I can relate. I am 9 months pregnant and convinced that circumcision is a bad idea, yet my husband is not convinced. I am amazed and yet, relieved to read about the similarities here that I am going through myself. My husband too wouldn't do any research. He would just insist it be done. For most of my pregnancy, we just didn't talk about it. As the day draws near when our son will arrive, I brought it up gently and asked him to do some reseach. He did and even looked at sites I had hoped he would and I am now giving him space to absorb it all and have not brought it up again. I know my husband and I know he will need time to adjust to the idea of not circumcizing and to hopefully come to see why we shouldn't.
I would never say this to him at the moment, but regardless of what he decides, I cannot consent to my son being cut. It just will never happen. Because I feel this way, I'm praying he will come around. We only have a few more weeks to go now!
It's interesting to me as well, how it's the women who pave the way when it comes to certain things and men who are in denial or hide, etc and are always the last to get on board!
Also, of special note, my father is having a really hard time accepting that I don't want to circumcize. I can tell he's really upset about it but doesn't say too much to me as he respects that it's our decision. The decision not to circumcize can really upset a lot of of the family, not just the fathers (my mom doesn't really understand either..she circumcized my brother).
If you need any information or links to help with convincing DH just ask we are here to help.
In the mean time you are the one that has to sign the papers at the hospital, so you can just say "no." Just make sure you say it loudly, and often.