Originally Posted by paquerette
Cold turkey. Not even a warning. So harsh. That poor baby.
And I just love how she lets her husband make the rules about her breastfeeding relationship.
Yeah, that's what upset me about this, too.
When DH started to get squigged out by our oldest DD nursing (she was 2.5 and SICK at the time!), and told me, "You know, you're going to have to stop that soon..." (in a bossy sort of voice) I gave him my very best blank stare and said, "Well, you know it doesn't take her very long to nurse... she'll be done here in an other minute or two." The whole time, I'm thinking to myself, "Oh no you didn't!" So, the hint completely misses him and he says, "No, I mean, you're going to have to wean her soon. She's really getting too much old for that."
That's when I got sarcastic, and a touch surly. I said, "Oh really
? Do my breasts belong to you
all of a sudden? (mumbled "Well, no
...") Then is it that you're
going to take over the nursing of our children, you can be the one who decides when to wean? 'Cause I think that when you're
the one nursing, then you
can be the one who decides when to stop, and until then it's not actually anything you have a say in."
There was some more protest, and he tried to pull the old "I'm being left out of parenting decisions, I thought we were equal partners" card, but I wasn't about to back down. I told him, for one, it's not as if she ever asks to nurse in public anymore because she's so busy with the world, so it's not as if anyone else in the world would even know unless they asked (I could tell he was feeling self-conscious about what other people *coughMILcough* would think). And two, this isn't
a parenting decision. This is a special relationship between me and our child, and no one outside of that relationship has any say over it.
Our second baby girl is about to turn 2, and I still nurse our first DD (who is now 3.5) when she asks for it, though it isn't very often any more. I'm pretty sure he's gotten over any squeamishness he once had, and needless to say, there's been no talk of weaning.