Have you felt the grass today?
So, Mamas, I'm just wondering: how do y'all feel that you do in this regard? Do you try to live in the moment, practice Zen parenting, and not allow yourself to react to everything? If so, what helps you?
That is your deep thought for the day.
I have to say this is something I am staying on top of. There are times that I want to pull my hair out...but honestly. I live in every moment, every bubble, every button, every giggle, every tear... because I so deeply treasure the times I have with my son.
I think part of this is just who I am. I have always been a nurturer and my lifelong dream was to be a mother. I think working mothers are insane, and though I am a feminist in many regards I think the feminist movement was the worst things for mothers.
I am a Christian, but I often refuse to claim that because Christianity in America is often a joke. I would rather my life show my beliefs than my words...I live this in the way I parent my son, the way I love my husband, the way I do my job *although I seriously hate my job*
I believe in the curses that were given in the garden in Genesis. The man was cursed that he would have to work for a living. The woman cursed to have pain in childbirth and the snake cursed to crawl on his belly. I believe that the feminist movement is taking on the curse of both the man and the woman and though women are strong and can endure that...it is the child who suffers the most in that regard. With that said. I am a working mother.
I think that being a working mother and feeling the way I do about working mothers is one of the things that helps me see past the little things and enjoy every moment I have with my son. I still cry when I drop him off at daycare and he's been going since he was 6 weeks old. I rush over to get him when I'm off work. I follow him around and follow his cues around the house and often fall asleep nursing him leaving the laundry and the dishes to be done another time. Many times he helps me do these chores and instead of taking 10 minutes to put clothes away...it takes us a half hour...but we giggle and crawl in and out of the dryer and listen to the door of the dryer.
Honestly...when Jacob was 14 months old we *DH and I* had the most amazing revelation that we seriously live by. In fact writing down now makes me think I should really make a magnet of it and put it up on my fridge. We were walking in to a mall to look for a wedding dress (I'M MARRIED TO THE MOST AMAZING MAN!!!) Jacob was stopping *A LOT* He bent down and started feeling the grass. We didn't stop him or pick him up but bent down and started looking at and feeling the grass with him. This was so new and exciting to him. We continued inside feeling the side of the trashcan, the bench, the stone walls of the mall, the glass of the doors and the extra 10 minutes that took was the world to him. He was glowing. Now we remember everyday to feel the grass.
One of the things DH loves to tell people about is the choice he makes to spend time or stress. It takes a few minutes to say *goodbye* to whatever Jacob was doing before we leave, or mass amounts of stress in his frustration and anger at being pulled away from something he wants to be doing. We prefer to spend a little time to save a LOT of stress.
It is important for mama to be taken care of and I have to say that in that case I am the most amazingly blessed woman in the world. DH has been a SAHD when we had to fire our DC at the end of last school year for negligence, so he knows what it is like to have that responsibility and he knows how much I want it. He takes care of me. He brings me breakfast in bed while I am nursing Jacob. He packs our lunches and takes care of the kitchen. He cooks dinner many nights and we switch off cleaning up the kitchen and giving Jacob his bath. He respects me and the mother I am.
That respect and love is really the answer to HOW do I do it. that, and the strength and love I have in my faith and my God.