OK, now I feel like the non maternal freak here! She is our first but almost certainly our last (if I do end up having more I would like to be a lot older, but I don't really want that to happen either). One of the reasons I'm so glad that my birth went so well and was pretty much everything that I wanted is that I don't think I'll be tempted to 'have another go' to 'get it right'-which I think I may have been if it wasn't what I wanted.
Of course, she isn't even a week old yet so there's plenty of time to change my mind and wait for the baby lust hormones to kick in, but Ive always been sure I only want one (actually I didnt really want any but I am so glad it happened), for environmental/overpopulation issues as much as my own circumstances-ie dirt poor and probably just not up to coping with more than one. And even though I mostly loved being pregnant, I just couldn't go through all the worrying again-Im naturally paranoid I think, and all the things that could potentially be wrong with a child prey on my mind too much, and with more than one there's more chance of something being wrong...
Thankfully, my DP is of the same mindset, so unless something changes for one of us, we should have no problems!
However, this has made me realise that I would love to do something birth related as part of my career in the future, or just voluntarily. Either doulaing or some sort of childbirth education (specifically for young, underprivileged women). I don't want this to be my only experience of birth, it's just too amazing!
Of course, she isn't even a week old yet so there's plenty of time to change my mind and wait for the baby lust hormones to kick in, but Ive always been sure I only want one (actually I didnt really want any but I am so glad it happened), for environmental/overpopulation issues as much as my own circumstances-ie dirt poor and probably just not up to coping with more than one. And even though I mostly loved being pregnant, I just couldn't go through all the worrying again-Im naturally paranoid I think, and all the things that could potentially be wrong with a child prey on my mind too much, and with more than one there's more chance of something being wrong...
Thankfully, my DP is of the same mindset, so unless something changes for one of us, we should have no problems!
However, this has made me realise that I would love to do something birth related as part of my career in the future, or just voluntarily. Either doulaing or some sort of childbirth education (specifically for young, underprivileged women). I don't want this to be my only experience of birth, it's just too amazing!
