a parent just needs to be that much more prepared in case someone questions something.

Sometimes I do admit that I wish some of those posts were not here.. but I just go to the next one and remember the times I was reassured by something I read.

Besides, it is sometimes good to have some other 'news' around other than just the heavy and hearbreaking topics.

Of course, posting these questions on the infant, toddler or other forum would bring more awareness to the issue... but most likely if it requires more 'expert' opinoin it would end up just getting moved here- and sometimes a delay in information might be disasterous

There are a few type of posts that annoy me now, (like making a general statement about a trait or characteristic or something and thinking it is something linked to circ. status)... and the ironic part is that I KNOW I posted the exact type of things before, too(-;

And although I can barely keep up with the posts, sometimes I wish there were more ot/social type posts because I feel connected to the people on this forum.

Jessica

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Definatly not. IMHO there is no other forum that has the combined knowledge of the penis than this one. I actually love to see people coming here asking penis related questions. So what if the question may seem silly to some people that is what we are here for to answer questions.

You have to remember that sometimes to a simple thing like spraying urine every were is that normal can be a issue that some peds would recommend circ for. Also infections are often something that they want to circ for. We are here to help prevent that kind of thing. So by asking it here we can nip that kind of thing in the bud.

It makes me sad of course to see questions about circ complications like adhesions but by putting those here it allows others to see what can happen and may make them think twice.

If you find certain posts annoying then just dont click on them : Sometimes I do get annoyed at a question but i try my best to be respectful of that person who posted because the reason they ask is because it is important to THEM and if it is to them then it should be to all of us as well.

[blsilva]

Having asked a question like that in this forum, I have to say that I am thankful that it is okay to post them here. The people here know more about penises, and, truthfully, I am less likely to hear that dreaded "well, if you had circumcised him in the first place..." answer.
Yes, that answer is far less prevelant here at MDC, but there are still moms here who circumcise, and I don't want to encounter it at all.
I think that being able to ask those questions here help2 in 2 ways-
1- you ask people who actualy know how to take care of an intact penis, and
2- possibly by having a place to go for those "stupid" questions, besides a dr or friend/family member who wouldn't know or understand, people will be less likely to circumcise in the first place, because they will feel less isolated when there is a problem.

[jessjgh1]

Originally Posted by vermontgirl

people asking about pointing their childs penis downward for peing? How on earth does that have anything to do with circumcision. .

I think the point of this question is that so many of us really do not know if something like this DOES have to do with circumcision or not.

It might be snarky, but if I found out something was 'easier' for an intact boy (like if it was easier to potty train, or they didn't pee up at diaper changes, etc) I would be very tempted to point it out (as a benefit). But since I know most things have to do with individual differences, I'm not going to do that.

I've seen pro-circ people claim that potty training intact boys is more difficult, for example, on mainstream boards. They may base it on their son who peed one way and one intact boy that has to point his penis down. They simply don't realize that it is very individual and not related to circumcision. But something like that is usually dispelled by half a dozen circed boys moms saying, "I have to teach so and so to sit and hold his penis down or he'd hit the wall....."

What gets me is on circ support boards when parents spout out myths and misinformation as facts and no one can 'correct' the information. So information like an intact baby has to be retracted all the time is passed forward... UUUGGGHH.

Jessica

[Arduinna]

Nope the more people that come here the better

[HarperRose]

If I need info, I ask the experts. Circumcision has the most penis-informed ppl than, say, FYT in my city, or childhood years.

I have always maintained this motto for various situations: If you don't like it, don't look.

[Daisyuk]

I think anything penis related is welcome, for all the reasons given above.

Far better to get advice here, where we know what's normal for intact penises, than to get myths and damaging advice elsewhere.

[LittleRockstar]

Originally Posted by Daisyuk

I think anything penis related is welcome, for all the reasons given above.

Far better to get advice here, where we know what's normal for intact penises, than to get myths and damaging advice elsewhere.

Well said.

To make a strong case against circumcision, people need to read the horrors of circ and the details of all the complications. And to promote leaving children intact, people need to know all the functions of the foreskin and how to care for an intact penis. And they need to arm themselves with information about every little "problem" to protect their children from being circed for a smegma pearl.

I also think questions about circed penises are useful here in making a strong case against circumcision. The information I got here allowed me to save one nephew and one friend from being re-circed. I helped spare them the trauma of having their remaining foreskin ripped back every day.

As for the threads that seem as silly as what actor is intact, I say you never know what will convince people. Use everything possible.

[QueenOfThePride]

Originally Posted by Daisyuk

I think anything penis related is welcome, for all the reasons given above.

Far better to get advice here, where we know what's normal for intact penises, than to get myths and damaging advice elsewhere.

It doesn't bother me when people come here with regular genital health questions. Now, what I do find odd and annoying is when someone writes their thread title 'Circumcision question?' or something like that, and then their question has absolutely nothing to do with circ - 'Is it OK that my son sprays urine when he pees?' I think it comes from the unfortunate belief in our society that penis always equals circumcision.

[vermontgirl]

Thanks ladies you are all 100% right. Thanks for putting it in the right context for me. I supposed the word annoyed didnt work here. I dont get annoyed just a little frazzled and puzzled. Thanks for explaining it to me!

[2Late2BCreative]

I'm like alot of other posters...I don't get annoyed either. I figured this forum is basically talking about the penis...so, if I have a penis question, then this seems like the best place to post. Maybe MDC would consider starting a Genital Forum....uhhhh, just kidding.