Originally Posted by A Boy's Mama
I am a time out advocate. I find it to be a very effective and gentle tool for the big problem behaviors that don't have acceptable natural consequences.
...(can you tell the cat vs. boy thing is an ongoing issue in my home?
But, if it's still happening all the time, then what's effective about the punishment?
Obviously no one's saying that putting your kid in time-out is a direct line to the bell tower, but there are other repurcussions that make it problematic for many people.
Another problem for me is how time out takes the focus off the cat and puts it on the kid and his payment. And at the end of 3 minutes, the payment for hurting the cat is paid in full and off you go. That's not the message I want to send about harming animals. That it can just be paid off in some set parcel and then you just move on.
I'd much rather talk about the impact on the cat, practice tools for better interactions with the cat, and provide reminders/support for the kid to interact with the cat. Because I'm pretty sure that 99% of toddlers do NOT want to hurt animals. They forget, they like the reaction, they don't know how to gently touch the animal, etc. So punishing them for developmentally normal behavior just seems so off to me.
My first was a terror to the cat! If you asked him, "What does the kitty say?" he would HISS!
Because that's pretty much all he heard when he would even look at the cat. But we worked and worked and worked on it together and now he's a model citizen with animals at age 5. Punishment not needed.