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post #161 of 182
Its hard missing church during Advent. I didn't go all last year, and I really missed it. I have a dust allergy that was exacerbated by my pregnancy and I got really sick at church with all the decades old decorations hung up. I am really looking forward to this year, celebrating with our new baby, Malachi.

I am wondering what everyone does to keep the focus on Christ during the season. We won't be doing Santa and I want to have lots of ways to keep the focus off Santa and presents. We are going to try a Jesse tree this year and we are planning to go to a couple of music services. I want to start some traditions now to make lots of great memories.
post #162 of 182
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One thing I do is keep my kids out of the stores. I get as much done as I can by Black Friday, and if I have to go out, I don't take them with me.

We're doing Jesse Tree ornaments, but I'm hanging them from a garland on our mantle. We don't get a tree until our anniversary, Dec. 17. We used to wait until Christmas Eve, but all the trees were gone.

We focus a lot on the season of Advent and the Advent saints during our December homeschooling as well.
post #163 of 182
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Sigh. I'm getting sick--I have an earache and a sore throat--and DH is going out of town on retreat tomorrow. Doesn't it figure.
post #164 of 182
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So, did you all make it through Advent?
post #165 of 182
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So, did you all make it through Advent?
Yes, by the skin of my teeth. Although I'm hosting another Christmas party tomorrow- for the area Lutheran clergy. It's a German themed () one, so I'm getting to make lots of time consuming recipes I've never attempted before.
Hopefully it all turns out.
And Ephiphany is already bearing down on us.
post #166 of 182
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Sounds yummy!

Dh is at the yearly Service of Remembrance. And he has two or three funerals this week! It makes me sad to think of so much heartache this time of year.
post #167 of 182
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Sounds yummy!

Dh is at the yearly Service of Remembrance. And he has two or three funerals this week! It makes me sad to think of so much heartache this time of year.
It is eery how many funerals happen this time of the year. We've only had two so far, but I forsee some more coming.
post #168 of 182
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Here's a question-- do you all go to funerals at your church?

I don't. I've gone to one or two, when we've known the family, but it's too difficult to get child care for four kids. I always feel badly, too, like if I go to one I have to go to them all. We're in a large congregation.
post #169 of 182
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Here's a question-- do you all go to funerals at your church?

I don't. I've gone to one or two, when we've known the family, but it's too difficult to get child care for four kids. I always feel badly, too, like if I go to one I have to go to them all. We're in a large congregation.
No, I don't. I try to drop in at all wakes, but I've skipped all the funerals.
Do you send thank you notes for all gifts and cards all year, or just occasional blanket thank yous in the bulletin?
post #170 of 182
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No, I don't. I try to drop in at all wakes, but I've skipped all the funerals.
Do you send thank you notes for all gifts and cards all year, or just occasional blanket thank yous in the bulletin?
Ooh, another great question. Blanket thank-yous. We're in the largest congregation in the synod, so much as I'd love to be personal, I just don't have the time, patience, or energy. Which do you do?
post #171 of 182
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Ooh, another great question. Blanket thank-yous. We're in the largest congregation in the synod, so much as I'd love to be personal, I just don't have the time, patience, or energy. Which do you do?
Considering that I STILL haven't gotten out all my Christmas cards... blanket thank yous in the bulletin.
And wow, the biggest congregation? What do you worship a Sunday, and how many pastors?
post #172 of 182
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He's been the only pastor there for a year (he actually has convinced to hire a full-time Christian ed director rather than another pastor). And we're not a megachurch or anything. I think the membership is just over 1,000 and between 250-300 worship each Sunday (2 services). Still, it's a lot of cards and gifts and stuff!
post #173 of 182
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He's been the only pastor there for a year (he actually has convinced to hire a full-time Christian ed director rather than another pastor). And we're not a megachurch or anything. I think the membership is just over 1,000 and between 250-300 worship each Sunday (2 services). Still, it's a lot of cards and gifts and stuff!
Gotcha. You're one of the ELCA-ers, right?
Do you go to both services?
post #174 of 182
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Sometimes I don't even go to one service.

I'm the weird one who is Catholic married to an ELCA pastor. I like complications.
post #175 of 182
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Sometimes I don't even go to one service.

I'm the weird one who is Catholic married to an ELCA pastor. I like complications.
Ah ha! I remember that now. I'm the daughter of a LCMS pastor, as well as the wife of one.
Sometimes I WISH I missed more services. My DH is serving a vacancy as well as his normal congregation and some weeks we end up at 2+ services a day. By the end the kids are a little unruly, to say the least.
post #176 of 182
Hello! I did not know there was a thread for PW (or PH) here

I am a PW myself. Have been for 5 years
post #177 of 182
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Welcome!
post #178 of 182
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Happy (??) Lent, all!

I'm bumping this up because I have a question-- how much do you know about staffing "issues" and how do you support your partner through difficult times and decisions? There's some crazy stuff going down at church right now (obviously, I can't post details) so we'd love your prayers and good thoughts.
post #179 of 182
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Happy (??) Lent, all!

I'm bumping this up because I have a question-- how much do you know about staffing "issues" and how do you support your partner through difficult times and decisions? There's some crazy stuff going down at church right now (obviously, I can't post details) so we'd love your prayers and good thoughts.
I know more then I let on. I try to be available for venting, to read through things and pull out the emotional language, and as a sounding board. We're going through some insanity, as well. Maybe it's the season?
post #180 of 182
Hi all! Long time no see. Is everyone gearing up for Advent?
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