Why is it so hard to understand that the family bed may need to be disolved in some situations? It just doesn't work for everyone.
I was reacting to your statement that all the families express dissatisfaction with co-sleeping or their nighttime parenting arrangement. And that's just not so. There have been several families who wanted to continue their sleeping arrangements and they were told horror stories about the mother having emotional issues, the child taking over the role of the father, the children never learning to go to sleep by themselves and that if they wanted the nanny's help they must submit to her entire program of change.
And even in the cases where the families were dissatisfied with the sleeping/bedtime scenarios, to implement a plan where almost EVERY single time a mother/child pair is sobbing and/or begging for it to stop? Sorry, that's not "disolving" the family bed, that's smashing it into a million pieces in one fell swoop.
I am 100% certain that there is a better, less traumatic, more attachment-building way to move a child out of the family bed.
But, again, these nannies are not focusing on these children's needs. As long as the behavior stops, then it's a "success." I think that's a pretty dangerous message to put out there. And I think it's weird that people are defending it here.