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Weekly thread! June 4-June 10

post #1 of 75
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I'm exhausted today; it was a busy weekend. On Saturday, my inlaws came over. It was the first day the pool was open, and my FIL and MIL helped DH mulch the flower beds in the front yard. It was really hot and I spent a good portion of the time inside, playing with my nephew. My SIL wants to get a sling, but wasn't sure what kind she wanted, so we were trying him in all my slings (I've got quite the collection : ) I ended up wearing him in the maya tie for quite a while. Then, when the mulching was done, DH started up the BBQ and we all hit the pool.

Then, yesterday, a mama from my old DDC (June 05) came over with her husband and their daughter. We had lunch together. Unfortunately, it was raining, so we couldn't spend a ton of time outside like we originally wanted to, but we still had a lot of fun.

And my family came over for dinner last night, and ended up camping out till almost 10pm. I've consistently been in bed around 9pm lately : So, there you go, I'm exhausted. :

I've been spotting a bit here and there for the past couple of weeks. Never a lot, just some on a wipe and it's never red or pink, just dark dark dark. So, I'm not freaking out, but I'm a bit concerned. I had the same thing with my daughter, just not as ongoing. My mother chose this morning to "remind" me that "You can still lose this baby, Sha. You're not 12 weeks yet." : I said, "Mom, you can lose a baby AFTER 12 weeks. Thanks for the ray of sunshine though"

Cripes, WHY would you say that to a woman who's ALREADY worried abouther baby? Sometimes my mother opens her mouth and I really just want to stick my fist in it. :
post #2 of 75
Sharon- so sorry about your mother's insensitive comments. WHY do people feel the need to share every stupid thought that comes into their minds????

I'm fine- we had a good weekend and celebrated our seventh anniversary! Seems like such a long time and gosh, we were such kids! This morning I woke up in a FOUL mood, yuck. I'm hoping it will pass after I take my vitamins. I do have my first u/s today- I'm half nervous and half excited.
post #3 of 75
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Hi Kellie! You'll be able to use more emoticons in your signature when you've got more posts under your belt. Not sure why there is that distinction, but there is. I don't remember how many posts it is that graduates you, but one of our other members might know.

Erika, Happy anniversary!!! Dh and I will be celebrating our seventh anniversary in September. 2000 was a good year to get married; you can never forget how long you've been hitched. :
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Ugh!

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post #5 of 75
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Originally Posted by SeaDoula View Post
dp also has an old friend he used to party with and I saw they had been messaging a lot. Long story short I snooped and found that he had been talking badly about me, saying I don't do anything around the house, that I don't pay for bills, and that he "doesn't know how long it will last"


I don't have any comforting words, other than I'm sorry! I hope that he's the talking kind and that you guys can have some civil conversations when he gets home and work things out. Maybe he's just freaking out about becoming a father again, and isn't expressing it in the best way. I wish you much patience....I'm in the Seattle area, too----if you want to vent sometime, I'm free to get together.

We went hiking yesterday morning with a friend from grad school who was in town. Not a bad hike, just 2 miles each way and 1200 feet elevation gain. We went out for dim sum afterwards which was WONDERFUL, but I was stupid and didn't eat as much as I needed to. I was worried that there would be a disagreement over the check, that our friend would end up paying, so I didn't want to pig out. By the time we got home I had a splitting hunger-headache, and it still hasn't gone away about 22 hours later. Ugh. DS didn't sleep well last night either, and has been going to sleep far too late and getting up far too early resulting in a cranky two-year-old. Ugh. There's my rant.

He's being a sweetheart right now, despite his best efforts at smothering me by sitting on my head in bed this morning. We're just doing some puzzles together.

I bought some summer maternity clothes this weekend at a consignment store. I was able to get some cute things because I figure I won't be terribly large by the time fall comes around and I can get into my winter maternity clothes from last time, thus avoiding tents for the summer.
post #6 of 75
I'm so sorry, mama. I really don't know what to say about that. Sometimes men have a hard time adjusting when their wife is pregnant. It's different for us b/c we have signs immediately, we aer super tired, feel sick most of the day, and are just not our regular selves. Daddys sometimes have a hard time processing it, since they can't even SEE anything wrong w/ you yet (no belly, no baby wiggling). I hope this is what it is.

I guess MS decided to start really getting me down this weekend. I really felt awful from about 5:00 last night for the rest of the evening. Just reallly pukey, but I didnt actually throw up, but lots of dry heaves. YUCK! I am feeling better this morning, though!
post #7 of 75
Well I had a bummer of a morning today. I was scheduled for my first prenatal appt. at 10:15 this morning. Got up and out the door with plenty of time, told the kids about the baby and they were so excited to go and hear the heartbeat. Get on the highway to go the birthing center and it looks like a parking lot! Tons of traffic, barely crawling along. Now, we have traffic problems around here but this was past rush hour and even then its not that bad! So after a while we get off to try and go a back way and...more traffic. We basically sat in traffic for almost and hour and got no where! So I had to call and cancel b/c there was no way we could make it in time. Luckily they have an appt. for next Monday so I don't have to wait too long. Still, so dissapointing! The kids were really bummed too
Oh and when we got home we looked online and found out the cause of the traffic was that there had been a bad accident and someone died : Kind of puts things into perspective, Its just a missed appt. in the end.

Otherwise we had a nice, if not terribly exciting, weekend. And now the kids know about the baby so thats nice. My 2 yo is already asking a lot of questions and he wants to know why he can't see the baby now. Oh and they had an argument over whether it was a girl or a boy. Ooookay.

And now I think I'm going to head out and look for some maternity clothes. I'm sitting here with my button undone on my pants b/c its uncomfortable so I think its time
post #8 of 75
hey I've just been feeling SOOO LAZY. Like don't enjoy my normal activities (cooking especially). Don't really care to eat cause it's too much trouble.

my first doctor's appt. was today at my 6-week mark. It was basically me griping about how tired I am all the time and she (being an MD) recommmending my next step be an OB.

our tour of the local freestanding birth center (midwife-run) is this coming Wednesday night

I got my hair cut off today cause I'm sick of any extraneous unnecessary things going on in my life

I mentioned to my doc how unstable I've been feeling and she reassured me it's normal. God I hope so
post #9 of 75
I had my six-week appointment with the OB nurse today and I got a ton of information about prenatal testing, etc., which has given my partner and me a whole lot to think about. Do we pay the extra $160 to test for Downs Syndrome? Man, I don't know.

I go back in two weeks and will be able to hear the baby's heartbeat, which I'm super excited about. And, I'll get to meet one of the four midwives on my midwife team. Has anyone else had more than one midwife? I think they do this to ensure that you have developed a rapport with whomever is on call the night you deliver, which is neat, but also kind of intimidating.

All-day-and-night sickness and fatigue are wearing me out, and we're about to make a 10-hour trek to visit family in another part of the country. The nurse told us we need to stop the car and get out for lots of drinks and walks along the way, so who knows how long it will actually take us to get there! I'm looking forward to the visit, if only because we have decided to announce the pregnancy while we're there so they can hear it in person instead of over the phone or in email.

Does anyone have a pregnancy blog that they update for family/friends to read? I am thinking of starting one, but I don't know what blog service would be best. Do they make blogging tools especially for pregnant ladies? (They have them for everything else, so I wouldn't be surprised.)

Hope everyone is hanging in there!
post #10 of 75
http://melaniemonkey.livejournal.com/profile is my "blog" since a while ago but has obviously now turned into pretty much all pregnancy talk if anyone wants to add!
post #11 of 75
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Hi Kellie! You'll be able to use more emoticons in your signature when you've got more posts under your belt. Not sure why there is that distinction, but there is. I don't remember how many posts it is that graduates you, but one of our other members might know.

Erika, Happy anniversary!!! Dh and I will be celebrating our seventh anniversary in September. 2000 was a good year to get married; you can never forget how long you've been hitched. :
or have a child.. makes remembering how old Madison is when I am caught off guard especially with preggo brain!
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I don't have any comforting words, other than I'm sorry! I hope that he's the talking kind and that you guys can have some civil conversations when he gets home and work things out. Maybe he's just freaking out about becoming a father again, and isn't expressing it in the best way. I wish you much patience....I'm in the Seattle area, too----if you want to vent sometime, I'm free to get together.

We went hiking yesterday morning with a friend from grad school who was in town. Not a bad hike, just 2 miles each way and 1200 feet elevation gain. .
Sure fire way to bring on labor is to walk/hike down Snoqulamie falls and back up again.. at the end of Aug of course when it is nice and hot out..
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Does anyone have a pregnancy blog that they update for family/friends to read? I am thinking of starting one, but I don't know what blog service would be best. Do they make blogging tools especially for pregnant ladies? (They have them for everything else, so I wouldn't be surprised.)

Hope everyone is hanging in there!
I would think that blogger would be the best way or even Myspace.. lol..

but this is a cool ticker to have on a blog webpage too.. you can put up to 10 babies in there.

http://babystrology.com/tickers/index.html
post #14 of 75
I'm doing ok.. a lot more tired and I get winded walking up and down the stairs!! : Busy weekend. Went to a community yard sale found Aidan a bed and some maternity shirts and then some jeans at a consignment store. I have all my summer stuff from Aidan so I was gearing up for fall winter when I will be bigger. My appt is friday with the nurse and paperwork and hopefully be able to meet with the MW too. MS comes and goes.. I just get queasy and so I eat nonstop every couple hours.. changing poopy teethign cloth diapers does not help either!! and i have an iron stomach!
post #15 of 75
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Re: Prenatal testing....

You ultimately need to do what's going to make you and your partner most comfortable. I'll tell you what DH and I decided with our last pregnancy, which will carry over to this pregnancy.

The only prenatal testing we had done was the typical CBC panel that they do at the first visit, a 20 week ultra sound, and the GBS test. We did not test for Down's or anything else. We decided that if our child did have something like Down's, it wouldn't change the fact that we were having a child. Anything that would have required special medical attention for the baby (spina bifida, etc) would have been caught on the ultrasound.

Our decision was partially based on the fact that I've worked in OB and have seen how many false positives arise from all those tests. Then pregnant moms get totally stressed out, their blood pressure goes through the roof, and the baby's well being may suffer as a result, for nothing. Often, the next step is an amnio, which carries a pretty hefty risk of miscarriage, and is seriously stressful in and of itself.

Our decision was later reinforced by a situation that arose with DH's cousin. She had all the standard prenatal testing done and was advised that the problems with her baby were so severe that she should terminate. She did, at 20-something weeks. Then, she opted to have the baby autopsied, which revealed that all the problems that the doctors had "seen" in the course of her testing, were completely nonexistant.

Now, for every person who says that there's no reason for all this testing, there's someone who will tell you that prenatal testing saved their child's life. So, again, I revert to my original statement; ultimately you need to decide what you and your partner are most comfortable with. I am a huge believer in woman's intuition. If you think you should have one or several tests, then you should. In fact, I may be requesting an early ultrasound this time around, just because I have this nagging feeling that I should have one.

I hope that you guys (all of you guys) are able to get all the information that you need to make an informed decision regarding any tests that your OB/MW suggests.
post #16 of 75
Hi everyone - had a great weekend, but busy. Yesterday was dd's 3rd birthday party - we went to the beach and had a dinner BBQ with dh's family, my bro and his fam and some friends....27 people in all! (mostly dh's family, I might add) But dd had a blast and so did we. Today, though, I was nauseated and exhausted...bleah. I finally started feeling more human at 11 am - does anyone else find the nausea worse when you're more tired?

Dd's duck cake turned out wonderfully - I'll see if I can post some pics.

Yeah, so tired and yuck. That was my day today.
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OK, let's see if this works...nope. Here's the link to the image - I can't get the image to post on this site.

http://inlinethumb01.webshots.com/47...425x425Q85.jpg
post #18 of 75
So sad....
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My sister was 2 weeks ahead of me, due the end of Dec. She's been temping off and on, and noticed a low temp. She temped again the next day and it was low again, so she went in to see a MW and they couldn't hear a HB, so they did an U/S which showed a blighted ovum. I'm so sad for her. This was her first pregnancy, my SIL has had 3 MC's. Even though in my gut I feel like everything is ok for me....I can't help but worry, and I feel like it is unfair if my pregnancy IS ok, when my family is suffering so many losses all around me. And of course I WANT so badly to have a healthy pregnancy. She conceived on the first try, so I'm hoping it happens quickly for them again.

On a lighter note, we told my in-laws this weekend and they were so happy. It is so exciting to see people's reaction!! I can't wait until my appointment when we can hear a heartbeat!!!!!!!!!!
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Sure fire way to bring on labor is to walk/hike down Snoqulamie falls and back up again.. at the end of Aug of course when it is nice and hot out..
Or canning the peaches that you just picked in Greenbluff! I was living in Spokane when I had dd1
post #20 of 75
DoulaLMT - I am so sorry about your sister's loss

SharonAnne - Sorry about your Mom. Sometimes people say things without thinking

Well I think the nausea has kicked in. Last night dd2 spit up some of her dinner on me and I had to "throw" her down and run to the bathroom. Some nice dry heaves this morning too Oh well they say nausea is a good sign and it was with both my girls

Well better get some work done.

Have a great day ladies!
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