I haven't told my husband yet...UPDATE: he knows now

[mommycakes]

It's true. I feel a little guilty but it's also been nice to just let it sink in. I was a little panicked at first but yesterday was a great day overall. I had some great moments with my dd and in the evening we had our niece over who's 22 mos. and there was just so much peace, fun and love in our house. Dinner was especially great with another little one in the mix.

Anyway, I've *known* for awhile now and got a BFP on Sunday (Monday and today). I've had opportunities to share with my dh but I really wanted to wait until the 18 consecutive days of high temps. was up to tell him. With dd1 we found out at 12dpo and he knew immediately--everything was perfect. I had a wonderful pregnancy. Recently I've had some hormone issues to correct so had quite a few cycles where it looked like I was pregnant but then AF came. Dh is always really supportive but he was having a hard time when I'd let myself get my hopes up before I could even know. So, this time around, I just really want to make sure I'm in the clear. I'm sure he knows though. I've been almost gagging when I'm making dinner, I'm eating and peeing like crazy and my bbs are quite full (and sore--ouch). I was thinking of waiting until Father's Day. I want to wrap up a pg. test with a little quote about fatherhood and what a perfect daddy he is.

Should I make him wait that long? I could do it Friday (day 18)--it just seems more special on Dad's day, kwim?

Thoughts?
How'd you break the news to your dh/dp?

[eilonwy]

Well, this was seriously unexpected and unplanned, so I just kind of got it out as quickly as I was able. He threw up. Isn't that a fun reaction? Definately one for the baby book...

[LawrenceDoula]

Wow, I can't imagine being able to wait that long! Your self control is pretty amazing! I had to tell my husband the first moment I could when no one else was around on Sunday. I think he thought I meant that I just thought I could be pregnant and didn't take it too seriously. So yesterday, Monday, I took another test and showed it to him, and now is pretty excited. I think he wanted another much earlier than I did!

If you can wait that would be special, but if you can't it will be special too. I would try and wait, but not be upset if it slips out.

[mommycakes]

Yes, I must say that after spilling the beans on here and after writing this post, I've been much more excited to tell him NOW. I think I may try to do it tonight. I know he suspects it. Add to that, the secret is out. One of my best friends and fellow MDC momma saw my post and knows now too. It's only fair that my dh is in on the secret, right?

Hmmm, let the planning begin.

eilonwy, I love your story! Has he come around? Babies change your life--definately for the better if you ask me. I can't imagine life without my dd. She is my sunshine, my heart, my love. And it's so much fun to watch the man you love become a dad. Dh amazes me everyday. He and dd have a very special bond.

[bloominmamas]

I didn't tell my husband for about 4 days because I got real faint lines starting out and also we had just decided to put off trying until this time next year, so it took some time for me to adjust and I didn't know what his reaction would be. I have issues with not wanting to disappoint people and of course this was one of those many times I had nothing to worry about. DH is happy and excited, just worried about finances. We both don't want me to work for at least 6 months after the baby is born and then go back part-time, we don't know how we are going to manage those 6 months.

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by mommycakes

eilonwy, I love your story! Has he come around? Babies change your life--definately for the better if you ask me. I can't imagine life without my dd. She is my sunshine, my heart, my love. And it's so much fun to watch the man you love become a dad. Dh amazes me everyday. He and dd have a very special bond.

Yeah, he came around pretty quickly. This is our fourth, though, not our first. The idea of having four kids was like, fantastic in theory, but after the third we were both kind of ready to be finished. I managed to say the right thing to him right away. Now if only I could find the right thing to tell myself...

[mom3b1?]

Originally Posted by mommycakes

Should I make him wait that long? I could do it Friday (day 18)--it just seems more special on Dad's day, kwim?

Thoughts?
How'd you break the news to your dh/dp?

I don't think you have any reason to feel guilty at all! Waiting a few days to tell him is very reasonable. It's probably better than what I did. He brought up the issue of my missing period, and I dug out an old test, so he knew what I was doing in the bathroom. I normally don't cuss, but I did when I saw that line, and it totally confused him. He didn't know if I'd dropped it in the toilet, or what. Now he keeps giggling and repeating back what I said, to me.

Kiley

[mommycakes]

Originally Posted by mom3b1?

Now he keeps giggling and repeating back what I said, to me.

I am so curious

Well, I didn't feel entirely ready to tell him today but felt that I owed it to him since my friend found out. It just didn't seem right keeping it from him when someone else besides me already knew. I had a rough day but telling him gave it a happy ending. He's very excited. I couldn't think of anything big to do and I didn't want to tell my 3yo dd yet so I decorated the inside of a plain cardboard jewlrey box with stickers that said "family" "siblings" "baby" "pregnant" "kids", etc. Just made a big ol' hodge podge of them, then I taped two positive pregnancy tests inside. On the outside of the box, I affixed a sticker that said "gratitude" and then I left it on top of the toilet lid--it's the first place he goes (after kissing us) when he gets home from his long commute. I was in the kitchen and he quickly came running back out of the bathroom to hug and kiss me. His heart was racing. I asked, "are you happy?" and he replied, "oh, so happy". I'm waiting for dd to fall asleep now so that we can celebrate a little more together.

I do wish I felt I could've waited until Father's Day, but it was special none-the-less.

[firecat]

I'm glad he was happy, well, that you're both happy!! What a sweet way to tell him. Silly me, I came out of the bathroom and said,"I've got some news for you now...Look there's a plus sign!"
I was toying with the idea of waiting until dh's b-day (i got a faint line, the whole window was very dark with a slightly darker positive line, on Sat the
2nd and then a darker one on sunday, his b-day was tuesday) or until father's day - which would have been soo cute! - but he already was asking me about it and I'm no good at lying when I am excited about something, so I told him right away, on Sunday. We are very excited, this will be our first

[mommycakes]

Congrats to you too, firecat!

[firecat]

Thanks, mommycakes

[naturallia]

We knew 7 DPO (3 weeks along) because my LP is usually 5-6 days and I was taking herbs to try to help with that to no avail. When it spiked on 7 DPO, both DH and I wondered if this was it and my temp just kept climbing and climbing into a triphastic pattern. We finally tested and it's ++++++

[miss_honeyb]

At 17 DPO I told DH, "I think we need to go get a pregnancy test." So he ran to Target to get some stuff and brought one back. But then he was getting ready to go out golfing and told me to take it while he was gone and tell him what it was when he got back. He said his game would be "off" if he knew I was pregnant before he went out to golf!

Wouldn't want to do that...

[LaurenB]

Originally Posted by mommycakes

I am so curious

Well, I didn't feel entirely ready to tell him today but felt that I owed it to him since my friend found out. It just didn't seem right keeping it from him when someone else besides me already knew. I had a rough day but telling him gave it a happy ending. He's very excited. I couldn't think of anything big to do and I didn't want to tell my 3yo dd yet so I decorated the inside of a plain cardboard jewlrey box with stickers that said "family" "siblings" "baby" "pregnant" "kids", etc. Just made a big ol' hodge podge of them, then I taped two positive pregnancy tests inside. On the outside of the box, I affixed a sticker that said "gratitude" and then I left it on top of the toilet lid--it's the first place he goes (after kissing us) when he gets home from his long commute. I was in the kitchen and he quickly came running back out of the bathroom to hug and kiss me. His heart was racing. I asked, "are you happy?" and he replied, "oh, so happy". I'm waiting for dd to fall asleep now so that we can celebrate a little more together.

I do wish I felt I could've waited until Father's Day, but it was special none-the-less.

I am sitting here fighting off wicked morning sickness and now your story has me crying my eyes out. That is a nice, sweet story!

[mommycakes]

Originally Posted by LaurenB

I am sitting here fighting off wicked morning sickness and now your story has me crying my eyes out. That is a nice, sweet story!

Awww, thanks. It was a nice moment. He's looking at me differently again (happened the first time too)--all lovey eyes and full of wonder. I love being pregnant and feel so honored and blessed to be. My dd keeps sniffing me and asking, "Mommy, what do you smell like?". She self-weaned about 6 mos. ago. I'm sure she'd *know* if she were still nursing.

Congrats, naturallia and laurenB. Congrats to all of you. I'm so glad we get to share this journey together.

[LaurenB]

Originally Posted by mommycakes

Awww, thanks. It was a nice moment. He's looking at me differently again (happened the first time too)--all lovey eyes and full of wonder. I love being pregnant and feel so honored and blessed to be. My dd keeps sniffing me and asking, "Mommy, what do you smell like?". She self-weaned about 6 mos. ago. I'm sure she'd *know* if she were still nursing.

Congrats, naturallia and laurenB. Congrats to all of you. I'm so glad we get to share this journey together.

I'm getting the lovey eyes from my dh too. He went out and bought me two dozen roses and a sheet of cute animal stickers (he knows me so well) the very next day. I love getting looked at like this by dh. It's probably my most favorite part so far. That and the way food tastes.

I'm glad we all get to share this journey together too.

[mom3b1?]

What sweet story!

Mine has been hugging my belly and talking to the baby in silly voices.

Kiley

[naturallia]

My DH is being so loving lately too! I love it!