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Natalia, hugs to you. Not working is a big adjustment! I'm sure you'll settle into a routine soon enough. And you'll be grateful at the en dof the pregnancy for the time to get stuff done around the house, or just sleep if that's what you want to do.

Julia, it's definitely difficult to adjust to the added girth of our baby homes! At this point, though, it's hard to remember what my body was like before I grew this thing. Hm.

cicely, sounds like you're doing everything right!
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Good lord ladies, this thread moves sooooo freaking fast!!! I can barely keep up :
Here are my comments based on things people said waaaay back on page 11...

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I can't find a non-underwire bra anymore because I'm now BIGGER than an E cup and no-one carries them. Motherhood had an underwire and I bought it out of desparation, and it's not black. (I have to wear black for work.) Really, there are no preggers bigger than an E cup? Jeez! Frustrating. I'm gonna have to do an online search.
Julia - Have you looked at sports bras? I tried on Goddess sports bra after I had my no-bras-fit-me melt down and LOVED it. So supportive and no underwire. It was extremely pricey - but anything for our "special needs" boobs is going to be pricey. Not sure if it comes in black, but it might be worth checking out.

Also hooray for movement. Those first flutters are so reassuring- yet so weird. Remind me - when is the u/s...about 2 weeks right?!

As for the "neat" tickers, if you are talking about the ones that look like this
****5****10***:15****20, we all just made them using astrix and numbers!!! Feel free to copy (I think I copied the idea from Becky).

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I have a 10.5 year old shepherd mix too and I hate to watch her getting older and stiff in her joints. My rottie is 7 now and they have 8-10 year lifespans so I try not to think about the future without them. OMG I'm tearing up just thinking about it. I've actually considered getting a miniature horse b/c they live about 30 years!
Yep, my old lady pup can move me to tears too. She has been my companion for 13 years now. I've had her longer than I have known DH. She is totally old and cranky now (with a touch of crazy thrown in there for good measure) but I still love her to bits. Pets are just so awesome.

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I'm feeling movement for sure now too & it's so cool! She seems to get really active after I eat sugar - dunno if that's good or not!
Number one way for me to activate the babe is sugar I guess he gets a little rush.

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Is it normal to feel yucky again around 20 weeks? This week I've been truly exhausted, eating weird, and feeling big and uncomfortable. I hope it's just an awkward stage.

I'm finally excited about having a little girl! Everyone in my DDC is finding out gender now and I still have small pangs of jealousy when boys are announced - especially twin boys! BUT I'm starting to picture how beautiful my baby is and imagining girly activities like ballet and girl scouts with her in the future. I'm having fun putting registries together too. These socks pushed me right over the edge!
Well, if you follow the same path I did, you are about to enter a BIG growth spurt and I imagine it is a HUGE drain on your energy reserves. I gained a lot of weight and my belly grew a ton between 21/22 weeks-28 weeks. I seem to be (finally) slowing down again - although I have not adjusted to all of the extra "me" (bumping into things, spilling stuff all over myself, lost my balance in yoga, etc.).

I am super duper excited for your little girl and I am glad you are getting there. I hear you about the pangs of jealousy (especially when I see mom's and daughters out in public - particularly preteen/teenagers and their mom).

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Originally Posted by PiePie View Post
what does it mean if my maternity pants are too tight?
Um, obviously it means that maternity clothes SUCK!!! My pants aren't really fitting anymore either :

Jenn - Just want you to know that I am thinking about you and your mom!!!

Judy & Cicely - I finally added you to the front. Sorry about the delay. I have been feeling like a leaden slug this week and am having a really tough time getting anything done. Congrats and welcome!
BTW Cicely - I guessed that your due date was Feb. Please correct me if I am wrong.
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oh. that's right-- sorry i forgot to say! Thanks for adding me; it's exciting to see my name up there! (I've been having a little trouble believing that this is all real.)
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Cicely - On worrying - I still check every morning to make sure my belly is still there!!! Like it would have disappeared overnight, right? I'm finally getting used to having a belly, but it's still strange and I do worry too. I am being able to keep it from being too intense, but as things go on you'll feel more secure in it. It is astonishing how people will tell you their horror stories, though. I am constantly having to shut up the secretary in my office because she feels the need to tell me, in graphic detail and with awful faces, how painful and horrible labor is. Nice, huh? I've said many times "I'm scared enough and you're not helping - I don't want to hear it." but it doesn't stick! Ugh! I've also had the miscarraige and premature stories... People are so insensitive at times.

Natalia - Like the dork I am, we got the dark gray base and are undecided on the fleece still! But, we're trying to get at least one big purchase down a month so that we don't have to buy too much at the end... It's between green and red, but DH still wants orange. It's nice, but I think too bright for her little eyes. I want a RELAXING color for her. He also thinks it's fun to antagonize me.

I feel for you and being unemployed. As much as I love to think I'd enjoy time off, I am not good with idle time. I end up being super lazy and unproductive and then feel bad about myself for being lazy and unproductive... I actually sent my resume in for the other job today - we'll see what happens. I heard they are filling it FAST, so I may actually have been too late. It's crazy to even think about moving right now, but I sort of felt like tossing in my hat and seeing what happens. Please feel free to vent - I sort of view this forum as an opportunity to do just that!

Oh, girl names:
Chloe
Hannah
Elise (still on our list, but it's not looking like we're using it)
Lily
Lola

Grace - I remember the exact day it first really hit me that this baby had to come OUT. I flipped out in the car with DH in the Babies R Us parking lot at 20 weeks. Just totally started crying and gave him this huge guilt trip about needing to know that I could depend on him during labor, etc. and how it's all a big joke to him (that's his nature, but he's always been there when I needed him without fail). I am definitely more at peace now, but that first realization was powerful! Oh, and I was in all maternity pants by 12-13 weeks, so please don't feel bad about growing out of your clothes! I was showing so early that people kept telling me it was twins. Jerks! It's just how I'm carrying her, I guess, I have a huge belly but from the back I look normal (except for the back fat and bigger behind).

My in-laws are coming to stay with us for a couple of weeks in mid-July. I'm happy they're coming, but stressed about having extra people in our tiny house when it's 100 degrees and I'm huge. It also means we will really need to pull the baby's room together before then because right now it's just crammed with our guest room furniture and the crib, stroller, etc. We need to consolodate the office and guest room...

Hope you all have lovely weekends if I don't check in! (I'm never on the computer at home...)
post #245 of 312
Cicely...good for you. Women can be kind of sadistic that way, wanting to share their horror stories. Strange. When I said I was getting married, none of my friends (and almost all of them had been divorced) said, "Congratulations, let's hope it works," and told me all about their divorces. I don't understand. Anyhow...good for you with the dairy...I've always been kind of anti-dairy but I finally succumbed to the milk cravings. Milk hasn't tasted good to me since I was about 12, but I can't get enough! I'll get rid of it after I grow the baby...I figure he/she needs it for building bones, right?

Ok, bra update...I got a couple in the mail. One is a "Tatiana" from Breakoutbra.com, a size 38F. It, like, just fits. AGH! But it's pretty comfy... I finally abandoned maternity bras and just started looking for plus-size non-wire bras. Then I got a Spanx "brallelujah" (do these names crack you up or what) which is comfy, but, again, barely big enough. I have another couple coming from JC Penny (I got fed up and just started ordering bras online the other day). DH, of course, is in heaven...he doesn't care that he can't touch. He's just happy to look. And oh-so-proud.
post #246 of 312
Can I join in? I'll be 5 weeks tomorrow due in late February and I'm 33. I've been lurking here while the fact of being pregnant started to feel real. Yesterday I outgrew my bra, so I guess it's real! I've also been crampy and craving water and orange juice. I'm not a big plain water drinker--or I wasn't--but now I can't get enough. I'm sure this is just the tip of the iceberg!
post #247 of 312
So am I the only person on this forum whose breasts have gotten bigger but is still wearing an A cup? A luscious, cleavage-y A-cup, but an A cup nonetheless.

Julia, we're still waiting for pix of you in your finery!

Cicely, I saw your other thread about whether or not to do a test. The first few weeks are nerve-wracking, no way around it. I was able to hear the heartbeat by, I think, ten weeks so that helped a lot. I'm glad it sounds like you're a little more relaxed!

Elizabeth... I have a similar thing going on in mid-July. No one's staying with us (because where would they sleep?) but my in-laws are coming to town to throw us a shower. (On my birthday... sigh.) And then we move a couple of weeks later. I'm sort of in denial about the whole thing. So far, only one has actually come out with the "Let me tell you the story of so and so's baby who died during homebirth" motif but the rest of them ask these POLITE questions that are really about testing me. Plus, this means we have to clean the house before we move, since the shower is here.
post #248 of 312
Hi Jen! Welcome and congrats!
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So am I the only person on this forum whose breasts have gotten bigger but is still wearing an A cup? A luscious, cleavage-y A-cup, but an A cup nonetheless.
No.
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So am I the only person on this forum whose breasts have gotten bigger but is still wearing an A cup? A luscious, cleavage-y A-cup, but an A cup nonetheless.
Oh, minnow, you're making me so jealous! I haven't seen an A cup since I was 12. Sigh. Anything larger is so dang hot. (And unfortunately, I am way larger - 40DD and growing!)

Julia, thanks for posting about online bra sources. I'll be checking that way very soon.

Natalia, I *adore* your new niece's name. How beautiful. I hope you and your DH can make a decision soon.
(I have a dear friend named Laura Elizabeth. If we already hadn't agreed on a girl's name, I think that would've been the winner for us.)

As it is, my mom was confused by our girl name but will come around (she knows how stubborn I can be, so there's no changing it). Mom definitely wants another granddaughter, too -- every time we talk, she brings it up!
So she'll have to get used to it.

More later. I've got to take the two newest citizens of PDX to get library cards!

Cher
16 weeks w/biokid #1, loving aunt to N (8) & T(6)
post #251 of 312
[QUOTE=dctexan;8452087]Um, obviously it means that maternity clothes SUCK!!! [QUOTE]


Target ones were a big mistake. Burlington Coat Factory ones are holding up much better!!
post #252 of 312
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It is astonishing how people will tell you their horror stories, though. I am constantly having to shut up the secretary in my office because she feels the need to tell me, in graphic detail and with awful faces, how painful and horrible labor is. Nice, huh? I've said many times "I'm scared enough and you're not helping - I don't want to hear it." but it doesn't stick! Ugh! I've also had the miscarraige and premature stories... People are so insensitive at times.
I have heard those stories almost every day at work! work is tricky because I feel less comfortable telling colleagues off. With friends and family I would just be direct, but at work it's kind of hard to say, "Well, I am going to make different choices than you" (because your choices were stupid!).
post #253 of 312
veganone, of your girl names, i like hannah the best.

dh and i had our first real discussion about naming last night. it was good. a little disappointing that he is not as bullish as i am on my #1's (after he removed many would-be #1's earlier in the process), but he likes my #2 for a girl, and my #3 for a girl is his first choice (came to him in a dream! which is so not characteristic of him). let's say my name choices (1, 2, and 3) ranked as 3, 2, 1 in his book. wouldn't 2 be the fair compromise, such that neither party is losing? that's what i am thinking. he doesn't really groove to naming baby for ancestors, prefers historical heroes. so we are leaning toward a boys' middle name who is a historical hero to him and a girls's middle name that would honor a deceased relative of mine. we'll see. he is not yet sold on the latter, but i think he should show a little more flex with regard to middle names (as long as he doesn't hate it).

more to write but going to go pay attention to dh now. he will never believe i am choosing him over mdc!
post #254 of 312
welcome jen! congratulations!
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Welcome, Jen! Glad to have you with us! Congrats on your pregnancy!!
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Jen... and congratulations! I love seeing new members!

Minnow...I forgot about the pictures! That would mean I'd have to consent to having pictures taken of me when I feel like a whale, and I don't know that it's going to happen. Maybe eventually... sometime this summer...

Natalia, congrats on your niece. How cool to have her daughter and your baby so close in age!

Elizabeth... my fears about the birth are being worked through. It helped that my therapist offered to actually BE there... I have former trauma and my big worry is that if I'm in labor too long it'll trigger a flashback and I'll age regress and the doctor won't know what to do, so I may need to tell her my history and explain that if I start seeming like a child for a minute, don't sedate me or anything, DH knows what to do. It's the reason I'm not trying for a natural birth... I am worried that the pain factor would really freak me out. I really wanted to try for a birth center type thing but I just think it would set me up to freak out. So anyhow, I'm just planning on having a couple people there who know my situation...DH, our friend Molly, maybe my therapist on call, and my teddy bear I'll get through it. It probably won't be as bad as I think.

I woke up in the middle of the night with a muscle spasm that made me cry... I had it last night, it's because of our new computer setup... anything that makes me hold my right shoulder up (the mouse being on the desk, for example) causes issues. (Years of playing the violin in that position have made my right shoulder sorta sensitive.) Anyhow I took Advil which my doctor had said was ok til 30 weeks, and did a heating pad, and had DH rub some Traumeil cream on it. It was miserable. Now I'm afraid to move to trigger it again.

For the record, the Tatiana plus-size bra I bought is totally itchy and I hate it. Ugh.

Today, more organizing of the house. I love seeing this place come together! Everything we do is designed to de-clutter and organize so I'm feeling better about both of us tending towards being slobs... as long as we have a system we can keep it under control!

Have a great day ladies!
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my fears about the birth are being worked through. It helped that my therapist offered to actually BE there... I have former trauma and my big worry is that if I'm in labor too long it'll trigger a flashback and I'll age regress and the doctor won't know what to do, so I may need to tell her my history and explain that if I start seeming like a child for a minute, don't sedate me or anything, DH knows what to do. It's the reason I'm not trying for a natural birth... I am worried that the pain factor would really freak me out. I really wanted to try for a birth center type thing but I just think it would set me up to freak out. So anyhow, I'm just planning on having a couple people there who know my situation...DH, our friend Molly, maybe my therapist on call, and my teddy bear I'll get through it. It probably won't be as bad as I think.
penny simkin has a book out on this. my therapist said she is buying it. also, dh found a bunch of articles online for me. i will read them and post the good ones.
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Thx, Pie, I'll go look her up.
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she wrote my favorite pregnancy bible. so i approach it with positive expectations.
post #260 of 312
I am bumping us up! Have lots to tell about my weekend -- loved my birth blessing and hated my ped interview.
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