Your baby must be 1 year old now, but I just joined this group and read your posting and wanted to reply to you. I hope you're doing better and know that your story is very common and it's not your fault that things didn't go as you had planned.
My first birth was very similar, though I was luckier, in that I did not require a c-section. The Bradley method is fabulous, but is very difficult to practise in most hospitals. I remember thinking before my first birth that I would be fine as long as my water didn't break early, but then it did. This is the same problem you had. Once that happens, as you know, one is at serious risk for infection, and can no longer afford the luxury of letting the body take its time to do what it needs to do. I agree 10 hours is not very long. I stayed home for 18 hours waiting for labor to pick up to a pace that seemed worthy of going to the hospital for a Bradley birth. But even I was getting very nervous about infection at that point, so I went in. The on-call doctor was quite irritated that I waited so long. I suspect there is still concern when on ampicillin because possibly other infectious bacteria are resistant to ampicillin, and so it is still a good idea to hurry things along. Not all antibiotics work on all bacteria.
For that reason, after a few hours walking around and still being at 1.5cm, I went for the Pitocin, which is something I believe was necessary. I think Pitocin is a valid way to go to help things along, but very difficult for women who don't want to use pain medication because there is nothing natural about those pitocin contractions! Also more intrusive monitoring is required with pitocin, making it even more difficult to deal with those contractions. In my case, after several hours of hard pitocin labor and still at ~5cm, I gave in and got the epidural because my doctor said it would be a long time before I would be fully dilated. Interestingly, as the anesthesiologist was leaving the room after administering the epidural, I felt the urge to push. Sure enough, in just minutes, I was almost fully dilated. It seems the relief of the epidural relaxed me enough to dilate. Who knew? So in that regard, I was very lucky. I was still a little upset though, because if I had known it could go that quickly, I might not have needed the epidural and could have had much more control over the pushing stage.
Moral of the story-- I think there's not much than can be done when membranes rupture in early labor. I don't think you made any mistakes in what you did.
I think your next one, if you choose to have another, will go much better like mine did. My water didn't break until I was about 9 or 10cm. Baby was born about 10 minutes later, healthy, alert, and beautiful (with a nice, round head). It was also a very very long labor (especially for a second birth), but was much more enjoyable without the stress of ruptured membranes.
I wish you all the best. You seem like a thoughtful person and I bet you're a great mother to your baby.
Thank you for this wonderful reply. And I want to thank everyone else who replied and who have sent Private Messages about Jackson's birth. Your support has been really wonderful, I'm so happy about the community I've found here at Mothering.
A year later I have made complete peace with Jackson's birth. I talked with a psychiatrist for three months after his birth and that made a big difference. She diagnosed me with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which I don't find surprising. I try not to revisit his birth unless I'm thinking ahead to the next birth and what I will do differently.
Everyone's input here has been a big help in that area as well. I am looking foreward to preparing my body in every possible way for our next baby. Thinking back there were a lot of assumptions made about my pregnancy based on my weight that simply were not true. I had one of the most healthy pregnancies of anyone I've known. Especially considering my weight! I truly feel that my body was created for bearing children and I had a perfect pregnancy. In the coming months as we prepare to get pregnant for the second time I will be bringing the aesthetic in line with the truth. I really believe that Drs (my midwife ended up being no better than a dr) automatically assume what your health (and subsequently your pregnancy) are like based solely on your appearance. We'll be nipping that in the bud. What happened during Jackson's birth was a combination of fear (induced by the midwife), and lack of experience. That will not happen again. I got a quick education in how firm you need to be with people who work at hospitals (regardless of their title), and we will be staying away from hospitals at nearly all costs.
If anyone wants to talk about their birthing experience or upcoming birth please feel free to contact me. I would love to help others who have been through similar situations, and to help other women prevent being taken advantage of in such a way.
Thank you again from the bottom of my heart for all your support and understanding.