Originally Posted by dancingmama
OK, maybe I'm being dense here but, why can't they answer the phone? Is it because you think some predator is going to call your house and find out they are alone and come over???? Or is there another reason that I'm just not getting?
Up till recently, the rules for my children were, "No phone, No answering door, No computer, and No fighting".
The no phone was because we did not want someone to know the children were home alone and then use it against them the same as I teach them to say "He is indisposed right now" or "She is not available at the moment" and then to take a message rather than to say "Mom is in the shower" or "Dad is in the bathroom".
I can not protect my children from intrusive calls or predators if they call after we have left the children alone. So the best thing I can do is to not have them answer the phone. Besides, most of the time, if someone calls, I don't get the message that may be left with my children, so by them not answering, the person can call back later.
Also, when someone comes to the door, no matter who they are, my children were not allowed to open it (unless I was expecting someone in particular and I give specific instructions in that matter). My children can reach me at every moment, and when someone comes to the door (which they rarely do) my children are to stay out of sight and call me to let me know. If they know the person, I MAY tell them to find out what they want, but most of the time, the person just thinks no one is home. I think this is better.
I will not have some predator push his way into my home when I am not there. I have had CPS show up while I was gone at one time. My children did exactly as they have been taught and stayed out of sight and called me. This particular worker was trying to force me into accepting his "assistance" even after I told him we had no interest in his "assistance". Reasons like this is why I have not allowed phone calls or to open the door. Even if a police officer were to knock on the door, they are only allowed to talk to him through the door and call me.
Another reason for the "no phone calls" rule is because of the possibility that a friend will call and the older girls will start chatting and forget to watch the youngers.
I am a bit more lenient now about the phone calls, but that is because my oldest is now 17.