With my first I was induced and it was awful. I finally asked for something for the pain, but I didn't want an epi. They gave me Fentanyl (sp?) in my IV. It only lasts 1/2 hr., and each time they give it it's less effective. And they can't give it when you're pushing, because if the baby is born within 1/2 hour of administration they may have trouble breathing. But it did the job for me. It made it so much more bearable. It didn't so much take away the pain as it allowed me to relax between contractions (I even dosed off). They only gave it to me twice, since after an hour on that I had gone from 3 cm dilation (where I'd been stuck for hours) to 10 cm. My midwife told me that Fentanyl is much better than an epi.
That said, I would recommend other options first. I went into my first birth very unprepared for what happened. This time I was very prepared, and didn't need any of it (
I talked to my homeopath (a classical homeopath) and got a list of remedies I should have on hand for labor and birth. He was much too thorough
so I had a bunch of remedies on hand, and didn't need any of them. He told me what each of them was for, and I made a list for dh, but we were also welcome to call for advice. Is there anyone who could be on call like that?
The homeopathics on my list that seem to fit what you're worried about are (all are 30C potency):
-- Anxiety (a lot), like a panic attack (no known reason) - Argentum Nitricum
-- Fear and nervousness (but not panic -- I use this for flying on a plane, works every time) - Gelsemium
-- Crying hysterically for no reason - Pulsatilla
-- If you go psycho (his words, not mine
) - Thuja
And here's a funny one, just for some laughs. If you have an "overbearing feeling of your whole body coming out of your cervix", take Ustilago.
I told him that's the definition of giving birth.
And, if the hopital would have let me stay in the shower more, I probably wouldn't have needed anything else. I felt soooo much better in the shower. I'm sure a tub would have been good, too (maybe better).
I know this may not be easy, but try to relax and not worry about labor. Every one is different. Who knows what this one will be like for you. But you're pretty much guaranteed that it will be different from the first! So, ask your dr. what options are available to you (not silly at all!) so that you can research them, and do the hypnobirthing and whatever else to prepare, but otherwise stop worrying about it and know that your body can do it.