Okay, I have a little dilemma,
for those ignorant and uncool folk who dont closely follow the life and times of the (in)famous Mama Majikfaerie
; we've just moved to a new country (australia) and are searching for a homely-home somewhere in the bush where we can live happily, me and dh can work from home (need internet connection), and DD can be part of a local unschooling/ hsing group with other "crunchy" families...
Well, we're in the rainbow region of Oz, an area populated by hippies, new-agers and ferals, its chocka-block with organic farms, sustainable communities, eco-villages, rainbow people, rainforest, more organic stuff... even the rednecks are into crystals and reiki.
We found a PERFECT place; a small acreage, with 3 dwellings on it, 200 fruit trees, a salt-water swimming pool, a sweet-water spring on tap, electricity and phone connected with possiblity to connect ADSL, gas cooking and hot water set up, AND the other two dwellings house single mothers with children around DD's age!!! not only that, its CHEAP RENT!!!!
Even better, one of the single mothers turns out to be an old friend of mine, and her 5 1/2 yo dd became instant best friends with my dd, AND (get this); the mama (who is a WAHM with a ring sling business) has a dream of starting a homeschooling group with as many local kids as she can!
Sounds like a dream too good to be true right?
so here's my problem:
DH and I are actually bordering on "anti-school", in the sence that we dont want to do traditional home-schooling (where it becomes "schhol-at-home"). But it seems that this mama IS planning on it - she has just bought a gorgeous antique school-desk (the kind with space for 2 kids to sit on a bench, with attached table that lifts up and the bench also lifts up so the kids can kneel to pray - no, she's not xtian, just that the bench is THAT old!)
We really have a problem with how this woman treats her daughter; she is really into the praise/ reward thing, and we are really NOT, and she uses all the same conditional manipulations that we really dont like (you know, "if you dont do as I say, then you cant do X" kinda stuff).
We are really wanting to have a more radical unschooling environment, and we are committed to unconditional parenting (in a simialr way to Kohn's principles), and uninhindered living. But this mama, tho really crunchy and into AP, isnt doing any of that stuff.
I'm just not sure I want to move in with this kind of environment, and I dont really want to try to convert her... I dont really mind how she raises her daughter, but it looks like our DDs will be spending a LOT of time together, and the woman is already planning how we will do shared lessons...