The 'No May Baby After All' Club - Page 2

[Willzmama]

I was feeling really cranky and emotional last night. Tired of not being comfortable, getting up to pee every hour during the night, and wiping drool off my face and just basically let-down. And here we are, May 31st! I'm not even having many BH ctx today so far. Cripes. At least it's a cool day here. I'm just counting the hours until my NST and mw appt tomorrow morning. Pitiful.

[beatee]

Well, I'm losing hope.
I'll be 42 weeks on Tuesday and baby is nowhere near engaged. Head still floating loose at the brim. What the hell?
Thankfully the massive stress (entirely unecessary) that we had over my heart murmur and the insistence of one doctor that i was in hospital on iv antibiotics is now sorted. I am so angry that he put me through all that when it turns out it's not even hospital policy. I have had a week of stress and crying about it, when if I'd just seen a different consultant like the one I saw today, it wouldn't even have been an issue.

But now I just feel like giving up. I have been so screwed over by the inconsistency of our maternity care in this country. I have been made to feel 'overdue' for 3 weeks now, thanks to my original midwife's insistence that i stick with my LMP due date, despite me knowing it was wrong.
Thankfully, this morning I saw possibly the nicest midwife in the whole world, who told me how brave I was being and gave me a hug and was so encouraging. But she did also have to tell me that I have a damn high baby who looks to have no intention of coming out.

I'm to go back to the hospital on Monday, where the lovely hospital head midwife who was also really lovely and understanding has made sure that my appointment is with the least intervention/induction/section happy consultant there. Then I'll be getting a NST, U/S and a check of my cervix (no one has suggested that these be done so far which is good I guess), and we'll discuss 'what next'.

I was so so desperate to give birth at home and avoid all intervention, but I do have to accept that an undescended 42 week baby (by the latest possible dates) is out of the comfort zone for home delivery of the MWs who I have access to, and I can't fight that. I'm just so worried that I'm 'broken' in some way, and it just isn't going to happen on it's own. Of course, I'm not even sure what the induction options are if she doesn't drop-I think the OB mentioned prostaglandin if it seems to be because of an unfavourable cervix. I have been taking so much EPO and getting loads of cervical pains so I'm hoping that my cervix is OK (although I have had no change in mucus whatsoever)-but then surely if it is and that isn't the reason then there may well be something just effed up with my pelvis? I dunno. She seems to be a small baby by all accounts, and I'm tall with big feet...ack I just don't know.

She is still posterior, so I guess that could be a lot to do with it. I've been trying so hard with fetal positioning, but obviously not hard enough. Or perhaps that's just how she wants to be.

Sigh. I guess, one way or another, I will have a baby within a week. So I should just try and relax. I don't know if any of the natural induction methods are any good with her still so high up, and I'm so sick of eating pineapple! I had acupuncture yesterday, not sure if it will have done any good for hurrying things up, but it was good at releasing some of the intense stress I've been under. We had a really lovely meal out last night, went to see Spiderman 3 and had a great time, I had contractions-some actually painful-so I was getting my hopes up. Then on the bus home the driver was really rude to me and made me cry nonstop all the way home, which was followed by a massive freak out and about 3 hours sleep because I was so upset. So it isn't really surprising that all contractions stopped.

Perhaps I just need to completely de-stress. But now I'm thinking it can't just be a stress thing seeing as she's just in the wrong damn place. Maybe there really is something wrong with me. Aaaaagh. And I can't even have a stretch and sweep with her being so high (which is perhaps a good thing, but it takes away one not too invasive line of action so it's a bit annoying). Plus, if my waters break instead of me being all relieved I will just be paranoid about cord prolapse, and will be off to hospital after all.

And to cap it all, yesterday I got my first tummy stretch marks. Now that is unfair. Almost 3 weeks after I was kind of expecting/hoping to have a baby in my arms.

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah.:

[darsmama]

nak

i remember that depression in late preg - awful. chiming in with some hugs & warm thoughts for you all

[Willzmama]

Argh, Beth, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, that you won't be getting a home birth. But at least you've seen some good midwives since your heart murmur ordeal.

And the late stretch marks, well that's just the icing on the cake, isn't it? I have god-awful ones above and below my belly button.

My DH called this afternoon from work and said he might have to stop going in, that it's getting stressful hearing his co-workers worry about our overdue unborn child. I said, "Welcome to my world!" I told him I didn't want him wasting his time off before the baby is born.

[adoremybabe]

My DH is getting sick of the questions too. Everyday he goes in people practically fall over because he is there.

[laneysprout]

I'm still here...started having super intense ctx last night that lasted for 45 seconds and were 2-3 minutes apart. This lasted for about three hours and when I laid down to try and sleep they petered out to 5 minutes apart and then not much by this morning. I went to the MW for a cervical check and I'm 3 cm., but so far only sporadic ctx today.

I'm going in for a NST tomorrow, feeling like things are still okay. Just anxious to meet my (June) baby.

to us all

[Mom2Wilmo]

I'm not in your DDC but know how you feel. With DS I was due May 29th and he was born June 3rd. People who were due after me had their babies before me with DD!
Hang in there. Your baby will come. Just try to enjoy those last few days somewhat to yourself for a little while. Soon enough the only time you will have to yourself is a (hopefully) daily shower!
And...I don't know if this has any truth to it, but doesn't labor go faster when you are overdue? I've heard a lot of mothers say this and it was certainly the case with me!

[MommyTeesa]

[Eaglevoice]

From a mama who has had two 42 weekers, I just wanted to give you all

When I was pg with dd1 my due date was May 27th (24th according to early u/s) and she wasn't born until June 11th! My birthday is June 8th and I figured there was no possible way that I could go past my b-day! Well, imo, june is a great month to be born...nice weather, schools about to get out, everyone is gearing up for summer. Gemini's are crazy, fun, and full of suprises!