Ok, a tiny bit of background. I have a step-mom who is 5 years older than I am. She just had a baby last Sunday. When she was pregnant, she told me she wanted to breastfeed, so I gave her all the info I could. So yeah, she's NOT breastfeeding. Now I think I know why...
I stopped by my dad's to see my new sister (she was in the nursery the whole time I saw them in the hospital). DS wanted to nurse about 5 minutes after I got there. So I nurse him. My dad tells me that he doesn't want me doing that around him, and I told him tough luck, my son needs to eat. So my dad went out on the front porch for a majority of the time I was there.
Step-mom tells me she feels guilty for not breastfeeding. So I'm telling her it's not too late, blah blah blah. Pretty much went in one ear and out the other, I think. But anyway, lala, I get to hold my sister for all of like, 10 minutes before Dad takes her away from me. Whatever. So I go to leave.
Dad walks out to my car with me. And starts telling me how I need to respect him when I'm in his house and nurse DS in the BATHROOM. Oh no. I told him to go eat his
: dinner in the bathroom. Then he proceeded to tell me how low class it is that I nurse DS wherever and that everybody is always telling him how trashy I am. I told him I don't care what other people think, they can go to lala land. So anyway he just keeps on with the fact that I'm disrespecting him even though I'm telling him that my son eating has NOTHING to do with him and that he's being selfish and trying to make it all about him. I can't say ANYTHING without him interrupting (because that's just how my dad is - what he has to say is most important and forget whatever you want to say). So I finally told him that if that's how he felt, I guess I can't come back to his house because I am not going to feed my son in a nasty unsanitary bathroom, and he said that I was being really immature to keep him from seeing his grandson. I'M BEING IMMATURE?! He told me that my older sister is 6 years old now and doesn't need to be seeing that. I said "Yes because god forbid she learn what breasts are FOR!" and he said that that wasn't my choice. Well then, it's not your choice how I want to feed my son.
It's people like him that keep women "in line" by making them embarrassed by their own bodies and what they're supposed to do. No farking wonder my step-mom isn't breastfeeding!
But yeah...to tell me to nurse my son in the bathroom, and then tell my I'm immature because I refuse and so (to "respect" you) am going to not come around so you don't have to see me nursing...my head is spinning. And mostly I'm ill with the fact that I don't know how much of my new little sister I'm going to be seeing.
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I stopped by my dad's to see my new sister (she was in the nursery the whole time I saw them in the hospital). DS wanted to nurse about 5 minutes after I got there. So I nurse him. My dad tells me that he doesn't want me doing that around him, and I told him tough luck, my son needs to eat. So my dad went out on the front porch for a majority of the time I was there.
Step-mom tells me she feels guilty for not breastfeeding. So I'm telling her it's not too late, blah blah blah. Pretty much went in one ear and out the other, I think. But anyway, lala, I get to hold my sister for all of like, 10 minutes before Dad takes her away from me. Whatever. So I go to leave.
Dad walks out to my car with me. And starts telling me how I need to respect him when I'm in his house and nurse DS in the BATHROOM. Oh no. I told him to go eat his
: dinner in the bathroom. Then he proceeded to tell me how low class it is that I nurse DS wherever and that everybody is always telling him how trashy I am. I told him I don't care what other people think, they can go to lala land. So anyway he just keeps on with the fact that I'm disrespecting him even though I'm telling him that my son eating has NOTHING to do with him and that he's being selfish and trying to make it all about him. I can't say ANYTHING without him interrupting (because that's just how my dad is - what he has to say is most important and forget whatever you want to say). So I finally told him that if that's how he felt, I guess I can't come back to his house because I am not going to feed my son in a nasty unsanitary bathroom, and he said that I was being really immature to keep him from seeing his grandson. I'M BEING IMMATURE?! He told me that my older sister is 6 years old now and doesn't need to be seeing that. I said "Yes because god forbid she learn what breasts are FOR!" and he said that that wasn't my choice. Well then, it's not your choice how I want to feed my son.It's people like him that keep women "in line" by making them embarrassed by their own bodies and what they're supposed to do. No farking wonder my step-mom isn't breastfeeding!
But yeah...to tell me to nurse my son in the bathroom, and then tell my I'm immature because I refuse and so (to "respect" you) am going to not come around so you don't have to see me nursing...my head is spinning. And mostly I'm ill with the fact that I don't know how much of my new little sister I'm going to be seeing.
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I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Your son is lucky to have a mama that will stand up for his right to nurse.
