Calling all Feb. Homebirthers - Page 12

[jljeppson]

Thanks!

[jljeppson]

Aaaaaaaaaah! I have a friend that went into labor Mon night, thank goodness because she was going to be induced Tue 'cause her doc was busy all week and "wanted to be there". Nothing like inducing a baby for the doc's convenience. She would only have been 4 days past her due date Tue. Anyway, labor begins 9 P.M. Mon, she heads in to the hospital 7 A.M. Tue morning and since she was only a 3 they immediately put her on pit and broke her waters. 8 1/2 hrs later she's only a 5 and ends up w/an epidural because she's been laboring on Pit for so long with back labor. Doc ends up telling her her pelvis is too small to deliver vaginally, baby is stressed from everything they are doing to mom and hasn't moved down, so it's time for a C. She just says in her email that she was upset and scared but everything ended up going smoothly, baby was born at 8:57 P.M. and started nursing immediately. I'm going to assume that means she delivered vaginally becuase they don't allow nursing in the O.R., not with your arms strapped down, etc. As her friend I'm happy she and baby are doing well, but as a birth professional and HB'er I'm frustrated and want to scream. Everything she went through could have been avoided by her having the baby at home. Yes we get moms that don't progress, but there are things to do about it and strapping them to a bed isn't it! Anyway, that's my scream and I thank God every day that I found a better way to have my babies.

[True Blue]

That sucks. I feel the same way about oh everyone around here. I have had 5 babies born from friend the past few weeks, 3 were csections, 2 were inductions with vaginal births (however, that said, the inductions were both medically necessary, one friend developed pre-e). But everyone around here in Staten Island winds up with a csection, it seems. It's awful.

[jljeppson]

Yeah, my birth practices are considered very out there by the women I go to church with. There are only 2 more that have had HB's and their youngest kids are teens and almost teens. I bite my tongue becuase in most cases they just don't want to know something different, but those that do I provide all the info they are willing to listen to. There is a reason I haven't assisted at a hospital birth in 3 yrs. How could I go back to that after something like this last HB where the woman delivered after a 3 hr labor, in a birth pool, and breathed the baby out instead of pushing? What could possibly compare with the peace of that?

[loraxc]

I finally told my mom we were having a HB and she was totally cool with it, rather to my surprise. Yay! My dad is probably a different story, but he wasn't on the phone. Now we just have to tell MIL (ugh).

[mama_nym]

Originally Posted by jljeppson

Yeah, my birth practices are considered very out there by the women I go to church with.

My birth, parenting, and basically my LIVING practices are considered very out there by people I go to church with. Not many people knew I was having a homebirth before C was born at home, but afterwards my Dad (both my parents attended C's birth - it was my Dad's first birth) told EVERYONE about how amazing it was ... and mostly that C was almost 11 lbs!!!)

Originally Posted by loraxc

I finally told my mom we were having a HB and she was totally cool with it, rather to my surprise. Yay! My dad is probably a different story, but he wasn't on the phone. Now we just have to tell MIL (ugh).

Yay for your mom being cool with it!!! When I was pg with my first my Dad wanted nothing to do with birth talk and by the time i had my fourth he was excited to be at my homebirth!!! You never know with parents!

It's funny because my grandfather-in-law is the one who questions homebirth the most - and HE was born at home and he's a twin!!! It drives him crazy when I remind him of that.

[jljeppson]

Yeah, my dad isn't sure either. But my 4th birth we were having trouble finding someone to help out and he offered to catch if we wanted him to (he's a nurse, though hasn't practiced in yrs. Last time he delivered a baby was Vietnam!). He's same as your g-in-law, not a twin, but his family were poor farmers so he and his brother were both born at home. His twist is that by the time his sister came around there was a hospital relatively nearby and all the women were going there so his mom went to the hospital. Didn't come home with a sister though because the nurses killed her. Dr didn't get there in time and they crushed her head trying to prevent her from being born w/out a doc in the room. They blamed it on cephalopelvic disproportion but that's impossible for a 3rd baby that was smaller than the previous 2. TRUE CPD is extremely rare. Most cases of supposed CPD are a bunch of crock.

[Steady101]

I am avoiding telling anyone I am having a homebirth. I just don't want to have to defend it. It hasn't come up yet, probably because most people assume it will be at the hospital.