Originally Posted by sarahz5
I am at my wit's end. I don't want to say much on a public forum, but I feel like I may be experiencing mild pregnancy discrimination. At any rate, I am a sixth-year fed up with my firm, but I can't do anything about it because (a) I have an overly big 17 week preggo belly and (b) I am terrified about the idea of applying for jobs and starting all over at a new firm and (c) I don't even want to practice anyway, so my heart would not be in it. But I'm the breadwinner, and I feel completely trapped. I don't even feel like I could transition to a different field because I feel like the only thing I'm qualified to do is practice law, and because I make so much more as an attorney that I would as anything else.
Help! Who has moved to another firm, or moved to a different field, successfully? Please reassure me!
I have been there and understand how you feel. I am also the breadwinner and I am a 6th year (rising to 7th year in a few months). So I completely understand all the issues (add in there debt issues as well).
Some thoughts -- have you experienced issues with being a mother or a woman at your firm before? Is this the first time? (you don't have to answer this) Are you experiencing it from more than one supervisor? Will the mild discrimination have long reaching career effects or is it merely bothersome? Are there good things about your firm versuses other firms? Can you hang on until after your maternity leave and then interview? I know in the end when I have done this sort of balancing, the decision to stay where I am at is always solidified. But I am also at a very good place (generally) that has been supportive of my 2 kids that I had while here and my brief part time stints and my flexible (somewhat) hours.
I do know that it is hard for 6th years and up to leave, we are just not as marketable unless we have clients or a set of skills that is specifically advertised for. I do not know which market you are in (in terms of city) (ETA -- I see you are in Philly which is a good sized legal market) which does affect your ability to leave. I would say, sit down -- think about whether this is the first time. Are there other issues at your firm as well? Is it more than one partner? What is the long term effects of the current discrimination? Can you stay until you are in a better position to move?
Being pregnant and a lawyer is so hard. Being a new mom and a lawyer is also hard. Make sure that you think things through and you are acting with a full handle on everything and all the facts.
If you need to leave -- I would recommend waiting until you are not pregnant to interview. The problem isn't about getting the job -- but what kind of maternity leave would you get? Second, if you don't like to practice -- have you considered in house jobs? www.lawcrossing.com
is a paid service, but it advertises jobs for people with legal degrees.
If you want to pm me -- feel free. Take care.