Small MIL Rant!

[Mommy2Cadence]

Some how we got into discussing birth plans or whatever and I told her that I would really like to have the baby in the birth center that they have IN our hospital. You know what she said???? That people who have babies there are crazy because she would never let a midwife deliver her baby cause they are not as educated as doctors??? Ugggg wow. So then I proceded to tell her that I would like a different birth experience than I did in the hospital with dd. I told her that is was my baby, my body, and it is my birth and that was the way I wanted to birth my baby. She said that I should think more about the health of the baby and not myself and what I want. Who is she to say who is educated and who isnt. Like if I go there and have my baby with a midwife my baby wont be safe cause it wasnt delivered by a doctor????? I just want to screem. Ok rant over, I think. Mind you she also is against cloth diapering and she thinks formula is just as good as breastmilk.

[Valerieg]

ARGH! She sounds just like my MIL.

Try to ignore her. Obviously she has no idea what she is talking about! GL getting the birth you want which IS perfectly safe if you have a normal pregnancy. And GL with cloth diapering and BF too.

It felt great to prove my MIL wrong.

[GinaRae]

Sounds like my mom. She was okay with a CNM in the hospital, but not with the homebirth we're planning. Whether she meant to or not, she conveyed that I couldn't possibly have a healthy pregnancy and deliver a healthy baby at home. She even mentioned having a dead baby.

It puts a lot of pressure on me that I didn't need. I feel like I want to prove her wrong and if something goes wrong, I will be so upset! But I am also trying to be really zen and accept whatever happens. Something has plagued me this whole pregnancy -- a worry about something I don't know. So I am trying to just accept my fate, trust my body, and have my beautiful homebirth.

[*GreenMama*]

Grrrr, I can imagine how annoyed that made you. My MIL is a peach as well, but for some reason she has picked my childs bedtime as the point of contention. Ug.

[FillingMyQuiver]

Breathe. Just Breathe. Oh mamas, I'm so sorry you have contentious MILs. I have a contentious FIL who fortunately, doesn't vocalize his opinions to *me* too much, but has no problem going to DH and trying to sway DH's thoughts. Try and be a duck, that's what I say. Just let it roll off your back and keep visualizing the safe, healthy, wonderful births you're all going to have.

[melissakc]

Yuck!

It's so sad when there are people in our families that can never really understand us. I'm sorry! Does she live far away? Will she be around during the birth?