Originally Posted by pigletp
we had SO MUCH emotional investment in the school and had mapped out the kids' journey through all the stages in our mind and now that's all gone. Our children responded really well to the curriculum and style of teaching... Our friendships and community were tied so closely with the school. In hindsight I'm not sure that's healthy without balance outside. .... I'm doing my best to try and focus on the positives ahead of us.
Last January we pulled our children from a private progressive school for different reasons, but so much of what you have written I relate to. It was our community -- we were very connected to other families. We thought the kids would be there until they graduated -- until things went seriously, seriously wrong at the school and we just *had*to*get*them*out.
In some ways, it felt like leaving a cult.
It's been an odd thing -- we've lost some friends and kept some friends, and we all still feel ..... odd ... about how everything played out. My kids have had wonderful teachers since leaving. One is doing well socially, one not so much (but she has special needs that really complicate the social stuff). I feel much better than I did 7 months ago. It's not an open wound any more.
My kids are older (15 and 16) and both have said that they are glad they had the experience of going to school there, they are 100% sure that them going someplace else now is the right thing for them, but that they are sad that the things that were so seriously wrong with that school are wrong, and that a few key adults allow such a situation to continue to exist.
I'm trying to hold on to the the things that their experiences there that were positive while embracing the new opportunities they have now. I have trouble keeping both in my head at once, but when I do, I feel more peace about the decisions I've made as a mother. I've been trying so hard all these years to get everything right, and give my kids the best possible experiences.