Originally Posted by jessitron
Oh, it is not rational.
A loss at this point would be a lot like a miscarriage, and I handled that okay. It happens, it's over, it must be for a reason, move on. A NICU stay would be a long drawn-out painful period with lots of stress and heartache and suspense. That sounds harder. Not necessarily worse, but harder.
Not that I spend time worrying about either of them.
I guess I could understand that. I've never had a miscarriage before and I can only imagine how it would feel to have your heart set on a baby and to find out that the pregnancy didn't progress. For me, even though I've never had one, I feel like this stage in my pregnancy I would feel different b/c I've felt her kick and I know it's a girl so I've been calling her by name. For me, this makes me feel as though a lossnow is more like the death of my child rather than 'miscarriage'.
I was telling my Dh last night how the kicking and calling her by name has made me feel more connected to her than early on. In the early stages of pg I felt as though it were the promise
of a baby yet to come. Now, I feel as though I am truly carrying my child vs. that earlier more loose feeling, YKWIM?