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[Momma Aimee]

Aimee, I hope this isn't telling of how the summer is going to be or I might die. Nearly 90* again today and tomorow. *sigh*

i know -- Theo si loooveing his pool.

Aimee

[jlwagner]

nak...

i'm in the dec ddc but i just wanted to say that i'm 15+ wks nursing my 19mo ds. we just nightweaned him in the last couple weeks and i have finally started to gain a little weight since then. he still nurses about every hour during the day but the night weaning seems to have really helped.

also, ds would be hysterical on nights when i was with him and tried to limit his hourly (sometimes more frequent : ) nursing. but when we decided to nightwean him (and we're still doing this) i slept in a different room and dh did nighttime parent like other mamas have suggested. it has gone SO WELL!!! no hysterics, immediate reduction in # of wakings, and he's slept till about 6am for the past week - this is a kid that i thought would never ever sleep so long and that i thought was nowhere near ready to nightwean (we just got desperate).

anyway, that was long... sorry. but i hope it's helpful!

[crystalalene]

Originally Posted by welldone

"Oh, yes. Elly will nurse."

That is cute!

We are still nursing. My supply dropped a lot really early on and we were really cranky for about a week or two. This made me feel really guilty, too, especially because she had a wicked stomach bug a few weeks after that and I felt really helpless.
The bonus is that once we/she acclimated to less breastmilk, she did pretty much night wean on her own.
It seems like once in a while I will eek out a droplet or two but mostly she's just hanging out for comfort. Oh, yes there is pain at latch, more so than at the beginning, which I thought would be the worst part. And, yes, there's weight gain. I am usually about 120 lb. girl but with dd I gained 53 lbs. and I seem on track for that much this time, too, with about 15 lbs. so far.
I imagine she'll still nurse up to the end, and them tandem since she's still nursing to sleep, most wake-ups and a couple times in the daytime.

[smilnmom]

Still nursing my 18 month old DD... I have to say I get the nails on the chalkboard feeling too... /This is my 3rd go round with nursing while pregnant.. not intentionally. Just always seems to work out that way. I do not enjoy nursing while pregnant. It just seems to bug me... UGH.. I feel way guilty about it but it is BAAAD. I have absolutely no milk and that may be why. I won't wean her though, she is still so little! Just going to gut it out and see what happens... She only nurses at sleepy times and twice last week she went to sleep with Daddy without nursing and I was in amazment. I am sure she will nurse when baby comes. I weaned my 2nd while pregnant with her and I regretted it for many reasons down the road so this time... I am going to committ myself to doing it different. Some nights I don't mind the nursing, but I find that if I am overtired, I can only deal with it for 10 minutes max... She seems to only go to sleep anymore once I tell her it is time to put 'nigh-nigh's to sleep, other than that she seems to stay awake waiting for the milk to come back....

[strawberryfields08]

My 16 mo old dd is still nursing...constantly. We have had quite the nurser ever since she was born. Like every hour! I planned on nursing her longer but with this pregnancy it is driving me crazy. I feel bad saying that but it hurts so much sometimes and I feel very overwhelmed with her constant nursing for so long. We have tried Daddy taking over at night but she is not one to calm down. Her crying just escalates until I have to step in. I selfishly wanted her to self wean while I was pregnant but so far no sign of decreasing milk. She is so attached to her "nummers" though, that I don't know if she will stop even if there is no milk. This morning she nursed 4 times in an hour and a half and I had to negotiate with her to stop each time. I just hope it slows down a little. It's good to know that others are in the same boat with the feelings of frustration now that you are pregnant.

[mothragirl]

still nursing my 22 month old with no end in sight. it really hurts and there isn't much milk, but it is still a major need for her.

[crunchywannabe]

How many of us are still nurseing? how old is the nurseling now?
I am still nursing my just turned 3 years old yesterday daughter Isabella. I thought she had weaned in the beginning, but she still asks

WHo has weaned, by mom or child? are you planning to allow re-nurseing afer the baby arrives?
Bella is slowing down. sometimes she asks 2-3 times a day, sometimes she goes a few days in between. I will let her nurse as long as she wants and if she weans and asks after the baby is born I will allow it

How is milk production, and nipple pain?
not sure on milk production. I have issues with milk supply (it took me over 5 months to get a full supply when bella was born) but the nipple pain : yeah, that hurts!

ARE YOU GAINING WEIGHT??????
I have gained just under 2 lbs. But I gained weight while breastfeeding, I did not lose any.

[Momma Aimee]

my son is night weaning ON HIS OWN.

ok we are NOT there yet.....

but in the past two week he has started not nurseing at all about one of three nights, and one of the nights he will nurse about 1 or 2 times, then the other night he nurses like "normal" that is ever hour or two.

sooooooooooooooooo he is defiantly matureing and sleeping longer snaps at a time and nurseing less.

he is still nurseing about 5 to 7 times a day ... but that too id down from evey hours all day -- so liek 13 times a day

This is ALL him.

I am 21 one weeks now............ i know still have milk, he doesn't seem botheres, he is still swallowing and when he pulls back ther eis often milk on his mouth or chin or me....................but he is more into his sippy -- even sippy, nurse, sippy, nurse, sippy.......

I am so glad he is night weaning on his own. i really really want him NW but i was not going to force it on him............

it is AMAZING to me the new maturity in him in a month's time.

AImee

[mom0810]

My milk is all but gone, but ds still wants to nurse a LOT. Sometimes I can tell by his face that the milk does not taste very good, but I honestly think it could be motor oil coming out and he would not care!!!

[yogachick79]

Landon is the same way. I have nothing left at this point, discovered that about a week and 1/2 ago. However he still will ask to nurse about once a day or sometimes even less.

Nursing is now painful and grating though, and I am worried that if we continue down this path that I will be so turned off to it that the new babe and I won't have such a good experience. Does anyone else feel that way? I am honestly praying that he at least weans for a little while, even if he wants to start nursing again once the babe is here. I just can't stand the pain and the aggitation that comes with it right now.

[Momma Aimee]

Nursing is now painful and grating though, and I am worried that if we continue down this path that I will be so turned off to it that the new babe and I won't have such a good experience. Does anyone else feel that way? I am honestly praying that he at least weans for a little while, even if he wants to start nursing again once the babe is here. I just can't stand the pain and the aggitation that comes with it right now.

I am having painful latchons again -- they were better -- but the rest, TG is not painful. a blessing as he has still nursed soooo much. there is no agitation.

There are times when i really do not want him to climb on me and nurse again -- useally mid day when i am trying to get stuff done as opposed to rocking time, or sleeping time, or even quiet sitting time in front of the tv with daddy at night.

I guess i don't worry about the new baby thing ---- i know THEN the pain will be gone, and the apin is all the bigs me.

I think A LOT about how DIFFERENT it is gonna be to nurse a new born again -- wow a baby that can not hold up it own head or body ... unlike T just sitting on my lap faceing me, holding my shirt aside for himself and nurseing with no support or help from me!!!!!!! and a new born NEEDS to nurse all teh time, T may like to and want to, but it he is past the NEED it NOW stage,a dn can be distracted in the check out line at teh store or when i am trying to finsih dinner (most of the time anyway) and can be told "when we got home and out of the car seat" (30 minuts drive or whatever)...things you can't do with the new born.........

I worry a lot more abut juggling two nursers, espcaily as "young" as Theo weill still be -- only having his 2nd BD the week of the EDD. He is not good at waiting, and doesn't have much ablity to understand WHY or to grasp that the new baby is that much smaller and more needy....or that differnt, you know. I would never dream to wean,. i KNOW TN will be better than him weaned and me nurseing the new one, and besides he is tooooo young to wean even if he was an olny.......but the two at teh breast at once, or the one always at the breast so i am trapped ina chair all day, or the what to do with one when the other is nurseing....those are my fears............

Aimee

[chrysalis]

Megh (4.5yo) weaned herself about a month ago, i think cuz she might have been ready and also cuz she went a day or two a few times w/out nursing (which was not like her) and then my milk dried up too much...she could barely get any out...so we just left it at that...she tried after it totally dried, the poor baby...it still is sooo bittersweet for the both of us. we cried in the bathtub last night together... i told her if she wanted she can have some when baby is here...that my milk will come in when baby is born...

[yogachick79]

Aimee, I totally understand what you are saying about weaning (not wanting to). Even if Landon chose to wean right now, I would be more than willing to have him nurse once my milk comes back and with the new babe. If I could just get through the pain/discomfort for the time being. I honestly think that me knowing that there is nothing there makes a difference to me mentally with my tollerance.

So for now, we will keep chugging through. I think he is getting more teeth, and it helps calm him at night most of the time, which is good. I just wish I was still getting that warm fuzzy feeling of bonding when we nurse and not "when will he be finished?"

[Momma Aimee]

Aimee, I totally understand what you are saying about weaning (not wanting to). Even if Landon chose to wean right now, I would be more than willing to have him nurse once my milk comes back and with the new babe. If I could just get through the pain/discomfort for the time being. I honestly think that me knowing that there is nothing there makes a difference to me mentally with my tollerance.

So for now, we will keep chugging through. I think he is getting more teeth, and it helps calm him at night most of the time, which is good. I just wish I was still getting that warm fuzzy feeling of bonding when we nurse and not "when will he be finished?"

theo responds to "one more on each side then we are going to......" rock to sleep, go play turck, whatever..........you could try that.

theo is starting to respond to "finish up now, momma needs to go....." and then me cutting him off.

I know a mom who is TN a 2 yo with her nb twins.... she counts for the 2yo at any nurseing not bad related...they "agree" before hand how many to count to -- as little as 10.