May '04 babes are growing up to be CHILDREN. - Page 6

[orangecanoe]

ditto the tear duct goop stuff. E still occasionally gets it, but was pretty gunky the first week or two.

my brain is wilted from the heat...what was I thinking tackling the pool in 95 degree heat. phew!

[mamameg]

Hey Renae, Mia is eating raisins, and Jett was chomping some too, and it made me wonder... how are things with Raisin Mama? Hope that situation hasn't been causing you any stress lately.

Goopy eye. Jett had it for a few weeks. Massage the tear ducts. It usually goes away in a few weeks, but can continue for several months. Nothing to worry about, from everything I've read. But you've probably looked it up and figured all this out on your own by now.

I am tripping out - on Thurs night we went to Sultan's 8th grade promotion ceremony. He's on his way to HIGH SCHOOL! I can hardly believe it.

DH did something at the ceremony that made me so proud of him! He regularly read the Megan's Law website and keeps up on local registered sex offenders. We live in a small community, so it makes sense that we could actually run into these people around town. Well, during the ceremony, he spotted a guy he recognized from the site - taking pictures with a telephoto lens. CREEPO!!!!!!! DH discreetly excused himself, called the cops, discreetly described where the guy was sitting/what he was wearing. The cop spotted him and said, "oh yeah... we know him." They waited until the ceremony was over and discreetly escorted him away. Blatant parole violation, as I believe RSOs may not be within 1500 or 2500 ft of any school. Muchless on campus with a CAMERA, TAKING PHOTOS. :Puke So yeah, John totally stepped up, stepped in, took action and protected some kids... all without disrupting a very special ceremony! he even saw Sultan walk across the stage to get his Certificate of Promotion. YAY DH! I'm beaming with pride over it. But it was really creepy at the same time. The CREEPIEST part of it all was watching the guy and the woman he was with being escorted out. Neither of them looked the least bit alarmed, or annoyed. Totally emotionless, as if they know the drill, and know it well. Sick sick sick. I can only hope that guy was booked and his camera/film was confiscated. John's thinking about following up with the cops to see what happened. It should all be a matter of public record.

Feeling GOOD today. (Thanks for all the great comments and support on the YG : ) It's our anniversary today (6 yrs married, 11 yrs together) and the kids are staying the night at my parents house tonight. We are going to a silent auction benefit for Mia's preschool tonight (we're raising money for a new playground), and while it's not my first choice of how to spend our anniversary, we get to get dressed up, drink wine, eat yummy food and socialize with new and old friends. So it should be fun. Is it totally awful that we have virtually no money to bid on anything? Oh well.... we donated a couple of things to auction off, and we are going to the actual event ($150/couple), so I guess I don't feel too bad. I just hope there are enough wealthy people there to make up for our lack of bidding. At least we're showing up! Some people aren't even doing that.

Okay, gotta get some lunch together for Mia and I while Jett is napping. MMF!

[elsanne]

Want to post something witty, but can't find anything to say.

I'm happily, blissfully, peacefully ALONE right now, it's incredible. Going to go play with myself (and NO, NOT LIKE THAT, you pervs).

[KKmama]

Just checkin' in. T and I are at the computer, working on a rewards chart (rewards as in, you get 10 stars, you can see Revenge of the Wererabbit). Went to Touch a Truck this morning. I hope the boys are exhausted and nap well (because I want one).

Meg, that was just creepy. Kudos to John for keeping it low-key. And major to Sultan. That's a big step, going to high school next fall.

That's all for now. Busy busy weekend as usual.

[jstar]

Originally Posted by mamameg

Goopy eye. Jett had it for a few weeks. Massage the tear ducts. It usually goes away in a few weeks, but can continue for several months. Nothing to worry about, from everything I've read. But you've probably looked it up and figured all this out on your own by now.

im trying to massage the tear duct and it is still goopy but not quite as bad. i'm not so bugged about it but it is driving my MIL nuts. OH YOUR POOR EYE! i'm not rushing off to the ped for it which i think she wants me to. we'll be there wednesday anyway

just sayin hi. today i've spent virtually the entire day sitting down and whaddya know...i feel a lot better 'down there'. i took isaac grocery shopping yesterday and after pushing the race car shopping cart and walking for an hour i was in a lot of pain last night. made me realize i *need* to stay off my feet


i've only been to yellowstone in the winter. and i only visited the very edge in montana where i went cross country skiing for the 1st time. it was beeeutiful and there were insane amounts of animal tracks in the snow. i'd love to see it in the summer sometime.


isaac's new haircut is so cute i can't believe i waited so long to take him in. he looks about 6 years old now.


ok mamas -HELP! isaac is 100% in underwear now (even at night) but he is holding his poop in. he's resistant to pooping on the potty he was doing a little better with it...some accidents and sometimes on the potty but MIL told me he fell in and hit teh water a few days ago and i think that has him freaked. i've been telling him he is going to get a bad tummyache but i don't know what else to do to encourage him to go. it has been DAYS

[mcsarahb]

Originally Posted by jstar

ok mamas -HELP! isaac is 100% in underwear now (even at night) but he is holding his poop in. he's resistant to pooping on the potty he was doing a little better with it...some accidents and sometimes on the potty but MIL told me he fell in and hit teh water a few days ago and i think that has him freaked. i've been telling him he is going to get a bad tummyache but i don't know what else to do to encourage him to go. it has been DAYS

Can you get one of those little inserts? Lily sometimes uses it and sometimes doesn't, but it's handy when she doesn't want to hold on for dear life just to poop.

[KKmama]

Dear MCSB, are you talking about an insert to the toilet seat, so Isaac doesn't fall in, or an insert to his fanny, so the poop falls out? Inquiring minds want to know.

[fiddlefern]

Hi everymama. Caught up on 4 pages of reading.

I had an exhausting shift this weekend. Showed up at work yesterday to find an ISP intake meeting in progress (meeting to have a new client stay there). The other crisis client left a few weeks ago. New client was seriously medically fragile and WAY over our heads. I first insisted another staff spend the night with me. Then the two of us spent the whole night calling everyone and their mother. It ended with us calling 911 around midnight and saying it was dangerous for the person to stay with us. All ended well- the client got surgery at OHSU today. But then I had 15 pages of paperwork to complete and/or photocopy for the county. We went ALL the way up the chain of command to make this happen. Whew. Glad to be home, even though home is messy and I'm behind on my financial stuff here. Poor W didn't get much attention, as I was pretty distracted by WORK during my shift. He seems happy to be home too. He is such an incredible sweety (happy sigh).

Lisa- I am thinking of you and your dad. I am glad you have had so much more time with him then you originally anticipated, but that must be hard/good.

Jstar- I am LOVING hearing about E. Loving it. Hope the sore nips are all gone soon (well, the soreness, not the nips.) tee hee.

Doh- just realized I missed a whole page of posts- off to go read that now. Nighty-night all!

[elsanne]

kk, I think she means toilet insert (the holding on for dear life cued me in).

gah. funky sunday so far, hope it gets better!

[orangecanoe]

jstar--only tip would be to add some of jacqueline's special recipe chocolate prune flax muffins to his diet so he can't hold it. C's issues are more tricky so we do the non-crunchy med. thing. She also prefers the little potty/feet on the floor thing so maybe a potty seat plus foot stool would help? Or just sitting backwards on the potty?

FF--ack! Sounds stressful to deal with, but in the end that you guys advocated for the client and got them where they could get more appropriate treatment. phew!


Rain, rain go away. We were supposed to go to Sesame Place tomorrow, but the weather is looking iffy. Bummer! Was supposed to meet up with an old HS friend there too! TG I hadn't told C in advance or I wouldn't hear the end of it.

We hit the pool again yesterday and the girls had fun. MUCH easier with DH there! I couldn't believe what a little daredevil E was jumping off the side of the pool into the water with no fear. No doubt my girls are opposites!

So Els, did you have fun playing with yourself?

[jstar]

we do have an insert and stool. i guess he just didn't put the insert in that time.

still no poop and doug gave him kid lax this morning. he had to go and told me he had to go and hopped up on the pot but he was still resisting and i'm sure it is going to be a doozy. i also have glycerin squeezer things for babies. i may try one of those later if he acts like he needs to go. he also has the little bjorn up in his room and sometimes he'll sneak away and go there. or use it when he wakes up from nap. i think the feet on the floor is easier for him. this is hard.....at what point do you go to the doctor? i am *super* paranoid about this because i was hospitalized at 3 for constipation. and kids can really stretch out their colons and do damage.

i've never shown him how to sit backwards but that might be a new novelty to him. he refuses to sit to pee anymore. loves to stand and point it

fiddlefern - that sounds like a really stressful night at work. i'm glad you had someone there with you and that you got help for the client. yikes.


new babe has 'diaper' issues. we can't contain the pee and poo to save our lives bummis always worked great for isaac but this babe has chicken legs. E slept from 10pm til 3:30 last night! and i'm convinced he only woke because he peed out his outfit. then we were up til 5:30 and slept til 7:30. not TOO bad so far. he seems to have a good 5 hour stretch most nights and if he didn't pee or poo himself out i think he may go longer. my MIL is not diggin the cloth (plus they're leaky too) so we just bought size 2 dipes and we'll see how it goes must feed the beast

[orangecanoe]

jstar---you're using prefolds, right? Have you tried the bikini twist fold? C had chicken legs and that's the only thing that held it in. PM'ing you about the other stuff.

I met with my trainer at the Y on Friday and I'm still sore! But I was good and went again today and did most of the weights and 30 min of cardio and I was pooped. Guess maybe I should've started back at the Y earlier than 20wks, huh?

[Miss Juice]

Heath - 20 weeks already???
'snot possible!!! :

(I think it's a girl)

[mcsarahb]

Originally Posted by Miss Juice

Heath - 20 weeks already???
'snot possible!!! :

I know, right?! Sheesh. You people MUST stop skipping weeks on me. I can only take so many new human beings in my life at a time.

I think it's a boy.

S.

[orangecanoe]

C thinks it's a girl, but I still haven't got a clue! Apparently, according to C, the names are Maggie for a girl and Bobby for a boy. I have inside info that neither of those are the names, but you'll have to wait til Halloween to find out for sure! Forget me lamenting lack of movement....baby got the message and has commenced turning cartwheels!

okay....need to finish uploading some pics and get to bed already!

[elsanne]

MJ do you see your ddddc?

[elsanne]

Awwwwww Heath you talking about baby movement gives me a little pang of nostalgia...pregnancy is so amazing.

[emmalola]

I'll go with boy. Just because I'm stubborn that way.

We had a very busy weekend- sweets is still out of town and we had to deal with a trip to the zoo, a tornado (total rarity in NM!), a snake in the house, a subsequent new pet, and doggie diarrhea. It's just a barrel of monkeys around here. And my mom is visiting, and is being frustratingly slow to pick up on helping out with the lentil. Why is it she'll mop the floor without being asked, but I have to beg her to read to him for 20 minutes so I can take a shower? I just don't get it. And then she talks about how much she wants to be a part of my children's lives. What is she thinking?

So while she was taking her second nap of the day today (yes- two naps!), I taught the lentil how to play drums on a giant 5 gallon barrel. in the house. with sticks. I don't even get to nap twice in one day, and I'm pregnant! She went clothes shopping while the lentil was sleeping and when she got back and I was still awake she gave me a hard time for not napping. But I couldn't nap because I had to set up the new snake house, eat lunch, clean up lunch, and take care of other business. I don't know what the woman is thinking. drives me up the wall.

But at least she mopped the kitchen, right?

Oh- a friend just lent us 3 boxes full of cloth diapers- mostly fuzzi bunz and a few bummis. I'm not even sure what to do with them. Because we had limited laundry access at our old house, we used disposables with the lentil. It's a little crazy around here!

[nuggetsmom]

KK- Tetons are beautiful and very close. You can camp there and visit Yellowstone

Jacqueline - it is amazing what a teenager can do with a preschooler when it comes to learning to swim. That is what we did - the parks and rec class uses teenager who teach the kids swimming and they love it. So G will learn but it may be with someone else

The BD party was OK. Not everyone figured out that it was a stuffed animal exchange and there was tiredness and confusion, but I am sticking with this concept. It will catch on eventually I think.

I can forward the prune flaxseed muffin recipe on the YG or even here. J also holds her poop in and I called the advice nurse who said - well they can't hold it in forever but as long as you don't do it regularly, you can give her a laxative. But I think the laxative gives her tummy aches so I won't be doing that again. The glycerine supposetories freak J out and I don't do that anymore. Last time she screamed for hours she was so upset. The lax will work eventually, so give it time.

We have a seat that fits over the regular seat and flips up and down. I think you can get something like it at one step ahead. Very convenient.

I love the baby talk about all our babies. 504 or not

HF 20wks?:

Lisa, I truly feel for you about your dad. The extra time is nice, but this must still be a hard time for you.

Usually if I check in after this long there is a page worths from Renae. She must really be in a funk.

The Ballet recital was indeed hours of driving and waiting so we could see her for 3 minutes of which 2 were spent peering out at the crowd (which was in the dark) to see if she could see us. It was great. (yes there is a hint of sarcasm) Then N was upset that we did not get her flowers.:

[Mama Faery]

Hey.
I am so sorry I haven't been very regular here...part of it is that I am trying really hard NOT to spend too much time on the computer (haha, I end up wasting time in all sorts of other ways ) and well, it's getting towards summer and I cannot believe how much activities increase the more sun we get. Which is great, sure, but I swear, I am doing something every freakin' day until August!

Also, as I am about to get into, Rowan is...well, I guess he's THREE. *sigh* I hope I am not the only one who is going through the absolute freakin' MADNESS.

I miss you all, truly.

Basically, though I have barely been here, I come to you with some d-rama. I hope that's okay.
Rowan is...well, I've been saying he's totally INSANE, but that doesn't help anyone. :
Let's see, where do I even start? He screeches. I mean, if he asks for something (in his totally horribly whiny voice, EVEN when I ask him as calmly as I can to use his "regular" voice, he ignores me--the whine is practically all I hear anymore) if he asks for something and I DARE to say "no" (and I don't say "no" often!) he SCREAMS and repeats himself over and over again, working himself into a frenzy that I cannot break through in ANY way. It gets worse if I walk away, worse if I try talking to him, and then, finally, I raise my voice. THEN he gets more upset and tells me "not to yell, Mama!!"
Mind you, he's been yelling for 20 minutes. :
It usually culminates in me threatening to take him upstairs for a break, or screaming at him, or everyone in tears. It SUCKS.

And then, god forbid DH and I want to TAKE him anywhere (no matter WHAT it is--church, a carnival, the children's museum, the GROCERY STORE), either he will talk it up like the best thing ever, but once we get there he freaks out completely and SCREAMS if we try to remove him from the car--Saturday we went to a freind's birthday party an HOUR away, and he screamed to go home. We left him in the car (safely, of course) for 1/2 hour before we could get him out, and he still cried for 10 more minutes.
Or, like yesterday with church, he just flat-out said NO. Actually he said:
"Mama, you go to church by yourself, I stay here and play with Daddy"
Dude, church used to be one of the only times we could just sit and *be*, listen to a service, socialize a little, and Rowan got some socialization with a few friends his age in the child care room, which he USED to love.

And he gets our UNDIVIDED attention SO MUCH of the time...he gets plenty of free play, we don't overpack our days with activities, it's not like we drag him all over creation and he just wants a little time at home. He *gets* time at home, trust me! We have no plans today! He just NEVER wants to DO anything!!

He's afraid of EVERYTHING; or he SAYS he is. He wants to watch endless amounts of television (well, DVD's and PBS, respectively) and when I go to turn it off, see above. It took me 1/2 hour yesterday evening to get him from the television to outside for dinner, with time out threats, yelling, TRYING to empathize, comforting, more raising voices, more throwing hands up and saying, near tears, "I can't deal with this!"...you see what I'm saying.

Oh, and what happened to my child who would at least TRY any food we gave him?? He helped DH make eggplant parm yesterday, but did he touch it? Oh, NO--he screeched when we even ASKED him to take a teeny bite. he ate plain pasta and an orange juice popsicle, with a few tiny bites of broccolini in between. That was it. Oh, and a banana right before bedtime.

We've let our zoo, aquarium and museum memberships lapse because I'm not spending hundreds of dollars (or rather, letting the IL's spend that much) for him to NEVER go, or freak out once we get there.
Basically, everything is a nightmare right now and I don't know what to do.
I've resorted to, I have to admit, just sitting his impossible little butt in front of an hour of Oswald, or Blue's Clues, just letting him TV himself out until he is FINALLY ready to deal with life again. I don't know what else to do. : : :
(I know, I know. I have to break the cycle. I just...especially on crappy days where we can't go ANYWHERE...I dont know what else to do! Half the time he yells at me to "go AWAY, Mama!!" *sigh* I am at a loss)

I am also pi$$ed at our pediatrician (well, not HIM, but his office). You have to call and *leave a message* to get an appointment for physicals, and they call you back at *their* convenience. Um, I called them like last Tuesday, and nothing. No call back, and all I can do is leave another message. They won't even TALK to me if Rowan's not immediately *sick* How messe dup is that??? If it weren't for the fact that our Dr. is awesome, or if I had more energy to care right now (I don't), I would switch peds again. I just can't be bothered anymore.

I know the reasons he could be doing this (he weaned, he's three, it's a phase, transitions, blah blah blah) but that doesn't help me DEAL WITH IT.

And I don't expect any solutions. Yesterday I just looked at DH and said "Oh god, what is happening to him?? Is he autistic? Crazy? Sick??? WHAT???"
I need to go read some stuff that reassures me that he's normal. *sigh*
And I needed to come to my May Mamas for some reassurance.

Not to mention the slight depression I find myself in post-weaning. *sigh* I am not equipped to deal right now.

Sorry for the depressing novel. Maybe I should have moved this to the YG, but I think this is MDC-safe.
Honestly, today, I don't really care.

Have a great day, everyone. I will try to be more present in the future. When I'm like, not on vacation, anyway. One good thing about this summer is all the fun stuff that's happening. More on that later.