haunted

[carriebft]

I spent a lot of this weekend thinking about what I read in a thread here: that moms are making their sons' penises bleed by tearing apart adhesions and encouraging other moms to do the same.

I feel like this newly discovered fact is haunting me. I fear that there is no way to stop circumcision when it is so engrained that mothers make their sons' penises bleed over and over and they don't care. How do you stop people from hurting their sons when they can do things like this and not care?

Where do I go from here? I guess that has just been my thoughts. I never knew this happened. I never knew little boys were being subjected to this for months after their circumcision.

It's like the most haunting horror movie I can think of, and worse.

I know this should motivate me to work harder, but for some reason I feel like its sitting on my chest and not letting me move

[MommaLauraRN]

I never knew this sort of thing happened either. I thought that circumcisions "healed" (for lack of a better word) after several days. Are adhesions common in circ'd boys? It makes sense that the tissue would try to heal itself...It is absolutely horrifying that babies are made to hurt and bleed repeatedly...as if the circumcision wasn't bad enough...

[phatchristy]

Originally Posted by MommaLauraRN

I never knew this sort of thing happened either. I thought that circumcisions "healed" (for lack of a better word) after several days. Are adhesions common in circ'd boys? It makes sense that the tissue would try to heal itself...It is absolutely horrifying that babies are made to hurt and bleed repeatedly...as if the circumcision wasn't bad enough...

I remember reading somewhere it was way over 70% which had adhesions. Well, that makes sense that the skin would try to heal itself. : In another email group I used to be on the women with boys talked about breaking adhesions as if it was normal as well. So sad these little boys were victimized over and over. :

[vaughnmama]

Yes, adhesions happened to my sons too. We didn't know anything about it in the beginning. The ped didn't even point it out, or explain anything, or warn us about what he was about to do. He just grabbed my baby's penis and ripped the skin back and my baby was screaming bloody murder. He told us to do the same after baths when the skin was softer and it would be easier for us.

[Fyrestorm]

Since they are starting to make circumcisions less severe (due to tearing that was occuring later in life) there is still alot of skin left over...some boys don't even look like they've been cut although all the good parts like the ridged band and fenulum are still removed..

Anyway, this skin that was left but was torn away tries to do what nature intended and readhere to the glans.

IMHO, tearing them apart on a regular basis is akin to sexual abuse,..think these boys are going to have issues later in life due to people constantly messing with and hurting thier sexual organ.

I think that parents are able to do this to their boys because they already had to detach from their baby's pain in order to have them cut up in the first place.

[Lula's Mom]

Originally Posted by MommaLauraRN

I never knew this sort of thing happened either. I thought that circumcisions "healed" (for lack of a better word) after several days. Are adhesions common in circ'd boys?

It's a very common complication. Here is a short article on a study done on adhesions (with the over 70%-statistic that Christy mentioned). I agree, it's so disturbing.

[gridley13]

I have realized lately that unless there is a pressing issue in my life, my default thoughts are always on circumcision and the insanity of it. For example when I am mowing the lawn. Just letting you know it doesn't really go away. The only thing that makes me feel better at all is DOING something about it, like trying my best to perfect the way I spread the word without pi$$ing people off. It is very defeating though when you read stuff and remember how common it all is.

[PuppyFluffer]

I am haunted by every aspect of circumcision. The violence and pain perpetrated against boys is horrible and I believe contributes to the emotional aspects of relationships that women complain about in men. One cannot repeatedly inflict pain upon a small child and have those esperiences NOT have an effect on them.

I believe it is sexual assault to tear apart these adhesions.

Think about it from the perspective of the other gender. Would it be sexual assault if a doctor tore a girls labial tissue examining her? Would parents be outraged about it?

If I had a boy (I have 2 girls) and this happened to my child at the hands of a doctor, I would sue for sexual assault. Even if I didn't win, the publicity would have an effect.

[Daisyuk]

I have to say that I've got the same problem. I think about it all the time, those poor children - with the added frustration of being in the wrong country and being able to do nothing about it at all.

[titania8]

i am composing an email to a friend right now (coming back here to gather links ) about this very issue. and btw, her son is almost 2, so this happens for longer than mere months, sadly. and you are not alone in your haunted world. i too find that circ is my default thought. it brings me a lot of anxiety, but i guess i have to find a way to become active and in order to do that i have to spend some (or a LOT) of time thinking about it first. but i hear you, it is awful.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Titania8 did you need adhesion links to send to her??

Not a hour goes by in my day that I dont think about circ. Not only when it first happens but the ramifications for the rest of the childs life. My dh still has a adhesion, now called a skin bridge since it will never release on its own, every time i see that i get sad for what he went through.

[kldliam]

Can other people's mental insanity drive you insane? I have a new found hatred of humanity over the very topic of adhessions. Ripping apart your child, over and over and over....:

I am totally devoted to ending mgm-but sometimes I feel the craziness is too much to bare.

[NamastePlatypus]

Originally Posted by vaughnmama

Yes, adhesions happened to my sons too. We didn't know anything about it in the beginning. The ped didn't even point it out, or explain anything, or warn us about what he was about to do. He just grabbed my baby's penis and ripped the skin back and my baby was screaming bloody murder. He told us to do the same after baths when the skin was softer and it would be easier for us.

oh that made my luch come up in my throat, poor guys:

[titania8]

Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X

Titania8 did you need adhesion links to send to her??

Not a hour goes by in my day that I dont think about circ. Not only when it first happens but the ramifications for the rest of the childs life. My dh still has a adhesion, now called a skin bridge since it will never release on its own, every time i see that i get sad for what he went through.

thanks! i had a few, and i sent those along, but if you want to pm me some that you have i will be happy to have them in case this comes up again. which it always does, somewhere or another, right. whenever you get a chance.