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post #101 of 312
: I love this thread & the ladies on it so much!

Thank you for not making me feel like a monster or ungrateful mother for being disappointed about my baby's gender. I understand that this can be quite a taboo topic but I couldn't just put on a happy face about it. DH and I are taking our time and coming around to it. He finally felt like talking last night, which I think was good for both of us. I'm looking forward to picking a name (later) and already web-surfed for some cute girlie clothes that aren't ALL pink. Thanks for the great advice Emily.

Becky congrats on passing your 3 hour GTT! Sounds like your doc's 1 hour cutoff was too low - how frustrating to find that out now. :
post #102 of 312
Sorry for cross-posting this (I posted in the Feb DDC) but would like some imput on this.

My breast are out of control!

One day they're swollen and hard as rocks. The next day they seem back to normal but nipples are tender. The next they aren't sore at all.

I assume this is normal, but anybody else out there whose breasts can't make up their mind?

I am still temping (not sure why, maybe habit) and my temps are up and down as well. Would this have a direct effect on my breasts?

And while we are on the subject of weird symptoms, I am constipated one day and have diarrhea the next. TMI!

This sucks because I woke up this morning with a temp drop, feeling like all the symptoms disappeared. Of course, I freaked and thought m/c for certain. Now my breasts are sore again. AGHHHHH!

Dee, I think that is an honest response. I really want a girl, and I have to admit I would be a little disappointed with a boy, but I have a really cool name picked out for a boy (and I won't tell ). I think that will help ease the disappointment.
post #103 of 312
Dee just to echo what everyone else has already said, I think your reactions were perfectly normal and I know that once your perfect little girl arrives you won't adore her any less.

Aimee I still have days like that (I'm just past 7 weeks). Some days they're very sore and some not so much (until I poke them repeatedly and then hey they're sore again ). The same goes for the fatigue and nausea, some days I'm asleep by 7pm and some I can stay up until wow 9:30 or 10, some days I'm nauseous from the minute I open my eyes until I go back to bed and some days I feel pretty ok - today is not really one of those days unfortunately.
post #104 of 312
[QUOTE=phillybama;8342416]

And while we are on the subject of weird symptoms, I am constipated one day and have diarrhea the next. TMI!

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this was my PRIMARY symptom early pregnancy. i recommend heading it off by taking capsules of psyllium husk and acidophilus. seriously. you do not want to know how bad mine got.
post #105 of 312
Hi all,

I've been lurking but had a bad week and didn't want to bring everyone down so I just kept to myself. Things are ok now though so I'm back! DH and I had a fight over a link he sent me via email that really hurt me. We never fight like that! It was a shocker. I didn't want to talk about it right away though cuz I had to figure out what to say and I was working doubles all week. So I was too tired to talk at night, but didn't want to bring it up before I went to work cuz I'd get upset. Anyhow for a few days we felt like strangers...were civil but not close. It freaked him out, he's never seen me shut down like that (I couldn't help it, I felt like he was the enemy!) So he saw what he did was so hurtful and we worked it out. Whew. In addition I have a close family member back in the psych ward, he falls apart every three years and it just breaks my heart. I think he'll be ok now, he's getting the help he needs, even if it's just for another three years. :

Add to that, the last week of the season is usually really really busy, and I'm just fried. We have two performances a day all weekend, then I'm off for 3 weeks. I can't wait! Pregnancy really adds a level of exhaustion I'm not used to. The poor doggies have only been to the park once all week, but they're being good sports...I can just tell they really need to run. DH promised to take them today.

Anyhow, I wanted to say...Dee...I have my heart set on a girl and as much as I say I don't really care, I'm sure if it's a boy I'll have a definite adjustment period, so just allow yourselves to feel how you do and it'll change I'm sure. I never got over something by willing myself not to feel it... tell yourself this..."Feelings aren't facts". That said, congrats on your girl, I'm sure she'll be your pride and joy!

Becky thank god you passed your test...congrats...I'm starting to get worried about this glucose test, reading about everyone's troubles!

I forgot what else I was gonna say, I really am truly fried...oh, one bit of news...DH and I are going to join a gym so I can start swimming. I tried to go back to my hot yoga class Sunday and it was HORRIBLE. I decided it felt much safer to me to do the video in my spare room with ONE space heater (to get warm enough to feel bendy and sweat out the toxins a ltitle, but my temp didn't spike there the way it did in class) and then to start swimming in addition. I'll go back to Bikram after baby! It's all for the good of the little bean, who's making my tummy bigger every day! Yay, I'm finally looking pregnant!

I'll try to personalize next time when I have time. It seems like everyone's doing well though.

BTW, whose due date is next?
post #106 of 312
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Dee right back at you!!! My favorite crib bedding was this reddish dragonfly/garden pattern that would be so perfect for a little girl. Let me see if I can find a link. HERE. I won't be offended if you don't like it or chose it or whatever (I don't even know if you are having a crib!?) but I thought I'd share anyway (never know, someone else might like it!)

Aimee & SarahJen - This whole pregnancy my boobs have been weird. Some days they feel really tingly and tender (slightly painful - like little sparks are going through them or something). I haven't systematically felt myself up to see if size or hardness varies, but I always assumed those feeling were either indicative of a grow spurt (blah) or my milk ducts warming up (kinda like bobbie Braxton Hicks!). I have no idea if either of those two theories his on what is really happening in there, but that is how I have explained it to myself so I just accept it as "normal" and "good".

Julia - Ugh. Sorry about the terrible fight with DH. As you may recall several of us have BTDT with our DHs during this pregnancy too. Fights are always awful but for some reason they are more aversive and feel scarier now that I am pregnant.
post #107 of 312
Julia, I'm so sorry about your rough week. Hugs to you. I've really had to take my yoga (not that I'm that great at it) back a notch, but it's been really good for me to do so. Much less pain, more gain.

Aimee and Sarah-Jen... you're really bringing memories back for me. My body was freakish and everything changed all the time. Good times!

So roofers are going to be de-roofing and re-roofing our house next week. While we live here. Beginning at 7:30 in the morning. More good times.

I finally uploaded some pix to Flickr though I have a ton more to do and I'm always making goofy faces in my pictures. Anyway, here's 12 weeks:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/98065056@N00/537779185/
and 23 weeks:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/98065056@N00/537779201/

(p.s. if you find CJ's Flickr site she totally has pictures of Gabriella!)
post #108 of 312
Emily...that's such a cute crib set! We've been given so much stuff, but the crib bedding I definitely want to pick out new, just for us. It's weird having that fight pregnant...I was definitely more civil I think, because I guess I figured that soon there will be a little kid watching everything we do, so even before we were able to really sit down and talk I knew I had to behave like an adult to him. I'm acting like a better human being already! I'm glad we are already married when that fight came up because I knew we'd have to work it out...it's so easy to split when the going gets rough, but when leaving isn't an option (well, not the easy one) I knew we'd figure it out...I thought it would take longer though. He always surprises me with his ability to "get me".

Lane...gorgeous pictures! You're one hot pregger mama! I'll have to go check out CJ's pics now.

I just wanted to tell you all my dream from the other night, which is in keeping with our "boob" theme...I dreamt my boobs kept getting bigger and bigger until they exploded. !!!! AUGH!!!!
post #109 of 312
Aimee your symptoms sound normal to me. My very first symptom was diarrhea - I woke up every morning needing to dash to the bathroom. Pregnancy is so darn weird! I'm trying to just go with the flow on (almost) all the symptoms. They say bleeding without cramping is fine, cramping without bleeding is fine, but you should see a doc/mw if you're bleeding and cramping. Other than that, boobs behave weird, stomach gets upset at foods you love, feet hurt, chest gets zits - you name it, it's all normal! Blame the hormones! In spite of all that I miraculously maintain an overall feeling of well-being.

Sarah good to hear from you, but sorry you're feeling yucky.

Julia I'm sorry you had an awful week. We're here for you if you want to share your feelings. I've repeatedly found that I feel WAY better if I get my feelings out. Almost everyone can identify and commiserate, so you don't feel so alone. Glad to hear you worked it out with DH and your family member is getting the help he needs. BTW I love the phrase "feelings aren't facts." Thank you.

Emily that is a really cute crib set - and not pink - but alas we're not getting a crib. DH really wants the baby in the bed but at least he understands my fears and agreed to a cosleeper. Yay!

Minnow you are adorable! Great pics!

Thanks again to everyone who validated my feelings of disappointment. It seems like I become more accustomed to the idea of a daughter every hour! I'm surprised how fast my feelings are changing for the positive but I guess it helps to know that you can't change what's there. While looking for names I came across a story about an u/s being wrong (predicted girl but it was a boy). I briefly thought about it but I don't think that's the case. Hopefully I'll buy a little fluff tomorrow.
post #110 of 312
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In addition I have a close family member back in the psych ward, he falls apart every three years and it just breaks my heart. I think he'll be ok now, he's getting the help he needs, even if it's just for another three years. :
SIGH. Hugs to you. It's so hard. that's BIL. i wish he were in the psych ward -- instead he is probably homeless and in and out of jail for vagrancy. his emails are completely incoherent. he is living so far in the past he has no idea i or the baby exist.
post #111 of 312
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Julia - Ugh. Sorry about the terrible fight with DH. As you may recall several of us have BTDT with our DHs during this pregnancy too. Fights are always awful but for some reason they are more aversive and feel scarier now that I am pregnant.
Yes, yes, yes! the feelings of dependency are so much stronger, and the feeling that x conduct would be UNACCEPTABEL in front of BABY (not that we "deserve" it, but at least for me it really raises the stakes). i do think a lot of it is guy stuff (fears of responsibility, etc.) that they project onto us. Not to mention that I react to things as CATASTROPHIC, whereas before they would be troublesome yet soluble, because of my hormone levels. Tonight I saw this movie, Knocked Up, and sobbed at two different points. Trust me, it's a comedy, I'm sure I was the only person in the theater crying her eyes out. But some of the things just hit home -- fighting over whether DP read the pregnancy/birth/baby books, etc.

My DH seems to be comin' round the mtn., at long last. He dreamt about the birth and the baby last night! he dreamt it was a girl (is that what he wants? he claims to be equally open to either gender) and that we named it a name he had never thought of before but suddenly really likes. he was way more solicitous and affectionate in birthing class today too -- last week i just got waves of resentment from him. For those of you who've started already (Emily? others?) how are your birth classes going? Mine was very disappointing the first week, and at least not a waste of time the second week. But my fantasies of instant sisterhood were sorely misplaced. The woman sitting next to me said like 5x, "I want a c-section" -- which is fine with me, but then why is she derailing MY class from natural childbirth methods/ pain-coping techniques, which is what it was clearly advertised as? : DH has also suddenly gotten interested in buying a home, NOW -- given how real estate works in Manhattan, this would still mean moving after baby. Personally I am a bit freaked out by the amount of $ involved, plus my ignorance in such matters, but I am also struck by his nesting instinct -- I feel like I've stepped into "Make Way for Ducklings." : :
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BTW, whose due date is next?
i was wondering this too. i'm up to bat on august 22nd (plus or minus).
post #113 of 312
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I think PiePie or farmama are next (although farmama doesn't really hang out here). I put everybody on the list in order of their exact due dates or when they got their BFPS (as far as I could remember). If you see yourself listed below someone who you know has a due date after you and you want me to switch it around, I will
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Dee, congrats on your girl, but I'm sorry it's a bit bittersweet. I do think I can understand -- you thought it was a boy, you've both bonded with this baby as a boy, and now you have change your thinking of who this baby is. You've got plenty of time to really adjust, though... and I'm sure by the time she arrives you'll both be smitten kittens.

Elizabeth, wow, you DO get an amazing medical benefits package at work! Hopefully that will make your life easier! And you don't really need to prepare for the 1-hour test. You want accurate results (not to cheat the test), the problem is how your doctor/midwife's office will interpret the results. My office had a relatively low cutoff number, which was frustrating, but there wasn't anything I could do about it. I hope you pass yours, but he 3-hour test isn't the end of the world!

Aimee, welcome to the first trimester! It's all normal. The fluctuating temps (stop temping!), the on again, off again sore boobs, the constipation/diarrhea... it's just your hormones going nuts. By the way, now that I'm on extra iron, I get constipation/diarrhea at the SAME TIME. Figure that one out.

Julia, sorry for your rough week. Those types of miscommunications and hurt feelings seem so much more pronounced and common while pregnant. I know I'm much more sensitive and feeling much more vulnerable than ever now, and that makes me withdraw and turn inward and shut my husband out so easily. It's hard. Glad things are ok now!

minnow, great belly shots! You're so tiny, and your belly is just adorable!

Ok, so what is everyone's fascination with my belly button? Yes, it's now inside out. So??? Yesterday I was at a bridal shower, and my stepsister's weird family kept making comments about it popping out, and my stepsister even asked if she could SEE it (um, no!). My snark level is at like, an 8 now, so I have to catch myself, although at least I have a good excuse for being bitchy!
post #115 of 312
Elizabeth, how are you feeling today? I tried to get out of bed wrong the other night and something in my abdomen SCREAMED in protest and it was horrible and scary so I can only imagine how awful an injury rather than just a momentary strain must be. I hope you are healing rapidly.

Julia, are you recovering from your week? I've thought that about fighting with DH during pregnancy too... I'm still goaded into being loud more often than I'd like but I'm conscious of how pretty soon there will be this observer and I hope we can learn to be more polite. Of course, the last couple weeks I am feeling her move A TON and also me and DH are getting along great. I wonder if they're related. I hope to start swimming as well... though I keep putting it off. Perhaps you will inspire me.

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Tonight I saw this movie, Knocked Up, and sobbed at two different points. Trust me, it's a comedy, I'm sure I was the only person in the theater crying her eyes out. But some of the things just hit home -- fighting over whether DP read the pregnancy/birth/baby books, etc.
This is sort of funny. We saw Knocked Up the other day too. I was so excited -- going to see a cute pregnancy comedy whilst pregnant! -- but I actually felt sort of conspicuous in that theater with all the young people there for the drug humor. But I noticed the not-reading-the-baby-book thing too, with a little stab of recognition. I did like about the movie how her obstetrician flakes out on her and then the other obstetrician tries to force interventions on her; it didn't glorify obstetricians (which they kept calling gynecologists) and made my midwife seem like a dream. However, she still gave birth in the stirrups. I'm waiting for a mainstream movie/tv show that shows a woman in SOME OTHER POSITION. Next up on my cute-pregnancy-movie-viewing agenda: Waitress. Which will make me cry because I love Adrienne Shelley and she's dead. And because Keri Russell is going to give birth any minute and she's so pretty!

The part of Knocked Up that made me cry, though, was the end where she's holding the baby. BABIES MAKE ME CRY. It is ridiculous. I saw a picture of the young actress who was in Whale Rider kissing her baby girl and it made me bawl. (This ends the celebrity-stalking portion of my note.)

Anyway, PiePie, I'm super-glad that your DH is coming around and getting interested in nesting and such.

I've been wondering about birth classes too, how they are going for people. I kind of have fantasies about "insta-sisterhood" so I hope there are at least a few congenial folks in my class.

Emily, when's your due date?

Dee... so these clothes are mostly for two year olds, and I doubt I could afford them anyway, but oh, they make me excited about a little girl.
http://nonchalantmom.com/Things_to_W...rosenberg.html
http://www.thesillywagon.com/catalog...Fcategory%3D91
http://www.sparrowandbull.com/products/images/baby.html

Thanks for compliments. I'll stop now.
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Ok, so what is everyone's fascination with my belly button? Yes, it's now inside out. So??? Yesterday I was at a bridal shower, and my stepsister's weird family kept making comments about it popping out, and my stepsister even asked if she could SEE it (um, no!). My snark level is at like, an 8 now, so I have to catch myself, although at least I have a good excuse for being bitchy!
Ha! This totally made me laugh. People have commented on mine, as well, but no one has asked to SEE it.
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I think PiePie or farmama are next (although farmama doesn't really hang out here). I put everybody on the list in order of their exact due dates or when they got their BFPS (as far as I could remember). If you see yourself listed below someone who you know has a due date after you and you want me to switch it around, I will

farmama is definitely up before me. where are you, lucky lady?
post #118 of 312

birth story

I finally posted Gabriella's birth story. It's looong...
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...75#post8349675

we had a rough night last night - up from 2-6 with constant nursing. Am trying to get sleep when I can...

Love checking in with this thread and have a million things I want to write, but just can't right now. So just saying to all...

cj
post #119 of 312
CJ she's absolutely beautiful : congratulations again.
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CJ she's absolutely beautiful : congratulations again.
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Happy nursing CJ - you'll have to come share your expert tips once you get it all worked out!
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