so, who have you told? - Page 2

[jaxinsmom]

Originally Posted by azyre

So much so, as I sat cuddling DN, FIL commented how lovely I'd look there holding a grandson, about the 5th grandson comment in relation to DN that day.

That's so sad. Ds was the first grandchild for everyone, and the majority wanted me to be having a girl, but fell completly in love with him when he was born (really, what's not to love! )


I'm not sure how i'd handle that, maybe just reply (each time they make a boy vs. girl comment) that you and dp are simply praying for a healthy child, and anything else is icing on the cake.

[loraxc]

I told my parents, because I tested + on my mom's birthday. And I told the Internet, and two of my best friends. Oh, and DH told my MIL. I haven't told siblings, local friends, or anyone at work (!) yet.

And we haven't told DD (3 years 3 months), but I swear, she KNOWS ANYWAY. She's spooky like that.

[LaurenB]

Originally Posted by azyre

So much so, as I sat cuddling DN, FIL commented how lovely I'd look there holding a grandson, about the 5th grandson comment in relation to DN that day.

That is disgusting. It's like they took a look at you holding a child and said that the only thing ruining the picture was that the child was all wrong. It is horrible to think that, but completely unforgivable to say it out loud in front of that child or any of the other granddaughters.
I know my pregnancy hormones are making me crazy, but I'm tearing up thinking about it. My grandpa was so proud of his three granddaughters. If he ever in a million years wished for a grandson, none of us ever once heard anything of it. And that's how it should be.

Originally Posted by jaxinsmom

I'm not sure how i'd handle that, maybe just reply (each time they make a boy vs. girl comment) that you and dp are simply praying for a healthy child, and anything else is icing on the cake.

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[mama_nym]

I'm being soooo good this time and waiting to tell my parents! I've seen them several times since we found out and I've kept my mouth shut!

I've told 3 friends IRL and a bunch of online friends - I'm waiting to tell one specific (local) message board because I don't want anyone letting it slip to my kids just yet. I'm only 4.5 weeks pg and feel it's just a bit too early to tell everyone! We'll tell our kids on Saturday when we stop for breakfast on our way to visit dh's family (8 hour drive - our vacation!) and then dh's family when we arrive (via a Boyds Bear pregnant bear given as a gift to dh's grandmother, who collects bears), and then my family at my mom's retirement party on the 23rd! This is child #5 for us, so I figure I should tell my parents (who already think we're nuts) when they're surrounded by friends and family and at least need to act nice about it!

[mom3b1?]

Yeah, my mom is coming for a visit and she's going to figure it out real fast when I won't share a bottle of wine with her. I'm trying to think of some ploy to throw her off the trail. She's going to KILL me when she finds out. She's great, but she knows how busy I am with the kids I've got, an the timing isn't great, and I'm old, and the lists of why we should have been more careful goes on and on. She'll be fine with it, eventually, but I'd rather put off telling her a couple of months.

Kiley

[ShanghaiMama]

I decided I'm going to try to keep it hush hush until around July, but plan on telling family on Father's Day. I have told a few very close friends, too.

Annoyingly, I find that people keep confronting me about it and putting me on the spot. When someone notices I'm not drinking coffee or margaritas, they ask "why? are you pregnant?." These days I have a bad case of baby brain and really lack the ability to think quick to throw them off the trail. Instead I just end up fumbling and stammering..."uh, uh, uh...no." Then I feel terrible about the lie and wonder if I'm karmically doomed becuase I just denied the thing I want most...

[phillybama]

Yeah, the not-drinking-alcohol is the big tip-off for me too. I don't want to sound like a lush, but I do enjoy a nice Belgian ale!

My DH and I are real beer-lovers, meaning we go to beer festivals and the like. The fact that I have been turning down some great beer definitely puts up warning signals. The best excuses I have been able to come up with (and I don't know if my friends believe me, especially the women) are that my allergies are acting up so I can't mix alcohol with my medication OR I am trying to lose some weight and I have decided to cut alcohol temporarily.

Do you think they believe me?

[loraxc]

We just saw some old friends who were visiting and I'm SURE they noticed me not having any wine or beer. I almost told them, but it would have meant telling a whole bunch of people I don't know that well. Last time I got pregnant, we went out for dinner and I didn't order a beer and the guy said, "Hey, no beer? Are you pregnant??" I was like 4 weeks.

[LaurenB]

I had the best time last night. First I called my mother in law and told her the news and she started to cry. She said "My little boy is going to be a father!" It was awesome. Then later dh and I had dinner with my mom. When we got into her van, I gave her some documents she needed with my test results from the doctor on top. She looked at it for a moment and then started to scream. She was sooo excited. She couldn't stop smiling all through dinner. It was so fun.