Originally Posted by YumaDoula
Women who UC do it based on trusting their bodies to birth babies, not to avoid doctors -- and you definitely shouldn't hide the idea from your dh! Where would you hide your birthing supplies?!?!?!?
I don't think there is any one "women who UC do it based on...." criteria. Women who UC do it for ALL sorts of reasons. I UC'd to avoid doctors, because the doctors in my area all wanted to section me, just b ecause of the local VBAC climate. It had nothing to do with belief in a higher power, or about trusting my body or anything. I did trust my body, more than I trusted the doctors, but it was not a situation where I decided that my faith in my body was absolute, yadda yadda. If it was not for bad doctor options I never would have considered UC'ing, and I never felt that nothing would go wrong, just that I was less likely to have a problem without their intervention.
As for hiding it from your DH... I dunno, I'm on the other side on this one. If you don't care if he gets upset, we shouldn't either. Its not your husband's body, its yours. YOU need to have your baby however you feel the most comfortable. If thats with a local doctor or midwife or hospital, or with one a thousand miles away, or without anyone at all, thats YOUR choice. None of them are bad ways to have a baby. Just research whatever options you are seriously considering so that you know what you need to do for the best birth possible.
As for hiding birth supplies.... the minimum you honestly need are a pair of scissors (or something to cut the cord with - not even new, just boiled to be sterile), something to tie the cord with - shoelaces work, and something to contain the mess - old sheets would work, or a layer of plastic under the bed sheets as well (and many momma to be's have that in case their water breaks in bed anyways). Not really a whole lot to hide IMO.
You could always just wait and head to the hospital right at the very end too, and then avoid 99% of the time you'd otherwise have to put up with them.
As for doing your own prenatal/not seeing an OB... I am a huge supporter of UC, but I feel more comfortable having atleast some prenatal care (speaking only for myself). The only things they do that you cannot are the ultrasound and blood work. (having atleast 1 u/s during pregnancy can help detect things like where the placenta is, that baby is formed well, etc) If you went to a doctor only once, (if it were me) I would make that at about 21wks so that you get any necessary blood work (you would want to know your blood type if you do have to go into the hospital in a rush situation)
Just some thoughts from an apparently out-of-the-norm UCer