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post #41 of 46
My DS is small for his age (he's a little over 13 lbs and almost 4 months old.) I have a supply issue so I'm always worried and can relate to that mama. I always cringe when I see roly-poly big BF babies and think you handled the situation with tact. My son's around the 12th percentile now for weight and my ped and LC aren't worried. I'm supplementing with donor milk and it is hard to get him to eat a lot of supplement. He also never really let me know he wanted more - I think he's destined to be thin (like both me and DH were as kids.) Every baby is different!
post #42 of 46
Children all grow differently. It doesn't mean one mama has 'better' milk. We know this because different children of the same mama can grow at amazingly different rates.

I would have said something like this, myself.
post #43 of 46
I always say quickly that we have big babies in our family (we do) because I have this problem too. My DS is giant but only but I was almost as big as a baby and I was only breastfed 6 months.
I feel bad when I talked to a FF mama and she said "oh I had to stop when DC did X, it was driving me crazy" and I, like a tactless dummy said "ha ha yeah DS did that too!" The whole way home *stupid stupid stupid*
post #44 of 46
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Originally Posted by gilamama View Post
i know the mom on ly eats chicken once a week and no fish and i dont think she takes vitamins. i beleive her baby is small b/c her breast milk is lacking.
I'm not sure what you're implying exactly... That vegetarians can't make good milk w/o vitamins? I'm a dairy-free vegetarian who occassionally eats eggs. I have a 14lb 7wk old who is EBF. I also don't take vits regularly. So...

OP - I think you handled yourself well. I think you need to be proud of your BF accomplishments, independent of others'. Like PP have said, it's best not to perpetuate BFing myths.
post #45 of 46
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Originally Posted by Finch View Post
I think you did the right thing. I feel badly for that mama, it sounds like she didn't have much education and support wrt bfing. Her supply could have been too low, or she could have been doing the "timer" method of bfing...you know, "only 10 minutes on each side." Poor mama. How sad that she felt the need to immediately defend herself, she must have gotten a lot of crap from other people, which sucks. Some babies are just petite, I hate all the size-judgement when it comes to babies. Her baby could just naturally be a petite lil girl.

I think you did the right thing. Lying about it would only have reinforced the misinformation that she already had. You were nice about it, you didn't try to rub her nose in it or anything.
: well said!!!
post #46 of 46
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Originally Posted by menomena View Post
I'm not sure what you're implying exactly... That vegetarians can't make good milk w/o vitamins? I'm a dairy-free vegetarian who occassionally eats eggs. I have a 14lb 7wk old who is EBF. I also don't take vits regularly. So...
sorry to offend, of course i dont think that vegetarians cant make good milk, but that this particular woman wasnt doing things within her dietary restrictions to improve her milk supply like taking vitamins or increasing her protein intake. She also gave a pacifier when her dd cried instead of nursing b/c she would have more time that way. it is not so simple. i am not saying that the mom the op met was the same way neccesarily but sometimes, often? rarely? i dunno, the mother might be able to do more to help her baby grow.
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