The 'No May Baby After All' Club

[beatee]

I know that there are 2 days left of our DDC's month, and technically a lot could happen in those 2 days-but I think there may well be a few of us who have accepted that this baby aint coming very soon...
I'm 41 weeks today (although by the due date that I was told I 'had' to stick with, up until last weeek, I would be 42+4, so I've been feeling very 'overdue' for a looong time now). I have absolutely no signs of a baby coming soon. It's seems weird because for such a long time I've been saying and believing that I'm having a baby in May, and now I don't think I will. Not that the name of the month really makes any difference, but it's just odd, somehow.
Not to mention that there is no longer much going on in the DDC other than birth announcements (which are lovely but make me sadder and more desperate), and I don't really feel like butting in on the June DDC, but it seems like there aren't many pregnant people left here. So, please, make yourselves known and share your experiences, so we can all commiserate together (or, if anyone is feeling really positive, share how great it is to be still pregnant and not yet dealing with baby issues...or something. I dunno, there's got to be a positive spin on this!)

[Meg_s]

: I'm still here. I had the impression (many false labours) that the baby would be coming between 37 and 39 weeks but no. My original due date was the 17th, but early ultrasounds said it could be from the 25th to the 29th... and my midwife is taking the latest possible date, now that we've made it that far, in order to be able to legally come to my birth at home for as long as possible.

I've become increasingly gloomy and depressed over the last few weeks which annoys me because this pregnancy has really been a very positive one, and I've had nothing but good feelings (and a little apprehension, I've a spirited almost 20 month old) about when the wee one comes out. Really the only good thing I can think of is that our babies will be very matures and ready and healthy and strong when they come out. I'm feeling selfish and want to get out of this holding pattern and get on with life and doing things with my two children instead of waddling around in pain and misery dreading every outing I have to make (several daily) with my toddler because late pregnancy is so uncomfortable.

[cjanelles]

Still here.

Although my EDD was somewhere between May 22 and June 8, I was SO SURE that I would have this baby somewhere in early May, especially with the three weeks of serious false labor I endured from the end of April to the middle of May.

All signs pointed to a May baby. Even my doctor thought for sure that I'd deliver before the end of the month.

At this point, I'm about 2 cm dilated and 70% effaced...which, clearly, means NOTHING.

I've spent the last week or so trying to make peace with the fact that I'm just going to be pregnant until I'm not, and trying to be thankful for the healthy pregnancy and baby...but it has been difficult, especially since we were all so prepared for the delivery way earlier.

As it stands, I'm thinking that if I don't somehow have this baby tonight (yeah, ha, not likely), then it'll probably be at least Saturday.

Here's hoping that everyone crosses the finish line soon!

[cjanelles]

Originally Posted by Meg_s

I've become increasingly gloomy and depressed over the last few weeks which annoys me because this pregnancy has really been a very positive one, and I've had nothing but good feelings (and a little apprehension, I've a spirited almost 20 month old) about when the wee one comes out. Really the only good thing I can think of is that our babies will be very matures and ready and healthy and strong when they come out. I'm feeling selfish and want to get out of this holding pattern and get on with life and doing things with my two children instead of waddling around in pain and misery dreading every outing I have to make (several daily) with my toddler because late pregnancy is so uncomfortable.

I just wanted to sympathize with the depression that seems to have set in here in the last couple of weeks.

I think it is especially bad when you get your hopes up that something is happening (false labor, early signs, etc) and then nothing.

Throughout the month of May, everyone had their bets on which day I'd deliver...and no one was shy about saying, "Oh, you're going to have the baby on the 2nd...the 12th...the 22nd..." and as each "sure" day passed, I would be further disappointed that I didn't have the baby.

For me, I've been pregnant for 17 of the last 24 months--having had two miscarriages since August 2005. So, I feel like I've been pregnant for-EV-er, and it is frustrating that we don't have a baby to show for it by now.

I'm sorry you're struggling with that late-pregnancy depression. I hope it lifts for you as soon as your baby is born.

[koru]

hey....there's another full moon in may on the 31st! wishing you all "blue moon" babes!!!

[cjanelles]

Originally Posted by doulalove

hey....there's another full moon in may on the 31st! wishing you all "blue moon" babes!!!

Yeah...my next ob appointment is the 31st, and my doctor has let it be known that if I'm interested in "nudging things along", he'd be willing to do something...I'm figuring he's talking about sweeping the membranes or something. So, I don't know if I'm going to actually take him up on it...I hear it is excruiating and is no guarantee that it will get the ball rolling.

Hoping the full moon will work her magic.

Thanks for the luck!

[BrooklynDoula]

Checking in to offer support to those still waiting for their babies! Lets hope the full moon brings them on

[riversmommy]

I'm still here... Last week I had a full day of early labor that petered out after going to the hospital. I was 4 cm. And everyday lately I wake up with some good crampy contractions that come 5 minutes apart for a couple hours and then...they go away!! Talk about depressing. My due date was the 24th. I feel a little better today since I woke up without any ctx and feel pretty good. I've stopped answering the phone and going anywhere I might see my friends. They're not offended(well, I'm sure the ones who have kids already aren't, the others will find out in their own time). But I'm tired of castor oil (I must have a stomach of iron since it didn't do anything!) EPO and RRL tea, homeopathics, baths, wine, sex, massage, bumpy roads, walking more, sleeping more, watching movies, crying, laughing....babies come when they want to come. I'm not a happy pregnant person, I mean, I'm not really UN-happy but I feel sort of PMS for nine months and that starts to wear on me by this time. It's living life in limbo. But maybe I just need to stop and smell the roses while I'm here, right?

[brittneyscott]

hi ladies. I'm not sure if I should be posting here or not (i'm a june due date) but I've been looking at your threads. I just want to say I hope you all the best and feel free to come join us in the June 2007 club. I was lurking on your threads because I thought I might have my baby in May. (My dd was early, so I thought this one might be too) I just had a feeling from the beginning that my baby would be born in May but I guess maybe I was wrong. Join us in the June club. We'd love to have you.

[laneysprout]

I'm still here, too...40w. 4d. I saw my midwife today and she wants me to have an AFL and NST on Friday when I hit the 41 week mark. She offers induction at 42 weeks, but doesn't push it and has also offered to strip my membranes next Monday (@ 41w. 4d.) if I haven't gone into labor yet.

This is my first baby, so I knew there was a good chance I would go "late," but I still somehow thought it would happen early! I want to try to be patient, but I'm thinking about starting some natural induction methods (nipple stim, lots of sex, and RRL). Maybe not today, but definitely before I agree to castor oil or stripping the membranes.

I just feel like I'm going to be pregnant until New Year's .

[kittn]

just offering support to all of you. i know it feels like forever but sooner now rather than later you will all be holding your precious ones. be strong!

[Willzmama]

Ahhh, thank you - a thread meant for someone like me.

I, too, am 41 weeks today. I can't get over the slew of birth announcements every time I open our DDC. So many of us giving birth...and many of us becoming resigned to June babies. Sigh. I, too, am sick of RRL tea, taking EPO, sex doesn't really appeal to me in my overblown state, nip stim - ugh.

I'm trying to appreciate the virtually unlimited one-on-one time I can still have with DS.

I had a 2nd NST this morning. All is well. I had a couple BH ctx during the test. So now I know that I've been having those for a long time - I was just never sure they were BH or just the baby stretching. And I've been having way more of them today since the test, so that's something. I go back Friday for another NST and will see the mw after. Blah blah.

Yes, there is a full moon coming - but it's on June 1st, right? (And the one on June 30th would be considered the blue moon, wouldn't it?)

[mamamoogs]

I thought the full moon was on may 31,st?

I think this full moon is called the blue moon
this is the website i got it from:


http://stardate.org/nightsky/almanac/

[Lizzo]

Yeah, the full, blue moon is the 31st. I think that is when I go. That'd be cool.
But I may have a June baby too.
I am 40+5(almost 6). I went to 41+5 with my son and then was induced.
This time, I am having kidney problems, so we're thinking of doing a little membrane sweeping tomorrow. Part of me is kind of disappointed as I am not feeling rushed or over excited or even over due like last time, but with all that's gone on, it's not so bad. Plus, it's not def going to send me into labor...and if my cervix is anywhere as unfavorable as it was Monday the 21st, no sweeping will get done.
So for now, just chillin, enjoying these days...

[emiLy]

I've been watching the moon grow and thinking of you all, hoping its energy will bring those babies out of you!! May or June - it doesn't really matter, I just hope wonderful labors and births and babies for everyone.

[adoremybabe]

Maybe I will join the June DDC too. I am either 12 days past due or 6 days past due. But who's counting!

[sugamagmama]

Hi everyone, I'm still here at 41 weeks. I plan to have acupuncture today, maybe that combined with the blue moon tonight will help. I had a non stress test yesterday, all is well with the baby, ultrasound scheduled tommorrow for amniotic fluid levels. I am a little miffed at the "need" for interventions all of a sudden, I'm clear on standards of care and all that but it is frustrating to have to go through more tests and appts at this point! My midwife suggested Castor Oil to bring on labor but I'm saving that for next week (if I need it) the day before they want me to go to the hospital. My friends and family marvel at my patience and ability to gestate 10 months I'll see you all over in June...
Hang in there mamas, look how far we've come!!!

[Willzmama]

Originally Posted by mamamoogs

I thought the full moon was on may 31,st?

I think this full moon is called the blue moon
this is the website i got it from:


http://stardate.org/nightsky/almanac/

Okay, cool. Well, a day earlier probably won't make much difference for me, although mentally a May baby is what I've been expecting all this time.

[RobynFSU]

Still here too. 41w 3 d today. Had my first NST and fluid level check yesterday and I have a happy, healthy, wanting to stay in baby. Everyone keeps suggesting what I need to do to get this baby here, but I've chosen to just stay the course and let things happen when they are ready. You could drive yourself crazy trying to will labor to come on when it's clearly not ready. Scheduled for another NST Friday and possible membrane sweep... undecided yet. Hang in there mommas. Our babes will be here soon! After being pregnant for so long, what's a few more days at this point. As long as you and babe are healthy be thankful and know our babes will be here soon!

[jstar]

well today is my due date (may 30!) but i have posted more in the june ddc all along. my ds1 came 11 days after his edd.

OF COURSE when we got to mid-may and i saw so many babies being born i got really really HOPEFULL that maybe i *would* actually birth in may. but my chances are looking pretty slim