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post #41 of 113
Amanda: Congrats on your bfp. : I am telling you, July is THE month for bfp's. So many ladies on the ttc 12+ months thread have conceived this month. I hope that jjrsgirl gets her bfp soon!!

I am about to take a pseudo-hiatus from ttc. We're going back to that not preventing, but not necessarily chart-stocking, while I get our life in order - clean house, better eating, excersizing again and taking my supplements. I'm really excited about all of the March '08 babies we're gonna have!!
post #42 of 113
Hi! I'm Kristi... I'm not really TTC but I am hoping to conceive sometime this year! I have a 3 month old dd and DH and I have been married for just over 2 years. I'm 25 (DH is 26) and pretty healthy despite my weight. I've never had any of the probles associated with obesity (high BP, diabetes, etc.) even though I probably 60-75 lbs overweight. I carry my weight well and wear a size 16/18.

DH and I TTCed dd for months and it wasn't until we gave up that we got pg. This time we're just going to keep our fingers crossed, but not actively try so we don't have all the pressure and disappointment that we had before.

I want a big family. I'd like to get pregnant this year sometime, but we'll see.

My pregnancy with dd was prety good. I had m/s for 5 months, but I only gained about 10 pounds total (I lost 20 during the first few months, gained 30 during the last few months and lost all of and then some at the birth and the following days!) and she was super healthy. I UPed for the first 6 months, carried her for 44 weeks and delivered her at home (almost UCed her). She was 10 lbs 1 oz, which I don't know if I can link her size to my weight, but she was (and is) healthy and happy.

We BBMamas don't have to be unhealthy per se, despite our weight. big or not, we can eat right, stay active and take care of ourselves and have successful pregnancies. To think we're all doomed to struggle isn't true.

Best luck to all of you TTCers!

Kristi
post #43 of 113
Hi Ladies!! Can I join? I am 32 and "fluffy" and have been TTC for 6 1/2 yrs with my hubby of 7 yrs. I am anywhere from a 20 to 24, depending on what it is I am trying to wear. We've had one m/c in 2003 and nothing since. I am now seeing a new RE and hoping for the best. Neither my current OB/GYN or my RE has said anything to me about losing weight. In fact, I point blank asked my Dr if he thought my weight had anything to do with our infertility and he said no. Now personally, I would like to lose a few pounds but it was nice to know it wasnt adversely affecting my ability to conceive. I dont have PCOS but I do have moderate to severe endometriosis and have had a laparoscopy. It's nice to meet other ladies like me, who are fluffy and TTC ladies!! and lots of to everyone!

Stephanie
post #44 of 113
I've heard that being overweight can cause excess estrogen, which can lead to ovulation problems. But I think if you are ovulating, your odds of pg are as good as someone of a lower weight.
post #45 of 113
I am so glad I found this thread!

Here's my story. I am 25 and recently married my BF of 8 years. We plan to start TTC #1 in December. We have practiced FAM since our wedding in December. According to my charts, I have a classic 27-28 day cycle ovulating on day 12-14. We are very much looking forward to being parents.

I had a routine visit to my GYN last week and when I told her that we would be ttc in a few months she immediately said "Good, you have time to lose some weight". My response was "Last I checked, fat women were allowed to give birth, too". She chuckled and we discussed other things (like how she thinks FAM in unreliable for TTA and we should use spermicide supossitories since I refuse the hormones she offered: ) as we were wrapping up, she pats me on the shoulder as though we are old friends and says "even 20lbs would make a difference" and leaves me to get dressed. :

I felt like I'd been hit by a truck. This is only my second visit with her or any GYN.I have had perfectly regular cycles and not complications AT ALL, not even very painful cramps since I was 13. I am 25yrs old, 5' 6", a size 16 and about 200lbs and the picture of overall health (except that I am overweight). I have always been overweight, at one point I was a size 4/6 and 155 lbs! I would love to lose weight, but I can't get the look of horror on her face when I told her I was planning to TCC soon. As if how dare a woman not at her "ideal weight" PLAN to get pregnant. It was like she was chatising me. Thank god there are so many highly-recommended midwives around here!

Great to meet you all! I look forward to reading your experiences.
post #46 of 113
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Originally Posted by Pyrodjm View Post
I am so glad I found this thread!

Here's my story. I am 25 and recently married my BF of 8 years. We plan to start TTC #1 in December. We have practiced FAM since our wedding in December. According to my charts, I have a classic 27-28 day cycle ovulating on day 12-14. We are very much looking forward to being parents.

I had a routine visit to my GYN last week and when I told her that we would be ttc in a few months she immediately said "Good, you have time to lose some weight". My response was "Last I checked, fat women were allowed to give birth, too". She chuckled and we discussed other things (like how she thinks FAM in unreliable for TTA and we should use spermicide supossitories since I refuse the hormones she offered: ) as we were wrapping up, she pats me on the shoulder as though we are old friends and says "even 20lbs would make a difference" and leaves me to get dressed. :

I felt like I'd been hit by a truck. This is only my second visit with her or any GYN.I have had perfectly regular cycles and not complications AT ALL, not even very painful cramps since I was 13. I am 25yrs old, 5' 6", a size 16 and about 200lbs and the picture of overall health (except that I am overweight). I have always been overweight, at one point I was a size 4/6 and 155 lbs! I would love to lose weight, but I can't get the look of horror on her face when I told her I was planning to TCC soon. As if how dare a woman not at her "ideal weight" PLAN to get pregnant. It was like she was chatising me. Thank god there are so many highly-recommended midwives around here!

Great to meet you all! I look forward to reading your experiences.
Ugh. Ridiculous. I'm sorry that happened and I hope you find a better OBGYN if you want one.

Kristi
post #47 of 113
I agree -- time to find a new doc. If that's her attitude now, then she'll proabably force you in for a c-section or other unwanted interventions because of your weight. Either that, or do your own research, develop strong convictions, and be willing to battle for them...
post #48 of 113
Oh I forgot to mention, The GYN informed me rather regretfully, that she no longer does OB, but that I could come to her to have her confirm my pregnancy and she could refer me to someone. When I told DH about the visit he said" like you would birth with her after that". He is very aware of my struggling with my body image and tries his best to shield me from any outside negativity and to boost me when he can. No chance I will ever see that GYN again, nor would I see anyone she reccommended. I intend to homebirth with a midwife. If the need arises, I would use an OB my midwife works with. I can't stand most doctors and I am terrified of hospitals. My PCP is a gem, however.
post #49 of 113
Hi girls, I just found this thread.

I am Janet and I am a size 26/28 also.
Me- 36
DH- 40
We have been TTC this time for over a year with 2 chemical pg and one miscarriage this past April @ just under 8 wks. We have never had to try before this time out and had no trouble with TTC, if anything it had happened almost on accident before (1-3 mos trying at most). This is our second month trying again after the m/c. With my last pregnancy, I developed HG and actually lost quite weight while pregnant, only to put it on again while nursing. My youngest will be 2 on Monday and is still nursing strong. So I have been either pg or nursing or both for the last 6.5 years.
post #50 of 113
Ok, it's articles like this that make me so mad. : I mean ok, yes there are possiblities of issues with any pregnancy. Stop making the ladies who aren't a perfect size 6 (it's a 2 now, though, right?) - stop making us feel that much more guilty!! And if you watch the video most of the obese women they show on the video, aren't.
post #51 of 113
I know how you feel. When DH and I told her that we were going off BC pills, she got all scared and kept asking why we weren't waiting for me to lose the weight first. She's half-right to be scared - diabetes runs deep in her side of the family, even she is diabetic. She's scared for my health, but it still annoys the heck out me when she talks about how I won't be an active mom because I can't run and kneel. Argh...
post #52 of 113
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Originally Posted by fierrbugg View Post
Ok, it's articles like this that make me so mad. : I mean ok, yes there are possiblities of issues with any pregnancy. Stop making the ladies who aren't a perfect size 6 (it's a 2 now, though, right?) - stop making us feel that much more guilty!! And if you watch the video most of the obese women they show on the video, aren't.
I read an article last year that some "expert" said that fat women should be chemically sterilized until they lost weight. Fat women who already had kids should be charged with child abuse and sent to fat farm jails. I had a few choice ideas of what to do with him . I'm so tired of being made fun of, having people jump to conclusions about my habits, eating, etc. I'm vegetarian! I don't eat fast food or junk food! I don't drink soda! I can have a child if I want to!! ...climbing back down now...
post #53 of 113
Wow - and what do we do to all of the meth-heads and people who choose to live a life less than ideal for ttc? As long as they stay skinny, they are ok, or do they get chemically sterilized too, so only the elite get to have kids? Didn't they do a really bad movie with Uma Thurman about that? :

Some 'experts' should just keep their opinions to themselves. IMHO opinion it has less to do with weight and more to do with the chemicals that we eat and put on our bodies, but urm, that's another discussion for another day.
post #54 of 113
HI LADIES!!!

I wanted to pop in and join the group if I may. I have been TTC since 5/06. Got pg 3 times which ended in early m/c (2 at 8 weeks LMP and 1 at 6 weeks LMP). I went to the doctor before TTC and she said the same thing..... I need to lose weight! Well, I thought. I am 32 (at the time) and have been looking in the mirror for several years and can plainly see that.. thanks, here is your $10 office co-pay. I didn't need to hear THAT. I needed to hear how and why I needed to get healthy in preparation for creating a most comfortable experience for the baby and myself. I am 5'4" and 216 lbs. I joined Weight Watchers online and have been super active this summer (lost 20 lbs. in the past 2 months). I gained alot of weight when I quit smoking after 18 years but weight and all, I feel so much more healthy. I get annual blood screenings. My cholesterol is good, sugar is good, iron gets low sometiems but was good this time. She prescribed me 1mg Folic Acid which I have been taking for 3 months now and told me to get off the OTC multivitamin I was taking.... I miss it because I feel better when I take it. I try to eat a well balanced diet but it can be hard. Anyways, I just wanted to introduce myself and say that I will be praying for lots of BFP's and Healthy pregnancies around!
post #55 of 113
Laura: Welcome to the club. I'm so very sorry to hear about your losses.

I'm curious as to why your Dr. told you to stop taking your muti-vitamin especially when you feel better when you take it. Several years ago I had an OB tell me not to worry about taking Vitex, because you never know about that stuff . . . regulations blah, blah, blah : Turns out under the guidance of my naturopath its one of the things that has helped me the most. And I feel best when I take my natural supplements, way better than I ever did on any prescriptions that I was ever written. But that may just be me.
post #56 of 113
THANKS Tiara! I was thinking I was a thread killer again :

I don't know about the whole multi-vitamin. I know they try to watch the levels of Vitamin A and Folic Acid but I took them into her (she is actually a nurse practioner who I really liked at first when she handed me a mirror on our first Annual exam and said, "here, look at your cervix" and I did - then she got out a book and took the time to show me things). Later I was tested for prolactin levels and thyroid and her feeling was "it doesn't matter anyways because you don't want to be tied to medicine and you should just eat 100% healthy and exercise"..... AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! I am a social worker... I don't have time for all that

I am seeing a fertility specialist the end of this month and will ask him what I should do. I have gotten great insight here and through the TCOYF book. I did start taking a garlic pill 2 x day with meals for heart function and my calcium since I am 33... oh and Omega 3's since I seem to eat so much fiber that the Omega 3's I get from foods doesn't seem to stay with me (TMI TMI: ) Hoep everyone has a wonderful day!
post #57 of 113
Hi all!!

I was so excited to find this thread I am 25, DH is 23 and we have been inactively TTC by DTD without protection for a few months now. I am 230 and 5'3. I have experienced many issues similar to those posted here, especially in terms of the mother who tells you she is concerned about your health and therefore comments on weight all the time. It is very frustrating to deal with the internal struggle between wanting to actively TTC because I want a child SOOOOOOOO badly and wanting to wait because I feel (due to guilt from outside people, and my own concerns) that I should try to lose weight before I try to conceive. My solution has been to simply stop avoiding, and let things happen in God's time....it is difficult though....every month is a disappointment.

Anyways, this looks like a supportive place, so I am really excited to meet all of you
post #58 of 113
I feel like adding some color today.

Laura: Ok, the cervix thing is kinda cool. I've never had any dr. do that with me. And I agree that TCOYF is about the best book ever. I sincerely think that it should be mandatory for girls - I think I would have paid more attention in freshman health if my teacher had spent less time sharing tampon horror stories and more time actually talking about how everything works. It sounds like you're taking a bunch of very healthy supplements. Good for you. I have them, I'm just not as consistent as I should be. As far as eating healthy goes - ok yeah easier said than done - but I found for us when we started, that just substituting organic products for the every day stuff - like coffee and milk and cereal, made a huge difference for us. And I didn't feel as crappy all day when I drank organic coffee, go fig. There are also alot of healthier restaraunts around us, that use organic products whenever possible too. I hope there are some around you. They really make it easier to eat healthy when you're on the go.

thesimplelife25: &

I have spent the day cleaning in spurts. It's amazing the junk that two adults and four puppies can accumulate in just a few years. Dh called me this morning from work to tell me that he'd like to take a mini-vacation in the next few weeks. I've been looking at sites for Northern AZ cabins and B & B's all day. Unfortunately it's prime tourist season (we normally wait until the winter) - BUT, it's beautiful up there and about 20 degrees cooler. I'm looking to go later this month around the time I O. So, you never know what September may bring.
post #59 of 113
HELLO!!!! I am a PLUS sized mama (5'7 and 240-250 depending on the day)!!! I am TTC again and I am nervous. I have PCOS and I have not had a natural period (non drug induced) in over five years....then there is June, July, and August....Aunt Flo came all 3 months!!!!! So, I am taking it as a sign that there is a baby out there who REALLY wants to be considered. I was ready to be done...my last baby was a planned homebirth that ended up an Emergency C-section: . I really did not want to go through that pain again, but I feel confident in my body as I have birthed before and we are planning a homebirth. I am a diabetic and I know that there are risks with being overweight, but there are risks to everything in life. I am so excited and so scared all at the same time!!!
Alicia
post #60 of 113
Hi Alicia!! Welcome to the thread. I just couldn't let you be a thread killer anymore.

How is everyone doing??
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