In all honesty....we will teach abstinence until marraige. Sex outside of marriage is too risky for one (pregnancy, disease, emotional comtiment etc.) and we just don't see it (as a family) as something that is to be messed with.
I don't want to come off as prudish but if I do...oh well
Actually, I'm allfor teaching ds the poin of dating is to find a spouse. And until you are actually ready to start looking for a spouse then dating is pointless. I'm not talking about a girlfriend in the 3rd grade...but a serious relationship at 16 is stupid. Most likely you won't stay together anyway. My dh doesn't think you can teach anyone this concept, but my mom did...and I did start dating until 20 and got married at 21. I see dating as pointless...and hopefully staying away from dating helps you stay from pre-marital sex...not in every case...but kwim?
I think that kissing is fine...ven though I didn't kiss until dh and I were engaged. But I think sex constitutes anything that causes you to know another persons body in a way that only their dr should know; nudity, touching in appropriately.
I wil teach my children that abstinence is the only birth control that is 100% effective.
I know they might not see things my way, but I would hope that I will be able to "prove" my case to them in such a way that they would agree. If they don't.....then we do what we can.
BTW---I was brought up to stay away from pre-marrital sex and so were all of my friends.....and not one of us "married young" in order to become sexually active....to me that sounds silly...not saying it doesn't happen but it sounds odd. Thats why I hope that my children understand the point of what we teach
I hope all this made sense