Originally Posted by RachaelAustin
Hi (WAVES!!). This is me in the photos birthing my second baby. I for the most part caught my little girl, the midwife helped out at the last minute, she was a little tight at her hips, of all places
For my first birth, a rural hospital land birth, my husband caught our son. I was much more prepared this time around, and prepared myself to be able to catch her, a personal quest if you like.
It was amazing to feel, but as Kaede`'s head was birthed, I asked is it all the way out? I was a bit high on oxytocin and could't work it out, but it didn't feel right. Anyway, after my husband and midwife looked closely, her hand had been born with her head, exactly the same as my son's had, which made it feel strange.
I've now gone into private practice as a midwife, and will be encouraging women or their partners to catch their own babies...I'll be there to just help out if needed. It will be a big family affair with both my breastfeeding children comming along to births too
Well, your birth pics are beautiful, and my kids all love to look at them. I'm especially fond of the one where your baby is looking up at you through the water.
: Thank you so much for sharing them, and good luck in your midwifery practice. I completed my entire apprenticeship while pg and/or bfing, so I know what that is like.
Originally Posted by forthebest
I think catching your own baby is totally doable and 'normal'. I think truly handsoff midwives are probably a rarity, tho hopefully more will come along. Maybe their training just kicks in and they feel 'robbed' or inconsequential when they are not 'needed' to catch a baby, like they have to do something to justify their being there, I 've seen the greed/orthodoxy in some of their eyes almost like this is their moment or something, like now let me do what I'm here for, I think they get jealous, some not all and maybe some are learning to let go of these selfish feelings or never had them in the first place would be better imo. I uc'ed 2 of my dc and was so very close to the ground that there wasn't much of a fall onto the towels and cushions we put there and my xp and self both caught baby. I dunno, I always feel it's like baby is a possession of the medical establishment or something and they feel a right to take this precious empowering moment away from you. If I was in an assistant or midwife capacity at a birth I for one would not assume nor want to do the catching, I would never dream of taking that away from the mom and her partner. Nor would I feel like I should even be present in the room actually unless specifically requested and I would be way too busy cleaning, preparing food, entertaing other dc, feeding the chickens, making up massage oils if that was what mom wanted etc but many people do not have such faith in labouring women and respect for their privacy as I do and I guess many midwives do not really support this autonomy. I think if I was attending a labouring woman, massage would be very beneficial esp during contractions.
Personally, when I was trained as a mw, I was taught that uc birthers were irresponsible, poorly educated, and most of the time, just didn't want to have to pay a mw. My own personal experiences have lead me to believe otherwise, and although I think that it is a small minority still, I do believe that more and more mws are coming to the same realization: that we can be mws, and still approach birth from a hands-off perspective. Not that mws should just fulfill a doula-type role in birth (because the two roles are completely different), but that we can be "with women" w/o having to actually have our hands involved in the birth process. If you look at the midwifery literature that it out there (w/ the exception of Michel Odent and Sarah Buckley--who are both MDs), this is not really something that is talked about, and therefore, I think that the mws who are taking this approach are doing so more out of personal beliefs and a change in philosophy from mainstream midwifery training. I still feel as though I am just beginning my journey though, and maybe we are really just coming back to what midwifery once actually was... I'd love to hear other mws weigh in on this.