Originally Posted by NaomiMcC
Okay...I know I'm goiing to get totally flamed for this but...here it goes. You told her your opinion. You gave her the facts but in the end it's still HER decision. How would you feel if you wanted a homebirth for example and she constantly nagged you about your decision? About the risks? About the dangers etc etc. Wouldn't it grate on your nerves? You've given her the info. She has chosen to ignore it. While it may be an issue near and dear to you, you've done what you can do. Leave it be. And to cut your sister out of your life because of this seems quite extreme. I would rethink it.
Hey - you knew we weren't going to agree with you! But I'd like to answer your question honestly...
I did have 2 homebirths. And I did have a couple of friends try to gently talk me out of it - too 'risky', etc.
And you know what? It didn't bother me. Why? Because I was the one who had done the research and they hadn't at all. I knew that homebirth, in a low risk pregnancy (I sail through pregnancies and had already had two very quick, normal hospital births), was just as safe, if not safer, than a hospital birth.
The facts were on my side with my decision to have a homebirth, and I knew those facts and could share them with my friends. So they backed off, because they didn't have any answers to the information/studies I shared with them.
This is the exact opposite of what happens when someone tries to share circ info with parents who want to circ. Inevitably, the circing parents have given NO (or very little) thought to their decision to circ. It's a gut reaction, based on the fact that Daddy is circed (and doesn't want to think there is anything wrong with his penis) and the fact that 'everyone else' is doing it (and they don't want to be different from all their friends).
It can be hard to break through an ingrained mindset - and American culture sees circ as 'normal'. It can take a lot of pressure/information/talking to get through to some people. And the facts are clear that circumcision is painful, damaging and completely unnecessary cosmetic surgery on an unconsenting infant. Those facts need to be shared...if I was a parent planning to circ in ignorance, I would hope that people would continue to share the truth about circ with me.