My daughter is 4 1/2 and recently has been using a lot of rude behavior, including back talk, eye rolling, disrespectful faces (sticking her tounge out at people) and generally being rude.
Up untill now this has been mostly only been towards me and my husband, and we have talked about using kind words, respectful behavior etc.
When she speaks like this we ask her to try it again, using a more respectful tone etc. We have talked and talked, and she knows it is not okay, not acceptable.
So now, she goes to her room when she speaks like this...there are toys in her room, and she can play in there. We say that we don't appreciate being spoken too like that, and if she chooses to talk like that she needs to play alone for a while. This is something we are comfortable with.
Here is where I could use some suggestions: This behavior has slowly made its way to preschool with her...I wish I could say she learned it there, but she didn't...in fact, she is probably the one introducing it to the other kids
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She attends a small parent co-op play school, and is there 3 mornings a week for 2 hours. I work in her classroom once a week.
I worked this morning, and after we had been there 30 min or so one of the teachers came to tell me that Abby was being ery disrespectful and rude to the 2 parents who were working in the area she was playing in. When the teacher went to talk with her, Abby ran away, stuck her tounge out and got very mouthy...She knew this was something I had been working on a home and wanted to touch base with me to see how I wanted to handle it.
We (me, Abby and the teacher) talked for a few minutes about treating eachother kindly, and then I told Abby I was taking her home. School is a privlage, and i would not allow her to treat other people like that. Another mom was there and able to cover for me, and Abby and I left. She ws very sad, cried the entire way home (she LOVES school).
At home I told her she need to be in her room till school would be over...this was about an hour. I brought her snack try up to ther room, as well as some games and additional activities.
She was sad, but understood. She also made cards for the 2 teachers and moms that she was rude too and asked to give them to them on Thursday...this was her choice, not my making her.
She has 6 more days of school till she is off all summer...i will be working at 4 of them.
She will be allowed to stay at school so long as she is respectful and keeps thr attitude at bay, hoever, I will continue to bring her home if she chooses not too.
I would love to know how others have delt with this type of attitude in preschoolers...
I know someone will say respect has to be earned...so i want to point out these are teachers and parents she has known for 2 years, and they are all good family friends. I don't expect her to respect them just because they are adults, but because they are kind, loving, excellent teachers who deserve to be treated with kindness, as do the other children, as do her father and I!
Up untill now this has been mostly only been towards me and my husband, and we have talked about using kind words, respectful behavior etc.
When she speaks like this we ask her to try it again, using a more respectful tone etc. We have talked and talked, and she knows it is not okay, not acceptable.
So now, she goes to her room when she speaks like this...there are toys in her room, and she can play in there. We say that we don't appreciate being spoken too like that, and if she chooses to talk like that she needs to play alone for a while. This is something we are comfortable with.
Here is where I could use some suggestions: This behavior has slowly made its way to preschool with her...I wish I could say she learned it there, but she didn't...in fact, she is probably the one introducing it to the other kids
:She attends a small parent co-op play school, and is there 3 mornings a week for 2 hours. I work in her classroom once a week.
I worked this morning, and after we had been there 30 min or so one of the teachers came to tell me that Abby was being ery disrespectful and rude to the 2 parents who were working in the area she was playing in. When the teacher went to talk with her, Abby ran away, stuck her tounge out and got very mouthy...She knew this was something I had been working on a home and wanted to touch base with me to see how I wanted to handle it.
We (me, Abby and the teacher) talked for a few minutes about treating eachother kindly, and then I told Abby I was taking her home. School is a privlage, and i would not allow her to treat other people like that. Another mom was there and able to cover for me, and Abby and I left. She ws very sad, cried the entire way home (she LOVES school).
At home I told her she need to be in her room till school would be over...this was about an hour. I brought her snack try up to ther room, as well as some games and additional activities.
She was sad, but understood. She also made cards for the 2 teachers and moms that she was rude too and asked to give them to them on Thursday...this was her choice, not my making her.
She has 6 more days of school till she is off all summer...i will be working at 4 of them.
She will be allowed to stay at school so long as she is respectful and keeps thr attitude at bay, hoever, I will continue to bring her home if she chooses not too.
I would love to know how others have delt with this type of attitude in preschoolers...
I know someone will say respect has to be earned...so i want to point out these are teachers and parents she has known for 2 years, and they are all good family friends. I don't expect her to respect them just because they are adults, but because they are kind, loving, excellent teachers who deserve to be treated with kindness, as do the other children, as do her father and I!
